sex drive

[jw01]

so im writing here again, with regards to sex drive in women.

my gf has been on a intense diet, eating just cereal and fibre bars and fruits (apples or bananas) as her primary meals, while either working 7hrs or gyming 2-3hrs a day. shes is often starving herself while going to bed.

she has no desire to do anything, and just wants to look perfect! i stated she is getting implants and she's extremely excited/nervous at the same time.

now, is this low sex drive, being tired and not wanting to have sex or be engaged into it this much totally right? ive tried everything to make her feel better, daily massage (feet and back), trying to make her eat, practically everything u can imagine i do to make her feel gud bout herelf (buying her stff etc) but she's not very giving in return. now we'r not married and been dating for 4 yrs and see each other everyday. she has no friends bc of them backstabbing her a year+ ago so im practically her best friend etc.

recently shes been desperate for making a friend cause she's with me 24.7 and in order to care and for her to show more affection, she needs to miss me but bc she has nothing else to do, im always chilling with her, which i dont mind, but i dont get much affection/love in return.

now what can i do to help the situation? ive told her ill leave for a week cause my family wants to go on vacation, but she keeps saying, dont leave me alone, ill be so bored w.o you but at times, she tells me she needs space but we end up always hanging out (with a bare mininum amount of pecking and hugging).

is there any vitamin pills or sumthing i should give to her to make up for the lack of nutrients she doesnt get which really offsets her mood, why she is tired etc. its all understanding, but is it normal for a female have her sex drive decrease bc of these reasons? i tend to push it at times wanting sex, but i try hard to do eveyrthing for her and told her i enjoy the sex with her but she is often tired and doesnt feel super great about herself.

so is there any vitamins or pills or anything i can give her so she can get the right amount of nutrients in her body/brain to think? she's very frustrated with herself and i will book her a session with a selfimage/eating therapist.

your help is appreciated. thxs guys.

 

[golffan17]

Well, I remember you from your last thread.

I was going to write on it, however, what I had to say was all covered in people's responses anyway. I appears you have ignored most responses.

Most women's sex drives are fine. Nothing wrong with them. They like it ofairly frequently. Maybe she's getting it from someone else? or that spark that no linger seems to exist in your relationship i gong with no hope of returning.

Sorry if I have to be that blunt. You don't seem like someone who'd get it if I tired to tell you politely.

 

[Questor]

i will book her a session with a selfimage/eating therapist.

Good. I know you mean well, but she needs to fix herself. You can't fix her. She is not your child. Go away for a week at least, as you suggested. Being bored won't kill her.

 

[Ironhead]

she has no desire to do anything, and just wants to look perfect! i stated she is getting implants and she's extremely excited/nervous at the same time.

Dude don't do the implant thing just ...

GET THE FUCK OUT ASAP !!!!!!!!!

 

[Cycleguy007]

Most women's sex drives are fine. Nothing wrong with them. They like to "O" fairly frequently.

Define "fairly" often? Once a month, Once a week? Once a day? Or several times/ day?

To the OP... see IronHead's advice:

Dude don't do the implant thing just... GET THE FUCK OUT ASAP!!!!!!!!!

I also remember you from your last thread... This girl clearly has obsession issues, (amongst other things!) and since YOU are not the object of her obsession, I say time to move on...

Just my nickels worth...

 

[thetank]

so im writing here again, with regards to sex drive in women.

my gf has been on a intense diet, eating just cereal and fibre bars and fruits (apples or bananas) as her primary meals, while either working 7hrs or gyming 2-3hrs a day. shes is often starving herself while going to bed.

she has no desire to do anything, and just wants to look perfect! i stated she is getting implants and she's extremely excited/nervous at the same time.

now, is this low sex drive, being tired and not wanting to have sex or be engaged into it this much totally right? ive tried everything to make her feel better, daily massage (feet and back), trying to make her eat, practically everything u can imagine i do to make her feel gud bout herelf (buying her stff etc) but she's not very giving in return. now we'r not married and been dating for 4 yrs and see each other everyday. she has no friends bc of them backstabbing her a year+ ago so im practically her best friend etc.

recently shes been desperate for making a friend cause she's with me 24.7 and in order to care and for her to show more affection, she needs to miss me but bc she has nothing else to do, im always chilling with her, which i dont mind, but i dont get much affection/love in return.

now what can i do to help the situation? ive told her ill leave for a week cause my family wants to go on vacation, but she keeps saying, dont leave me alone, ill be so bored w.o you but at times, she tells me she needs space but we end up always hanging out (with a bare mininum amount of pecking and hugging).

is there any vitamin pills or sumthing i should give to her to make up for the lack of nutrients she doesnt get which really offsets her mood, why she is tired etc. its all understanding, but is it normal for a female have her sex drive decrease bc of these reasons? i tend to push it at times wanting sex, but i try hard to do eveyrthing for her and told her i enjoy the sex with her but she is often tired and doesnt feel super great about herself.

so is there any vitamins or pills or anything i can give her so she can get the right amount of nutrients in her body/brain to think? she's very frustrated with herself and i will book her a session with a selfimage/eating therapist.

your help is appreciated. thxs guys.

You can't fix this kind of obsession. It could be so extreme as to be pathological. Doctor's refer to this type of excessive exercise-induced weight loss as bulimia. I am NOT giving you a diagnosis, but you should consider the possiblity that she needs to see a doctor.

Personally, I would be calling her an saying "Welcome to Splitsville. Population you." I, of course, do not know your situation.

 

[ready2rock]

so im writing here again, with regards to sex drive in women.

my gf has been on a intense diet, eating just cereal and fibre bars and fruits (apples or bananas) as her primary meals, while either working 7hrs or gyming 2-3hrs a day. shes is often starving herself while going to bed.

she has no desire to do anything, and just wants to look perfect! i stated she is getting implants and she's extremely excited/nervous at the same time.

now, is this low sex drive, being tired and not wanting to have sex or be engaged into it this much totally right? ive tried everything to make her feel better, daily massage (feet and back), trying to make her eat, practically everything u can imagine i do to make her feel gud bout herelf (buying her stff etc) but she's not very giving in return. now we'r not married and been dating for 4 yrs and see each other everyday. she has no friends bc of them backstabbing her a year+ ago so im practically her best friend etc.

recently shes been desperate for making a friend cause she's with me 24.7 and in order to care and for her to show more affection, she needs to miss me but bc she has nothing else to do, im always chilling with her, which i dont mind, but i dont get much affection/love in return.

now what can i do to help the situation? ive told her ill leave for a week cause my family wants to go on vacation, but she keeps saying, dont leave me alone, ill be so bored w.o you but at times, she tells me she needs space but we end up always hanging out (with a bare mininum amount of pecking and hugging).

is there any vitamin pills or sumthing i should give to her to make up for the lack of nutrients she doesnt get which really offsets her mood, why she is tired etc. its all understanding, but is it normal for a female have her sex drive decrease bc of these reasons? i tend to push it at times wanting sex, but i try hard to do eveyrthing for her and told her i enjoy the sex with her but she is often tired and doesnt feel super great about herself.

so is there any vitamins or pills or anything i can give her so she can get the right amount of nutrients in her body/brain to think? she's very frustrated with herself and i will book her a session with a selfimage/eating therapist.

your help is appreciated. thxs guys.

It's time to break up with her. Sounds like she's getting into shape & wants the implants for someone else - not you. Does she already have some other guy on the side? Probably not yet. Sounds like she might have some self-image / confidence issues and wants to resolve them on her own. Is she coming up on a major birthday - like 40 or 50? I know a lot of people who have made major life decisions / changes when they turned 40.

Get out before you get hurt too badly

 

[shack]

Doctor's refer to this type of excessive exercise-induced weight loss as bulimia.

I suggest you refer to a dictionary.

 

[jw01]

It's time to break up with her. Sounds like she's getting into shape & wants the implants for someone else - not you. Does she already have some other guy on the side? Probably not yet. Sounds like she might have some self-image / confidence issues and wants to resolve them on her own. Is she coming up on a major birthday - like 40 or 50? I know a lot of people who have made major life decisions / changes when they turned 40.

Get out before you get hurt too badly

well im young at 25 and shes 21, so we'r fairly young. she's just really wierd around me and i guess that sexual tension and feeling that was there has for some odd reason dissolved into thin air, randomly outta the blue one day. i keep thinking its her diet but i guess thats me being naiive and she just wants to be with someone else or try something else. she's a lost cause, ive given up on her and she's so dam confusion. i want to take a break and the minute i dont call her, she panics and freaks out, and when i am with her, im like her best friend, minus the fact i get barely any action, once a week lol its a joke. maybe im a too nice and gotta be a rude ass to her, but seeing what shes been through and how anal she is, i cant lower myself to her level. but yeah, life is funny and ppl you least expect to hurt you, find ways to neglect you and hurt you in more ways than possible lol my mom said maybe im being naiive to think ppl actually care back!!

i blame myself for taking shit from her for the past few years and she's just spoilt by me now so really i guess im the one to blame.

but im just figuring out, is her starving and not eating and having these image issues (her brain not getting sufficient amount of food/nutrients) a valid reason for the way she acts? thats what i keep thinking and satisfying myself by saying that lol. she just needs a taste of reality and that no1 really gives a fuck about her, she needs her karma i guess.

 

[Questor]

lol my mom said maybe im being naiive to think ppl actually care back!!

Didn't think I'd ever say this, especially here on terb, but you should listen to your mom.

i blame myself for taking shit from her for the past few years and she's just spoilt by me now so really i guess im the one to blame.

At last you are starting to make sense.

but im just figuring out, is her starving and not eating and having these image issues (her brain not getting sufficient amount of food/nutrients) a valid reason for the way she acts?

Yes, her diet is a contributing factor. But you seem to be catching on to the fact that its more complicated than that. There is your own behavior, and also stuff she is bringing to the situation that has nothing to do with nutrition.

she just needs a taste of reality and that no1 really gives a fuck about her, she needs her karma i guess.

Now you are sounding bitter. Well, I guess that is to be expected. But one minute you are sounding devoted to her and in love, the next minute, no one gives a fuck about her? Sounds like your own stuff coming out here.

Anyway, I think you are moving in the right direction here. You need to stop being a wimp, and look after yourself. Not to the point of selfishness. But this relationship has gone really wonky on you. Get out while you can. Good luck.