I have been seeing an SP off and on for awhile, she lives in a bad building and she has been given mixed reviews, she supposedly bought me a bday gift for me in july, said she lost her purse when she went out shopping, My gift was supposedly in her purse, i went to see her after that and her purse was at her place, she said she bought me a christmas gift but i dont know if im being played for a fool, should i forget about this sp and move on to someone else? I am thinking about buying her a xmas gift but i dont want to spend money that i dont have and get nothing in return
Some advice
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Don't "spend money that you don't have". Do spend money that you do have in whatever way makes you happy. But don't let emotions lead you to spend more than you should and absolutely beware of emotional attachment in the context of a paid relationship.
In a paid relationship... You get what you pay for. Nothing more.
If you think there is something more ask her out on an unpaid date and see if you can transition to an unpaid relationship. My bet is she won't be interested once the money stops but you never know.
In a paid relationship... You get what you pay for. Nothing more.
If you think there is something more ask her out on an unpaid date and see if you can transition to an unpaid relationship. My bet is she won't be interested once the money stops but you never know.
Certainly sounds that way, but your not obligated to buy her anything. If her service is good, continue seeing her in this manner, I wouldn't get too deeply involved. Not after that story! JMT
Take the high road and give her the benefit of doubt. It is not your wife!!.
She may have had the best intentions of buying you a birthday present (as now for Christmas), but something else came in the way (and may again; I will go out on a limb and say that many SP's are poor money planners). As long as you get good service for good money, you should be happy. And remember, you don't give gifts in order to get something in return.o
Really? Have you read what you wrote?
It's a gift...you're not supposed to expect something in return if it's truly a gift unless what you are expecting is a thank you.
If you can't afford a gift, you are in the wrong hobby.
If you believe the story about the lost purse and gift, you're in the wrong hobby.
Implying that if it was your wife, you should not give her the benefit of the doubt.
You're unwilling to give something without getting something in return says it all. You're a user plain and simple.
Lost purse and gift was in the purse? Sounds like dog ate homework. Sounds like you are suffering from the rescue syndrome. Move on. You are in danger of becoming too involved.
This sounds like the beginning of a Judge Judy case and it always goes downhill from there.
I agree with Void: if you are giving a gift there should never be any strings attached. Life gets messy when you expect something in return even if it's from a paid companion.
I agree with Void: if you are giving a gift there should never be any strings attached. Life gets messy when you expect something in return even if it's from a paid companion.
No, your logic is faulty. I meant to say, that it is not that important or serious, as he is not married to the woman.
I know a person who consistently lies to my face month after month about getting me referrals in my other business. I don't know why she insists on telling me she is going to get me a ton of them and that she is a "connector." It seems there are some people who just lie and can't help it. She is a very good person in other regards. So if this sp treats you right in other aspects, I wouldn't get hung up on this gift business but don't spend money you don't have on anyone...ever.
