Relationships are tough these days

[Mr610]

I recently had a conversation with my daughter on the addiction of Instagram. She is an extremely bright 27 year old entrepreneurial person and spends most of her time on her business social media, but the other day, she was telling me that on an updated Instagram account in settings there is a feature that you can put a time clock on your profile that limits time spent on the account. She was telling me that you can look up on your account how much time per day you spend on Instagram and set limits for yourself

First question I asked is why is Instagram even doing this?
The thought could be that Instagram is seeing an addiction problem and they are trying to assist people in being accountable and only spending a reasonable time on the account and not letting it control their lives?

I guess I am old school, if I had that many people wanting to do business with me I wouldn't be putting settings and limits and to how long they can use my service.

 

[superstar_88]

Jesus, this thread is miserable. I was married before smartphones were even a thing. I watch my wife live on the device now and it irritates me... but it seems like it'll be the same with anyone else.

I don't Facebook, etc., but use my phone for work, reading news/items/sports, watch porn and TERB.

I love talking with women in their late 30's and 40's. I'll agree that it seems useless to talk to women in their young 20's.

Your wife prob got on the phone to avoid having to talk to you.

 

[Smallcock]

If someone is using their smartphone for 8 hours per day on small talk and taking dozens of photos to find the right pose to update their instagram account daily, and buying 'followers' and 'likes' for personal rather than business reasons, at least you know what that person's priorities are. That's not relationship nor marriage material. The technology separates people into various categories, which makes things convenient. The superficial, overly confident, or low-self esteem types will spend all their time and money on social media. These are the people that you market products/services to. They make the best consumers because they live for approval of others and that means they need to have the latest things that all the other cool kids have. The people that use social media for a little entertainment and to expand their business presence, or to learn new things, are in a whole different category.

 

[Goodoer]

Your wife prob got on the phone to avoid having to talk to you.

Meh... Could be. I try to talk about current events, things going on with the family; I make the effort. I do well outside of the home. I'm confident it is not me.

 

[multimedia]

Meh... Could be. I try to talk about current events, things going on with the family; I make the effort. I do well outside of the home. I'm confident it is not me.

My wife is 40 too. She's on instagram alot, though has curbed it more recently. She doesn't post much but is addicted to other people's profile, they're lives, etc. We started dating in at around 21-22 way before the smartphone era, and before online dating became a thing (back then, it mainly chat groups where you would pick people up). So like you, if someone like her is on it a lot, the average younger woman and their narcissistic tenancies do not have a chance!

 

[username999]

Nailed it. Not surprisingly, school administrators say anxiety and depression even among grade school kids sky rocked every year after this. We're seeing this now, and it's a 'crisis' in universities. Can't handle reality, or the online world changes, and often leaves you behind. The iphone (IGen or Gen Z as well as younger millennials) are more often than not, completely absorbed in this. Especially females where it has fundamentally messed up their thinking process.

Bingo - I believe the huge increase in the number of female born children identifying as trans is directly linked to smartphone addiction.

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2018/07/when-a-child-says-shes-trans/561749/

 

[NotADcotor]

It's not exclusive to women but it's mainly women and a tiny handful of men. Considering the fact that women rate most men as ugly on free dating sites while men rate women on a respectable Bell Curve, it's women that are in the driver's seat. It's women who are hypergamous, not men. I'm not dumping on women, I'm just stating the obvious. A hot guy will hookup with a hot, average, and even below average female for a good time. But it doesn't work the other way around.

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If a women is 30+ and deep into a successful career, I give her kudos and she is potentially great relationship material. She worked her ass off and that's not easy to do. But if she's 30 and just "starting her life" a whole lot of skepticism should come into play. What exactly was she doing in her "previous" life from 20 - 30 such that virtually no progress was made. Life's too short to throw away a decade exclusively on partying and fucking around.

First paragraph, if you are going to quote a study, maybe quote the second part where they point out that almost the majority of guys rate a 1 or 2 out of 5, women also messaged even 1s with frequencies that a guy would almost never do.

Third paragraph, of she was spending her 20's doing 100 hour weeks in med school/post med school, doing a Phd knowing she would have to move wherever she could find a job and any relationship is doomed, spent her 20's married to a guy due to family pressure to avoid being a Sheng Nu and he turned out to be a psycho [that one is a true story], Doctors/Engineers without borders/Peace Corp type stuff. Brutally shy [another true story]. Sure there are cases where it's a red flag but, othertimes it isn't.

 

[Brotherman]

^^^ Promote this man.... I`ve been in 2 civvie relationships in the past year. This describes both to a damn T exactly. After several months I`m done, tell `em GTFO.

Women have no idea how social media is destroying them. The extreme narcissism in females is now showing it’s true colours.

 

[Richard.TO]

Thankfully, nor is it a representative sample of well balanced, pleasant, non-toxic women. As your incessant vituperative attacks here and in your well published professional conduct proves.

Here we go again asshole.

 

[multimedia]

Women have no idea how social media is destroying them. The extreme narcissism in females is now showing it’s true colours.

It will really come back to haunt them when they're no longer sexy and wanted by men of all ages (1st generation of peak user base is in their 20s who really grew up with it since childhood, sure, some in early 30s have adopted).

In other words, when that new generation of hot 20 year olds come up, that "the world owes me.. especially if you're a guy.. which btw aren't good enough for me" attitude will result in a lot of angry, wtf reactions. I've seen it happen to many I'm too cool for school people, but the number of women in that demographic and their habits/attitude will truly be a day of reckoning.

 

[Smallcock]

First paragraph, if you are going to quote a study, maybe quote the second part where they point out that almost the majority of guys rate a 1 or 2 out of 5, women also messaged even 1s with frequencies that a guy would almost never do.

Third paragraph, of she was spending her 20's doing 100 hour weeks in med school/post med school, doing a Phd knowing she would have to move wherever she could find a job and any relationship is doomed, spent her 20's married to a guy due to family pressure to avoid being a Sheng Nu and he turned out to be a psycho [that one is a true story], Doctors/Engineers without borders/Peace Corp type stuff. Brutally shy [another true story]. Sure there are cases where it's a red flag but, othertimes it isn't.

I don't remember the details. Post the study.

 

[jazzbox]

I love talking with women in their late 30's and 40's. I'll agree that it seems useless to talk to women in their young 20's.

Amen! When in an optimistic mood I try but after about a minute I end up looking for the exit!

 

[Darts]

"Quote Originally Posted by Goodoer View Post

I love talking with women in their late 30's and 40's. I'll agree that it seems useless to talk to women in their young 20's."

Young women nowadays also do weird (and dangerous?) stuff like throwing chairs off balconies, climbing cranes, going to Morocco, etc.

 

[multimedia]

"Quote Originally Posted by Goodoer View Post

I love talking with women in their late 30's and 40's. I'll agree that it seems useless to talk to women in their young 20's."

Young women nowadays also do weird (and dangerous?) stuff like throwing chairs off balconies, climbing cranes, going to Morocco, etc.

I'm in that co-hort and we're the last generation before internet and e-communication became a thing (as in, in highschool, we talked on the phone to meet up with people, had relationships on the phone, had to pick up or get called on the phone as part of the pick-up game). So there's a more patience, and 'wonder' that's still deep beneath us, which explains why alot of women this age, aren't as flakie, still remember when you had to sit in a room and long for connection, listen to music, romanticize, have memories that involved actual encounters with people. So the development in how to interact with people, especially of the opposite sex isn't as de-valued once this whole social media thing became the norm in interacting with people.