Speed Dating

[squash500]

Further to this point: If you are a decent looking, semi-successful man who can carry a conversation, you can often go to these events for free - particularly if you talk to the organizers and let them get to know you. There is a severe lack of men willing to admit they need help finding a date or willing to pay for dating services (yet they're willing to pay for escorts... LOL!)

I've been a repeat "performer" (chosen by the organizers, haven't had to pay) at both speed dating and dinner dating events because I fall into their desired male demographics and am able to fulfill most of their "checklist" of traits.

Fun stuff. But honestly, many women (not all, but the majority) who go to those events are too desperate for my liking - particularly to find a husband. I don't like or want overly needy chicks and am somewhat creeped out by someone who is thinking of marriage before a first real date has even happened. That being said, the majority are relatively attractive, successful and normal. I've met a few really cool girls this way as well - you just have to be patient and know what you want going in. But I'm simply not into marriage - especially to a relative stranger - at this point.

If I were an asshole (well, that kind of asshole) I'm sure that I could string along the majority of the women at these events to "get what I want" so to speak. I'm just not into games or leading people on.

CF, as usual you are 100% correct in your assessment of the situation .

 

[Captain Fantastic]

The only thing I'll disagree with you on squash is the constant 40+ reference. I am not in that age bracket and am still apparently very desireable!

 

[squash500]

...I will have to agree with to some degree. At least half the women I went out with from speed dating were "marriage minded"...which was frustrating because at this point in life I am anything but.

The other half though were fairly even minded though...all though I would say all of them were looking for a relationship. That only makes sense though...I mean they are PAYING to meet men for heaven sake.

Exactly . There's always a catch to everything. I've learned in life that there is no "free lunch" or in this case "Dinner"---lol.

 

[squash500]

The only thing I'll disagree with you on squash is the constant 40+ reference. I am not in that age bracket and am still apparently very desireable!

Fair enough .

 

[Captain Fantastic]

...I will have to agree with to some degree. At least half the women I went out with from speed dating were "marriage minded"...which was frustrating because at this point in life I am anything but.

The other half though were fairly even minded though...all though I would say all of them were looking for a relationship. That only makes sense though...I mean they are PAYING to meet men for heaven sake.

I understand wanting a relationship - I go to them because I want a relationship on some level.

My concern are those women who are thinking about skipping past the relationship and heading straight for the church and reception (or whatever their "dream" wedding is) if not in reality, then in their marriage-crazed minds!

Seriously, you've met me for a 5-minute speed date or shared a 1 to 2 hour meal with me, how the fuck can you be thinking about marriage already? (I mean, I know I'm a catch, but really now! LOL!)

 

[Captain Fantastic]

Fair enough.

Actually, what I'm saying is that I'm surprised at how young many of these events are... 20 and 30-somethings are using these services more than older people.

I initially found that surprising because those were traditionally the go-out-and-have-fun years where you meet people "naturally".

I had always envisioned dating services to be for older (40 or 50+), desperate types - and that's simply not the case. What I've read and have been told is that people don't want to waste time searching for Mr. or Mrs. Right when they can pay to control the situation a bit more and not have to sift through as many "undesireables."

Whatever. It's all good. And fun

 

[Gyaos]

I have been thinking of trying it out I am not having any luck finding a man.

And I'm still trying to get a Japanese actress to give me a hug. 'cuz she won't let go when she does. LOL

Gyaos.

 

[Cinema Face]

I did a speed dating thing a while ago and I must say that I had a really fun evening. I met several great women.

However, I was a little disappointed in the quality of prospects.

I noticed that all the women that I got matched with were professional, intelligent, reasonably good looking but they were workaholics who didn’t have time to meet a guy and it wasn’t really a priority. It seemed that they just went to this thing out of desperation to meet somebody because the time window was closing.

I don’t know if all the women in this are like that but it seemed like it to me.

But at least I had fun.

 

[xix]

No age Barrier

Actually, what I'm saying is that I'm surprised at how young many of these events are... 20 and 30-somethings are using these services more than older people.

I initially found that surprising because those were traditionally the go-out-and-have-fun years where you meet people "naturally".

I had always envisioned dating services to be for older (40 or 50+), desperate types - and that's simply not the case. What I've read and have been told is that people don't want to waste time searching for Mr. or Mrs. Right when they can pay to control the situation a bit more and not have to sift through as many "undesireables."

Whatever. It's all good. And fun

Age has nothing to do with it. The story I told , the guy was 26 or so.
Some people at early or late age realize that meeting some naturally in the outside world uncotrolled lab is full of BS and they can't put up with it anymore.
So SD is seeing as desperation or "I am serious here, no more BS or Mind Games .... so What is it that you want or seeking? atmosphere I think.

Which is fine.