Seeking arrangements

[Tony2000]

Hey, a bit late to the party, and haven't read all the posts, but here's my $0.02:
Been in a SA relationship for a few months now. It's my second one - the first was decent but the ppm was pretty high in my mind. The tradeoff was she was young, hot, and the sex was amazing.
The second one has honestly been mind-blowing. We click in most regards, which makes the SB concept more appealing for me than going to an SP.
We are ppm but it's pretty fluid, if we meet more than once a week then it's usually a smaller amount for the second meeting. While it is still transactional, she's never even asked for the money - one time I almost left without leaving it, and I had the feeling she probably wouldn't have said anything.
The only downside is that is feels like it might be trending towards a relationship, which would spell disaster, but so far she's on board with the fact that I'm not leaving my situation.
I had to go through a bunch of conversations on SA before finding each of these, but it wasn't overly taxing for me... for most it was pretty clear right away that it wasn't going to work. What I like about it is that it's upfront in terms of what both sides are looking for, so it's easy to get straight to things like expectations and desires.
Based on what I spend vs what I get in return I'm totally satisfied with the SA relationship. Of course that won't be everybody's experience, but here's hoping it works for you!

If the sex is amazing, I would stick with her! I had a couple of previous long-term arrangements that were great.
My current one has been going for a couple of months and it's just OK. I am thinking about moving on because I would like to recapture the amazing experience from my previous ones.
I have to admit that sorting through the profiles and having coffee is a pain but I may be at that point soon.

 

[Tony2000]

I have had 4 such arrangements, but from a different website. Never discussed money before hand, or asked for a deposit. Met all 4 for a coffee to see if there was any chemistry. (have met more then 4, but no chemistry with the others so it cost me a coffee or a few drinks depending on the person). It's basically like going on a date, but there is money involved. Age ranges were 32-23. Like a first date you feel each other out, see if there is some chemistry, and both afraid to ask about $. I've always stuck is PPM. It's ranged from 300-100. Obviouusly the hotter the more $. Now for me the higher the $ signs the lest the chemistry. Like any relationship YMMV. You have some SB, that are only about $ and those who are struggling and new $. SO, like any dating website, you'll find your jewels, and the opposite. Every relationship is different, just like normal dating. My advice is, never pay upfront, but never short change the lady. My 2 cents.

Which website did you use?

 

[Hurricane Hank]

Been on and off Seeking for a few years.
Found some gems. Been ghosted on as well.
Had an amazing 2.5 year exclusive arrangement / friendship with a single mom.
Currently seeing another on a PPM basis. Great sex, never in a hurry. Spend 2 or 3 hours together.@$350.

 

[Uniforms Please]

Been on and off Seeking for a few years.
Found some gems. Been ghosted on as well.
Had an amazing 2.5 year exclusive arrangement / friendship with a single mom.
Currently seeing another on a PPM basis. Great sex, never in a hurry. Spend 2 or 3 hours together.@$350.

Sounds like a good one, enjoy it for as long as you can.

 

[Charlemagne]

Is Ashley Madison good for someone who just wants to bang milfs? Even if you're not married yourself?

 

[Tony2000]

Is Ashley Madison good for someone who just wants to bang milfs? Even if you're not married yourself?

I think Ashley Madison is 90 percent men. So it's a long shot.
I have met a few married women over the years and they mostly wanted attention, not necessarily sex.

 

[G.D. Gentleman]

Is Ashley Madison good for someone who just wants to bang milfs? Even if you're not married yourself?

AM is full of scammers. Gave it a try this year in the late summer for a few weeks, simply I was curious.

Complete waste of time/money. If you do want to try it expect to spend around $100-150 to have a decent amount of credits to message ladies, knowing 50-80% of the time you will figure out they are scammers and you have wasted your credits.

To be clear, each new contact/conversation you start takes 9 credits from what you purchased or something like that. If you don't find the setting right away, each message you send will be set to 'priority message' and another 5 credits. I think it's like $1 per credit roughly depending how many you buy.

It's not like seeking where you pay for 'unlimited emailing' (best way to describe it compared to AM) for 30 days at a time.

 

[ScrubsFan]

I got a chick that hit me up from chicago and wanted me to come over or for me to pay for her ticket. She agreed to meeting halfway and has been sending nudes constantly these past 2 days. She has that slutty secretary look and a body that's 9/10 but at the same time I don't want my organs stolen in Chicago lol

 

[Uniforms Please]

What are some good discussion points on initial meeting for coffee? Want to learn if their is a future, but do not want to turn it into 20 questions.

 

[ScrubsFan]

This sounds like a scammer. I would be weary.

Get coffee. See how it goes. I had two arrangements that lasted a while where we just hooked up on the first meet.

My advice is to chat for awhile. If they are eager to meet that maybe a warning sign. Also a few of them will ask for money last minute or hit you up for rent money the day before the meet.

You can also figure out who they are as a lot of them link their cell number to their ig. You can see if they are real. I didnt meet a few sbs after viewing their ig profile.

Maybe, don't have her #, just been talking to her over snap and she constantly sends nudes asking me to come meet her lol. Still skeptical tho

 

[NiceToMeetYou]

Maybe, don't have her #, just been talking to her over snap and she constantly sends nudes asking me to come meet her lol. Still skeptical tho

It's definitely a scam. Stay safe and get a girl locally is the best bet.

 

[oral.com]

Maybe, don't have her #, just been talking to her over snap and she constantly sends nudes asking me to come meet her lol. Still skeptical tho

She’s probably playing this grif on multiple guys. Eventually she will need you to send her some cash so she can get to you. I’ve played along with this one before, it gets irritating after a while.

 

[ScrubsFan]

She’s probably playing this grif on multiple guys. Eventually she will need you to send her some cash so she can get to you. I’ve played along with this one before, it gets irritating after a while.

I'll take the free nudes but I ain't sending anything to Chicago lol

 

[ScrubsFan]

I feel I have a easier time finding submissive chicks on here than on tinder

 

[ScrubsFan]

This is very true. Most of the submissive women i met have been through sa. I think it also is due to them knowing you better. I have met a few submissive sps but they have been submissive after a few meets.

The only SP i met who was submissive right off the bat was blair from TGF. One of my best sessions to date, but with SA I'm really blunt with my approach. I have it on my description that I'm looking for a sub and I message ppl asking for a fwb and if they're not a sub were not gonna be a good match. Id say 4/10 ladies respond back who are submissive and we usually settle on 200-250 per meet.

 

[GeeBee]

I had success with another site, Sec.Ben, but only after a mountain of bullshit and fake profiles. I was just about to cut my losses and give up when I got lucky. Saw her for almost a year and it was worth every penny. Single mom who needed some spare cash and a FWB with no strings when her daughter was with the ex. She had a regular job and a few bills to pay, and the sex was fantastic!! More often than not she was just as horny as I was. 300 PPM, saw her about once a week. After a few hotel evenings we eventually ended up using her place all the time.

We met for coffee first to make sure we were both real. A girl on these sites can be just as wary of being scammed, or worse, than you are. If she's too eager that's a red flag for me, just like an indy SP who has no screening at all.

BTW has anyone had an issue using pre-paid credit cards on either SB or SA? I used to use one but now they won't work. After the AM hack a few years ago I'm not too eager to give any of these sites my CC info.

 

[GeeBee]

BTW, don't use your phone or text. Use a message app like KIK that's completely anonymous. If she's serious about your privacy and hers she'll be fine with it.

 

[oral.com]

I had success with another site, Sec.Ben, but only after a mountain of bullshit and fake profiles. I was just about to cut my losses and give up when I got lucky. Saw her for almost a year and it was worth every penny. Single mom who needed some spare cash and a FWB with no strings when her daughter was with the ex. She had a regular job and a few bills to pay, and the sex was fantastic!! More often than not she was just as horny as I was. 300 PPM, saw her about once a week. After a few hotel evenings we eventually ended up using her place all the time.

We met for coffee first to make sure we were both real. A girl on these sites can be just as wary of being scammed, or worse, than you are. If she's too eager that's a red flag for me, just like an indy SP who has no screening at all.

BTW has anyone had an issue using pre-paid credit cards on either SB or SA? I used to use one but now they won't work. After the AM hack a few years ago I'm not too eager to give any of these sites my CC info.

I’ve only used pre-paid cards and never had an issue. Nice find! I have used both. SDM and SA. SDM dates were always better. SA has more girls, SDM fewer scammers. (My experience)

 

[GeeBee]

I’ve only used pre-paid cards and never had an issue. Nice find! I have used both. SDM and SA. SDM dates were always better. SA has more girls, SDM fewer scammers. (My experience)

Thanks for the info. Yeah I consider myself fortunate to have found that situation, doubt I'll find something that good again but I'll give SDM a try once Covid is sorted out. I see that they accept PayPal too, so that's another layer of anonymity.

 

[daddy88]

Pre Covid I fucked 16 girls dated well over 30+ of them all from SA. Yes it does take time, try not to pressure them too to much but always ask if they are into anything nonplatonic. I personally don't push them into it if they say no to it just so I don't waste time convincing.

I am naturally socially awkward to the point where it is completely debilitating. I rarely go out (pre covid). Even doing something like getting my haircut, going to a bar, or going to a company event completely drains me. I blame it on my fucked up childhood and abusive parents who force me to focus on work and live in their own reality of what their son has to be, but that's another story...

My PPM has ranged from $200-$500 depending on certain things. I did one night stands for 9 girls as I felt that they were, non responsive, unenthusiastic, one acted like some SP, and physically not my taste. Save yourselves a headache and get textnow, kik, snapchat or whatever. Also don't think I need to remind you all but please get yourselves checked regularly if you do this, if you can afford it do it via LetsGetChecked.

Now my awesome experiences ohh boy. I am a variety kind of guy so I am attracted to colleges girls all the way to 40+ year old MILFS. I especially like college girls that are relatively new to Toronto just so I can take them out on dates around the area, places they never seen before etc. I have my own kinks and fetishes so the more the lady is into it the more I am willing to see her again. I dig dressing them up rather provocative or revealing clothing like dresses and stuff, hot public make out sessions and teasing.

Sugaring basically put me at the point of not giving a fuck and making strangers peeking around uncomfortable as fuck. Now the fun stuff I do with them, I made a few girls wear a phone app controlled vibrator in public, which I love fucking around with specifically when we got out. Others include car sex in some parking lot or just discreet public sex in general. I'm not really into pain or things like that but I do prefer girls that are submissive and vocal when we fuck.

By far the wildest one is a girl who has some broke as boyfriend and I came in her mouth after fucking her. She met up with her boyfriend afterwards and I told her to go makeout with him without washing the cum out of her mouth and face. I saw the whole damn thing