Screwed up and sent a message to the wrong people, what do I do?

yguns31

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So I screwed up royally yesterday. I was messaging an SP that I had not seen in a long time. My first mistake was I was using my own number when doing this. But as I was trying to message her, I inadvertently sent one of the messages to a Facebook group of acquaintances instead. My message was along the lines of "Hi, I don't know if you remember me, but it's [MY NAME]. We tried to get together at [XXX] before. Are you available tomorrow?"

Is there a way I can come up with an excuse for this message? What kind of damage control can I do here? I'm worried this will get around to other people in my circle of friends.
 

kkelso

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So I screwed up royally yesterday. I was messaging an SP that I had not seen in a long time. My first mistake was I was using my own number when doing this. But as I was trying to message her, I inadvertently sent one of the messages to a Facebook group of acquaintances instead. My message was along the lines of "Hi, I don't know if you remember me, but it's [MY NAME]. We tried to get together at [XXX] before. Are you available tomorrow?"

Is there a way I can come up with an excuse for this message? What kind of damage control can I do here? I'm worried this will get around to other people in my circle of friends.
If that was the exact text of the message then it's pretty simple. Wait a day then send a message to the same group of friends, laugh at your mistake, and asking if any of them know a good chiropractor/accountant/physical therapist, etc. Whatever might fit the message you sent.

You could also set up a fake FB account and reply to your message as a legitimate business provider, but I don't know enough about FB messaging to know if that would fly.

Good luck - KK
 

MissCroft

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It doesn't sound like you said anything particularly damning i.e. you didn't say anything of a sexual nature. I once accidentally texted my mom that I couldn't wait to ride her.
 

Ginomore

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If they ask just say that it’s your chiropractor/physical therapist/dentist/psychiatrist.
 

wonkyknee

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I had a feeling that was an SP message! I got it yesterday. Yguns31, I can't believe its you? :)
 

essguy_

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So I screwed up royally yesterday. I was messaging an SP that I had not seen in a long time. My first mistake was I was using my own number when doing this. But as I was trying to message her, I inadvertently sent one of the messages to a Facebook group of acquaintances instead. My message was along the lines of "Hi, I don't know if you remember me, but it's [MY NAME]. We tried to get together at [XXX] before. Are you available tomorrow?"

Is there a way I can come up with an excuse for this message? What kind of damage control can I do here? I'm worried this will get around to other people in my circle of friends.

The best excuse would be to resend to the group with a further explanation: "the lab test results came back for that itch I've been having. We need to talk." That ensures that nobody will discuss it, at least in front of you.
 

D-Fens

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If you didn't say anything of a sexual nature you have absolutely nothing to worry about. Your message sounds totally innocent. It just sounds like you are trying to get together with someone, and that someone could be anyone really. There is nothing that really indicates the person you are trying to meet is an sp.
 

yguns31

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I had a feeling that was an SP message! I got it yesterday. Yguns31, I can't believe its you? :)
Gah!

In all seriousness, thanks for the responses. I guess I was a little paranoid when I saw that the message went to the wrong recipient. I'm between explaining that it was meant for a chiropractor or a headhunter.
 

Mr Bret

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So I screwed up royally yesterday. I was messaging an SP that I had not seen in a long time. My first mistake was I was using my own number when doing this. But as I was trying to message her, I inadvertently sent one of the messages to a Facebook group of acquaintances instead. My message was along the lines of "Hi, I don't know if you remember me, but it's [MY NAME]. We tried to get together at [XXX] before. Are you available tomorrow?"

Is there a way I can come up with an excuse for this message? What kind of damage control can I do here? I'm worried this will get around to other people in my circle of friends.
Great suggestions so far.
The only concern might be if the XXX you mentioned is clearly the name of an agency.
 

essguy_

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Gah!

In all seriousness, thanks for the responses. I guess I was a little paranoid when I saw that the message went to the wrong recipient. I'm between explaining that it was meant for a chiropractor or a headhunter.
Well, just make sure that you have a real chiropractor or head hunter on file, in case anybody else in your facebook friend group has a sore back or wants a career change and asks for a number.
 

shack

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IMO, "Hi, I don't know if you remember me, but it's [MY NAME]. We tried to get together at [XXX] before. Are you available tomorrow?" does not in any way sound like a message one would send to any professional. A head hunter, who you are not sure remembers you, yet you give no particulars of why you want to get together? Sorry, the attempts were decent but if you need a solid story, I don't think those cut it. Also, I am not sure of your job situation, but this makes public that you are unhappy with your job.

And who has direct personal numbers of their chiropractor/physical therapist/dentist/psychiatrist, yet they would not be sure of who you are. Like I said, it depends on how solid your story needs to be.
 

managee

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So I screwed up royally yesterday. I was messaging an SP that I had not seen in a long time. My first mistake was I was using my own number when doing this. But as I was trying to message her, I inadvertently sent one of the messages to a Facebook group of acquaintances instead. My message was along the lines of "Hi, I don't know if you remember me, but it's [MY NAME]. We tried to get together at [XXX] before. Are you available tomorrow?"

Is there a way I can come up with an excuse for this message? What kind of damage control can I do here? I'm worried this will get around to other people in my circle of friends.
That sucks, but it might be salvageable.

For “xxx” are we talking an address to a condo or home or a hotel?

Without too many details, what are we talking about here.

Chiros don’t tend to work out of hotels, but RMT’s pretty regularly work out of condos.
 

D-Fens

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it just sounds like a message you'd send to a woman who you are trying to set up a date with that's all. You said nothing of a sexual nature, no discussion of rates, or servcies you just wanted to get together with someone that's it. There is nothing illegal or nefarious about it.

Seriously chill out. Unless you are married or have a gf what are you worried about? So people aren't allowed to hookup now?
 

yguns31

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That sucks, but it might be salvageable.

For “xxx” are we talking an address to a condo or home or a hotel?

Without too many details, what are we talking about here.

Chiros don’t tend to work out of hotels, but RMT’s pretty regularly work out of condos.
It was supposed to be at her place. Here is the full message, with my name removed.

"Hi, I don't know if you remember me, it's [MY NAME]. We tried to get together at your place before. Are you available tomorrow?"

I'm leaning towards saying that it's a headhunter that is referred by a family friend, so that could explain away the informal introductions. "We tried to get together at your place before" is going to be problematic to explain though.
 

essguy_

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It was supposed to be at her place. Here is the full message, with my name removed.

"Hi, I don't know if you remember me, it's [MY NAME]. We tried to get together at your place before. Are you available tomorrow?"

I'm leaning towards saying that it's a headhunter that is referred by a family friend, so that could explain away the informal introductions. "We tried to get together at your place before" is going to be problematic to explain though.
Just tell people it was an old high school friend who you ran into a year ago and forgot to get together.
 

oil&gas

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Why not just say the message was about a private lomi lomi (or tantra)
massage appointment? Massage can be 100% legitimate. Only a filthy
mind would associate it with some sexual services.
 
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