Ratings are subjective - What do you base them on?
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I agree, personal preference isn't subject to critique and that's what I was trying to convey in my first post. It's now more acceptable to voice those preferences when they don't align with what is assumed to be the norm. In a social situation, those worth knowing don't focus on the purely physical; they look for the details. A man who is groomed well, has paid attention to the details will catch my eye regardless of his physical appearance. So while some are distracted by the shiny there are a growing number who are self aware enough to know whether a conversation should begin, regardless of the physical qualities; they know those are irrelevant. It may not lead anywhere but it's definitely worth having to see if there is.
This is certainly logical on the surface but if my memory serves, the research has shown otherwise. Yes we want to buy into things we think will make us better, but we also want to see images that we relate to. I grew up being a Marilyn in a Farrah world and have struggled to buy clothes that accommodated my waist to hip ratio. It's only the last decade that my body type is being acknowledged by manufacturers and marketers and that market share is huge. People want to be a better version of themselves, not someone else. The lack of diversity at the top of this giant food chain simply had a very narrow vision but fortunately it's changing for the better.
Absolutely! One should never complain about or envy another; it's an exercise in futility. My participation here was simply to address the OP's post and offer my insight that ratings systems for an experience are extremely suggestive because everyones definition of beauty is different. And know that if I'm on the couch eating bonbons, I have no problem owning it along with the exceedingly well loved curves that result. Thank you for the delightful conversation...
smiles, cat
I'm one of the ones that rarely if ever uses "numerical" scales. My "type (s)" may be different to many others. If a girl is beautiful in an unconventional way I'll say so, so the guys only into Hollywood definition of beauty can choose otherwise. Most important is attitude. A great outlook on the encounter, sex, human interaction and life in general is more likely to get me going other than a 9-10/10 by some media driven beauty standards.
Many of the ratings are inflated, or not particularly helpful (GND to DDG).
Many guys who write reviews are especially charitable, especially if the lady gave her all, but may not have been the gentlemen's cup of tea, physically.
In addition, many guys who hobby frequently, get to know the owners or the booking people. They don't want to write a review which could hurt the agency's business, or the lady herself.
My suggestion to you would be to look at photos, then to check reviews. Try to get a consensus regarding reviews. (Use this board, and others). If uncertain, ask a few guys who review a lot, by PM. They are more likely to be candid, man to man. However, you need to return the favor, by posting reviews, and sharing you own experiences.
You have to have realistic expectations too. Just as there are not supermodels galore walking around downtown Toronto, there are not many supermodels in the industry. However, if you do your research you can find some really attractive (and, yes beautiful) ladies in the industry...many that you would be, or would have been, happy to date in real life.
And, if you don't want to post by the numbers, you can use adjectives like: attractive, very attractive, extremely attractive, beautiful, extremely beautiful, gorgeous, striking etc.
If you say a lady is attractive, it is not demeaning, but most people are not going to think she is drop dead gorgeous.
Many guys who write reviews are especially charitable, especially if the lady gave her all, but may not have been the gentlemen's cup of tea, physically.
In addition, many guys who hobby frequently, get to know the owners or the booking people. They don't want to write a review which could hurt the agency's business, or the lady herself.
My suggestion to you would be to look at photos, then to check reviews. Try to get a consensus regarding reviews. (Use this board, and others). If uncertain, ask a few guys who review a lot, by PM. They are more likely to be candid, man to man. However, you need to return the favor, by posting reviews, and sharing you own experiences.
You have to have realistic expectations too. Just as there are not supermodels galore walking around downtown Toronto, there are not many supermodels in the industry. However, if you do your research you can find some really attractive (and, yes beautiful) ladies in the industry...many that you would be, or would have been, happy to date in real life.
And, if you don't want to post by the numbers, you can use adjectives like: attractive, very attractive, extremely attractive, beautiful, extremely beautiful, gorgeous, striking etc.
If you say a lady is attractive, it is not demeaning, but most people are not going to think she is drop dead gorgeous.
You are in a better position to monitor research than I am ( not my thing) but I am guided by a free and open market to follow the desires of the public not for the betterment of mankind but to make the most money from the product they are selling. As the public opinion swings, the advertisers will follow.
I thank you !
