Rant - So what do you do for a living?
- Thread starter Riley.Royal
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hey share that pop corn i always enjoy a good train wreckAnd here I thought today was gonna be slow!
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I do hate when SP's I've just met ask what I do... I don't like giving out too much information, would rather build a level of trust first. So I get where you are coming from, just disagree that it is wrong all the time.
Sorry, how rude of me... here ya go...
I thought you were a Starfish Captain!? What gives?
The only issue with that is that it makes for a very bad foundation to a relationship. When I first got out of school I was underemployed, and since I have no dependants if I leave a job I often slate a couple weeks off between jobs, and I've walked off a job with nothing new lined up.
In all of those cases I've had the awkward conversation... It can only be worse for sexworkers, but you can't fault people for asking. It is a legitimate job hazard of all sexwork. All you can do is say what you do and let the chips fall where they may. By all means invoke "client SP privilege" if you want to move the conversation along, BUT:
-How long is such a big lie sustainable?
-What does it do to your conscience?
-What happens when you tell him?
-What happens if you get caught?
-How much worrying do you have to do about getting caught?
Your work is a big part of your life, maintaining that sort of lie would be more trouble than it's worth.
Hey, I'll not fess up to my SC crawl fetish, but that's black-holing one night a month**. (Mind you I'll fess up to having been at SCs and about guys nights, etc.) But there's a big gap between maintaining that fiction, and it's weight on my conscience, and me walking around saying, "I'm TOM and I'm an eye surgeon."
** I'll generally skip my crawls for a while if I go into a mono thing, or something that has that prospect. When I do eventually lurch back to crawling I'm the lowest mileage customer in the GTA today. But that's about me.
I can see where Riley thought you were taking a dig at her employment circumstances but the word "or" means you're talking about two separate groups and you weren't saying she was unemployed.
Lots of people don't like talking about their jobs, Riley posted that her mother and cousin were uncomfortable talking about being nurses. Maybe it's like talking about salaries, some topics are sensitive to people.
Me, I hate networking - it really kills a party.
Totally agree which is why I neve lied about what I did or do now.
Just giving those who wans to lie a few options.
I said the question is really only a problem for people who are unemployed or have jobs like escorting, dangerous work etc.
Some may not like the question being asked but it is not necessarily a "problem" to answer.
Riley's mom can say, I am nurse but when I am off duty, I am off duty. Meaning she doesn't want to talk about it. Not a problem. Pet peeve maybe, but not a problem in answering.
See the difference?
I will just automatically assume that it is something really bad like producing and distributing child porn, politics or telemarketer.
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I love how you grouped THOSE 3 professions... I might add defense lawyer to it though! LOL!
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I love how you grouped THOSE 3 professions... I might add defense lawyer to it though! LOL!
me: i work with meat
him: how much do you make?
me: why would you like to know?
him: just wondering
me: if you think i'm going to support you forget it keep living in your moms basement
me: next topic
him: dials cell** mom i'm coming home
me: doing the happy dance
him: how much do you make?
me: why would you like to know?
him: just wondering
me: if you think i'm going to support you forget it keep living in your moms basement
me: next topic
him: dials cell** mom i'm coming home
me: doing the happy dance
Well to be honest the problem you are experiencing is EXACTLY why being an escort pays so well as it does.
If there weren't these negative social/dating implications to being an escort then I guess many, many more women would be willing to do it, and rates would come down to a fraction of what they are today.
Exactly because of the problems you face in your dating life and your social life that isn't going to happen any time soon.
Its obvious you hate it because once you tell a guy you're a prostitute they high tail it out of there. 99.9% of guys wont date prostitutes, no matter what they look like so its definitely a date/relationship killing answer if you answer the question. Id hate that question too. LOL
One thing I'd take issue with in the comments here--
Many have suggested that Riley should tell some sort of creative lie about what she does, like saying "public relations" or some such.
I think that is a mistake. It is better just to be honest and say, "I'd really rather not talk about my job."
Why?
If the relationship turns out ot be serious, if it turns out to be someone that you're really interested in, do you want their first experience with you to be that you lied to them about something important?
If you simply say "I'd rather not talk about it" then later when you do bring it up you can say you were always honest.
Many have suggested that Riley should tell some sort of creative lie about what she does, like saying "public relations" or some such.
I think that is a mistake. It is better just to be honest and say, "I'd really rather not talk about my job."
Why?
If the relationship turns out ot be serious, if it turns out to be someone that you're really interested in, do you want their first experience with you to be that you lied to them about something important?
If you simply say "I'd rather not talk about it" then later when you do bring it up you can say you were always honest.
The question is, is that better than just saying what the job is? I dunno. I'm against the creative lie myself...
One's political affiliation is more important than there occupation
When I meet someone for the first time, I usually only am interested in finding out if they are a nice person or not. I never ask them what they do for a living because I really don't care. When I used to run a retail store (business owner) and someone found out, they would treat me with great respect. I always hated the obvious change in their attitude towards me, from thinking at first that I was an unskilled and insignfigant clerk to realizing that I owned the entire thing and had more financial stature than they did. I always told anyone who debated me that their were few differences between a business owner and a worker. Essentially, an owner is just someone who was able to access greater financing than the average individual and moreover, an owner exposes themselves to greater risk and liability in hopes of gaining greater financial rewards, kind of like gambling.
Although I don't ask about a person's political affilation, as I usually find out in a matter of minutes just form speaking to them directly, this characteristic is actually the most important trait about anyone that I might meet.
For example, i am a privatarian (libertarian). I am anti-government, pro private-sector and I believe in individual responsibility. Basically, I want to be left alone and I want to pursue my happiness without interference from others.
Now if I were to meet someone who said they were very liberal (socialist/communist), I would know immediately that we would not get along in the long run. Someone who is very liberal believes in big government and control of people's choices in terms of their economic activity. Whether they are a cashier or a doctor, it really doesn't matter to me because it doesn't affect anything about the relationship.
In terms of sp's, I actually really respect the women because they just seem more generous to men than the average woman, and dollar-for-dollar, much cheaper per encounter than a wife or even a girlfriend at times.
When I meet someone for the first time, I usually only am interested in finding out if they are a nice person or not. I never ask them what they do for a living because I really don't care. When I used to run a retail store (business owner) and someone found out, they would treat me with great respect. I always hated the obvious change in their attitude towards me, from thinking at first that I was an unskilled and insignfigant clerk to realizing that I owned the entire thing and had more financial stature than they did. I always told anyone who debated me that their were few differences between a business owner and a worker. Essentially, an owner is just someone who was able to access greater financing than the average individual and moreover, an owner exposes themselves to greater risk and liability in hopes of gaining greater financial rewards, kind of like gambling.
Although I don't ask about a person's political affilation, as I usually find out in a matter of minutes just form speaking to them directly, this characteristic is actually the most important trait about anyone that I might meet.
For example, i am a privatarian (libertarian). I am anti-government, pro private-sector and I believe in individual responsibility. Basically, I want to be left alone and I want to pursue my happiness without interference from others.
Now if I were to meet someone who said they were very liberal (socialist/communist), I would know immediately that we would not get along in the long run. Someone who is very liberal believes in big government and control of people's choices in terms of their economic activity. Whether they are a cashier or a doctor, it really doesn't matter to me because it doesn't affect anything about the relationship.
In terms of sp's, I actually really respect the women because they just seem more generous to men than the average woman, and dollar-for-dollar, much cheaper per encounter than a wife or even a girlfriend at times.
I meant only covering up her occupation when the topic comes up with casual acquaintances at the dinner table or something like that, not with a potential lover.
I don't think she said you're unemployed. why do you think everyone's always attacking you?
