Saying “I love you.” during a session with an SP.

[_Melissa]

This can definitely be awkward! I’m left wondering if he means it or if he was just caught up in the moment. If it is he former then what’s a girl to do about that?

In my opinion love is thrown around quite loosely these days and has lost some of the significance in the meaning. In the past most people never dared utter the words until absolutely certain. Now a days people associate love with lust quite often.

 

[yermama]

I had not known if it was appropriate to even say "I miss you" to an escort until two weeks ago when the girl said it first.

 

[The "Bone" Ranger]

I have said a lot worse and never had any issues with any of the SPs I have seen

 

[yermama]

I think your looks would make a difference too.

If a young escort hears "I love you" from a guy who seems
- young and acts awkwardly, there would definitely be warning bells going off in her head.
- successful in life (clothes, body type, etc.), she would probably be more accepting.
- really old, who cares, he will die soon anyway.

 

[canman1]

Just a heads up guys - I know many escorts who will stop seeing a client for using the "L" word.

Many of us just get creeped out even if you don't think you are being creepy. Why? You don't love us. Not even remotely close to loving us. You love the way we make you feel. That is what makes a great escort but please don't kid yourselves. It is not love. Not by any stretch of the imagination.

So under the same idea, a client should stop seeing an escort, if she says "I love you".

When you are with an escort, it can be anything from a total bore, to a hot and heavy session. You could be seeing an escort, on a particular day, and end up giving her what she needs. Those words may come out of her mouth, at the end of the session. I have heard them a few times, and just take it as a compliment, nothing more. So before you say it is creepy. Think about the session, you may have produced it, by your own actions. It does take two to tango. (lol)

 

[shakenbake]

totally inappropriate in a session - IMO. most of the guys we see are married or have girlfriends so when someone says I love you & it has happened to me I let them know that it is a powerful word and should not be used out of context. I simply tell them they LIKE me not LOVE me lmao or that they love my body. If you are comfortable saying it - all the power to you ; but I would make sure the sp is ok with it first.

Bear in mind that there are more than one kind of love. The Greeks have more than one word for love, agape between two friends and Eros for intense sexual love. I love my friends, agape. I love my wife, Eros and agape. Even the Italians have two words for love, amare (spousal) and other love (voler bene). Too bad, the English language is not that rich.

 

[Jasmine Raine]

So under the same idea, a client should stop seeing an escort, if she says "I love you".

When you are with an escort, it can be anything from a total bore, to a hot and heavy session. You could be seeing an escort, on a particular day, and end up giving her what she needs. Those words may come out of her mouth, at the end of the session. I have heard them a few times, and just take it as a compliment, nothing more. So before you say it is creepy. Think about the session, you may have produced it, by your own actions. It does take two to tango. (lol)

I know many clients who would stop seeing an escort if she said I love you as well.

I don't know why it is so hard to believe that two sides of a paid transaction may feel it inappropriate for the other party to profess love. You may not, but some do.

As for the "I produced it" .... Escorts didn't produce anything but a service. Don't get it confused.

 

[witt19800]

It's all a fantasy and you can say whatever you want as long as it's nice.

 

[Parker@TDL]

Meh, doesn't sound like a big deal. I don't take things too seriously so it wouldn't phase me much. If they were actually declaring their love for me, and made it known that they meant it, then I would stop seeing them. I wouldn't want to lead them on or encourage an unhealthy obsession to take place.

 

[canman1]

I know many clients who would stop seeing an escort if she said I love you as well.

I don't know why it is so hard to believe that two sides of a paid transaction may feel it inappropriate for the other party to profess love. You may not, but some do.

As for the "I produced it" .... Escorts didn't produce anything but a service. Don't get it confused.

A lot of clients would see it as just a comment. Not a professing of real love.
You are correct, escorts are just a service. Yet on rare occasions, it is the escort who is being serviced, by the actual paying client.
So within this paid transaction world, basically anything can happen. It is what can make it more interesting, then what usually occurs.

 

[sempel]

"You are the best", "You are so big", "You are my favorite" - means nothing coming from the lady. "I love you" falls into same category. Sure, a small number of obsessed nuts will mean it to the point of going crazy but for majority it's just an emotional reaction. Just like I'm sure in a few rare cases, the lady's comments are genuine.

 

[havingfun]

"You are the best", "You are so big", "You are my favorite" - means nothing coming from the lady. "I love you" falls into same category. Sure, a small number of obsessed nuts will mean it to the point of going crazy but for majority it's just an emotional reaction. Just like I'm sure in a few rare cases, the lady's comments are genuine.

I am devastated. You're saying they really didn't mean those things.

 

[Jasmine Raine]

A lot of clients would see it as just a comment. Not a professing of real love.
You are correct, escorts are just a service. Yet on rare occasions, it is the escort who is being serviced, by the actual paying client.
So within this paid transaction world, basically anything can happen. It is what can make it more interesting, then what usually occurs.

Why ask me a question when you refuse to accept the answer given. LOL.

No - YOU would see it as just a comment. But not every client is like YOU.

And services offered by an escort are not just limited to her sucking your dick. If the "service" you like is DATY then no it is not you servicing her, it is still her servicing you. That is a thread for another day. But you can get caught up on reading. HINT; giving as SP an orgasm is not you doing her a favour either. Just putting that out there.

Lastly, Again, I don't know why this is so hard to understand and why this is turning into some type of on going debate between us.

You like hearing it or saying it. Fine. Do you boo. But not everyone, not even half are on the same page as you. Which is also fine. All I did was warning that some women will indeed stop seeing clients for it. So say it at your own risk.

Personally I would take it a step further and not make or possibly make others uncomfortable with inappropriate behaviour but I guess that is why I am the professional and you are the client. I think about the feelings of others, not just my own.

Anyway- I am done with this topic. It is not a debate, your opinion is yours, I disagree. EOD for me.

 

[Samranchoi]

Some words are best unsaid. And feelings of love are best controlled. However, what makes the whole SP/client relationship perfect, is when the aforementioned is realized and both parties are able to express themselves freely and enjoy the session to its fullest with no awkwardness between them. My session today was absolutely perfect. It started with a look, some kissing and caressing, disrobing of our clothes, a sensual shower for two, her drying my back, some more intense kissing which graduated to a beautiful session of satisfaction for both. No words said during the whole time. Just two people enjoying each other like two long lost lovers. Perfect. Perfect. Perfect. Afterwards, while holding each other some talking about what is going on in our lives. Then another shower and again she dried me off. Got dressed and a hug and a few kisses at the door. Not heavy kisses but rather can't wait to see you again soon kisses. But most importantly, the eye contact never went away. Why even risk ruining a beautiful session by saying something

 

[John_15]

Just tell them “island view” it sounds the same and see their reaction first lol

 

[sweetiepieexo]

As other ladies have stated in this thread - we find it totally inappropriate. We provide an illusion that we are your girlfriend for the amount of time you " rent" ( sorry if this offends anyone - but couldn't find another word) us for. I once had a regular who used to bring me snacks and energy drinks every time he came to see me. After three months or so he started using the "L" word and saying he loves me more than his wife. I told him it was inappropriate and that he likes me and my service not LOVES me .After a while he started feeling entitled - asking for discounts ; telling me were friends and then he even started sending me lengthy messages saying I don't know why you get mad at me I thought we had a relationship. I'm sure I don't have to say that I had to stop seeing him because he became obsessed. LOL. I think that if you were doing roleplay its ok but if its unexpected it could result in you being blacklisted or rushed sessions.

Bear in mind that there are more than one kind of love. The Greeks have more than one word for love, agape between two friends and Eros for intense sexual love. I love my friends, agape. I love my wife, Eros and agape. Even the Italians have two words for love, amare (spousal) and other love (voler bene). Too bad, the English language is not that rich.

 

[sweetiepieexo]

Bam! Nailed it ! * mic drop*

why ask me a question when you refuse to accept the answer given. Lol.

No - you would see it as just a comment. But not every client is like you.

And services offered by an escort are not just limited to her sucking your dick. If the "service" you like is daty then no it is not you servicing her, it is still her servicing you. That is a thread for another day. But you can get caught up on reading. Hint; giving as sp an orgasm is not you doing her a favour either. Just putting that out there.

Lastly, again, i don't know why this is so hard to understand and why this is turning into some type of on going debate between us.

You like hearing it or saying it. Fine. Do you boo. But not everyone, not even half are on the same page as you. Which is also fine. All i did was warning that some women will indeed stop seeing clients for it. So say it at your own risk.

Personally i would take it a step further and not make or possibly make others uncomfortable with inappropriate behaviour but i guess that is why i am the professional and you are the client. I think about the feelings of others, not just my own.

Anyway- i am done with this topic. It is not a debate, your opinion is yours, i disagree. Eod of me.

 

[Scarey]

Agreed .Not what you should be saying in a paid environment. Having said that, the next SP that calls me "daddy" unsolicited is going to be finishing my dishes and taking out the garbage before she leaves.....

 

[sempel]

In thinking about this more I find some of the responses funny and in some way almost hypocritical. The reason I say this is escorts generally turn off their real emotions and provide a show. In other words, they are able to separate real feelings from fantasy. So why is it hard to believe that guys can say "I love you" and it means nothing? Some probably feel it's a compliment. Now, granted most people who think about it probably should use other phrases to indicate they are happy, enjoying themselves, and really like the lady and using these phrases is more advisable than "I love you".

I don't condone guys using the phrase to either manipulate a companion or attempt to change the relationship into something more than it is - a business relationship. Some guys will say the phrase and it's a clear indication they are crossing from fantasy into reality which is not cool. It can also be a sign that precedes obsessive behavior. That said, I like to think some guys just throw it out there because they aren't thinking versus thinking they are really in love and expect the same from the lady.

 

[canman1]

Why ask me a question when you refuse to accept the answer given. LOL.

No - YOU would see it as just a comment. But not every client is like YOU.

And services offered by an escort are not just limited to her sucking your dick. If the "service" you like is DATY then no it is not you servicing her, it is still her servicing you. That is a thread for another day. But you can get caught up on reading. HINT; giving as SP an orgasm is not you doing her a favour either. Just putting that out there.

Lastly, Again, I don't know why this is so hard to understand and why this is turning into some type of on going debate between us.

You like hearing it or saying it. Fine. Do you boo. But not everyone, not even half are on the same page as you. Which is also fine. All I did was warning that some women will indeed stop seeing clients for it. So say it at your own risk.

Personally I would take it a step further and not make or possibly make others uncomfortable with inappropriate behaviour but I guess that is why I am the professional and you are the client. I think about the feelings of others, not just my own.

Anyway- I am done with this topic. It is not a debate, your opinion is yours, I disagree. EOD for me.

I did not ask a question. I stated my own experiences in paid transactions. Neither of your examples would qualify as servicing the escort. Nor have I ever said anything inappropriate, even during those rare times they occur.

Anything can happen, in an encounter. That is what you do not seem to understand. You have your beliefs, which are negative in all aspects. I have my experiences, which state, they can have other outcomes.

A professional, also should know, that not all encounters, are robotic in nature.