booboobear said:
Now not every women's first question is what do you do but I have had it happen enough that to me it is a negative trait of a lot of women.
I certainly have no problem with people disagreeing with me but I must admit I have different viewpoints of women.
Let me let
you in on a little somethin'.....I get asked that question ALL THE TIME by all kinds of people, men and women, young and old. It's a conversation starter, it's one of those "getting to know you" type questions. It's especially the kind of question you ask the shy-lookin' quiet person or the miserable old poop sitting in the corner who hasn't said a word and looks left out! It's a way of showing that they potentially take an interest in you as a human being.
It's usually one of the first things I grab for when looking for something to say to someone new that I'll be spending some time with because, well, that's how people usually start conversations with me. To tell you the truth, I always was (and still am to some extent) the shy one and was really bad at coming out and getting to know people. You know who taught me the ol' "so, whaddya do for a living?" bit? My ex-boyfriend, who is quite good at friendly banter.
I'm not sure if what you're assuming is the persistent old stain of a belief that all women are after your money, but to tell you the truth my conversation skills always falter when someone's response is "actually, I'm a stock broker" or "I run a bank" or anything to do with money and making money as a primary goal. I find myself grasping at things like "Oh, really, and does that subsidize a passion of some kind? What are you interested in really?" and when they just look at me quizzically and say "Well, I'm interested in money" I get all like "Uh? Well, that's....yes, er.....fascinating (long awkward pause) Do you know where the bathroom is?" I don't dislike them as people, it's just that I don't know what to say to that, it just isn't something I can feign interest in. Does that set your mind at ease at all, knowing that there are women who think this way? Or was there something else about a woman asking about what you do that gets to you?
I get the sense that Tompeepin hit on somthing pretty close there. Perhaps you have some bad feelings happening about yourself and sort of take some pre-emptive jabs at certain groups to do what you perceive as "evening the score" a little, because you predict rejection or you see rejection where there isn't any or you take rejection far too seriously (after all, if a woman isn't interested she's may not necessarily be rejecting you, she just isn't interested).
Of course, if a guy talks about women to me the way you have, darn straight I'd be "rejecting" him.....about as much as you would reject a woman who said a whole lot of "I like men, but they're all so greedy and stupid, you know?" all the time. Just relax and let the frustration and the stereotypes and scapegoating go. You'll feel a lot better, trust me. (I get pissed whenever my mum tries to bait me into a man-bashing fest because frankly I think it's just self-indulgent negative garbage-thinking and it makes me feel like crap about the world).
