As long as the ruse is both simple and believable. Are you in a position where you often sign 'important' papers? Do you have an assistant? How come you've never mentioned her? Etc. etc... Can very easily become a case of having to invent one lie to cover up another.
Random text from SP's
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This is why email or board handle exchange is important.
Random texts are not appropriate under any circumstances. At least with email or a board handle, you can keep it hidden.
Random texts are not appropriate under any circumstances. At least with email or a board handle, you can keep it hidden.
I'd suggest that any married man use a burner app and bury it in a sub-folder.
I'd also suggest that anyone, man or woman, let their SO know their phone is off limits early on in the relationship. Though I understand that one is much harder to achieve.
I'd also suggest that anyone, man or woman, let their SO know their phone is off limits early on in the relationship. Though I understand that one is much harder to achieve.
I will always let lady know if the email or phone is 'safe' meaning ok for them to reach out....and if texted i'd usually say safe to text this until 3pm ....(or whatever time I gotta work or whatever...helps to give a time rather than "next 45 minutes" as texts do get delayed...)...I would never give out a work or other number just to be safe for us both. But in general, and when in doubt NO unsoliciteds......
one word. burner . actually, one girl I haven't seen since 2012 just started texting me long and detailed messages about her hours,location etc. completely unwarranted and very annoying. she used to be a great girl. this goes to my real phone, which I used to cross contaminate with hobbying, before I got a burner. If it happens again, I guess I will have to call her to stop spamming.
Personally I think burner phones and burner apps just introduce another layer of something that can fuck up. I always believed in the KISS principle. Have a clear understanding of personal space and respect for each other’s phones and you don’t have to worry. If she DOES snoop then the marriage is in deep trouble anyway. Having a simple texting protocol is for those chance times when you’re together with your SO and the phone buzzes. Use the right protocol and you can even show her the text and say - some guy has the wrong number.
I get texts all the time, from friends (both male and female), from family, my employer, Bell trying to sell me more products, wrong numbers, etc. My wife could not possibly care less, nor do I care when her phone gets a text. We respect each other's privacy, which works out very well for me. Maybe for her too, I have no idea, nor do I care.
Depends on what you mean by a random text: if I message a lady and she messages me back that day after a few hours or the next morning, I'd be ok with that and wouldn't consider that random. Now, if she messages me a few days later, yah it could be a bit reckless I would say and certainly unwarranted. I'm new to the 'hobby' and haven't had that experience, but thanks for letting us know that happens.
I have bad news for you jackson.
All women snoop.
No matter how secure the relationship is.
And making a point of showing your partner a text message and claiming it was the wrong number will arouse suspicions of "me thinks he doth protest too much"
I would simply turn the text notification off and keep it off. (I keep mine off, not because I'm worried about a PING arousing a, "who's that?", but because the constant pinging and vibrating drives me crazy. My phone no longer gives indications of any type for any email or text. I check it when I want to check it, not when the damn phone tells me that there is a message for me. If nothing else, then you check your emails at the appropriate time and simply delete any text messages or emails that you don't want hanging around.
I was surprised to read this Charmer. Nowadays phones are not just phones, they have a lot of personal information, CC #'s, appointments, etc. I would never ask anyone to use/see their phone even if say i was looking to buy a new one. I never let anyone touch my phone either. A few have been caught off guard by it but I don't care, i don't want people looking through my personal business. IMO its the same as letting someone be at your home when you are not there. Thats just weird. I keep my phone locked with an 8 digit pin at all times, and when i receive texts/emails it just says that i have a text/email waiting and nothing more. I use my phone for more than just txt so security of my phone is important to me. I don't even leave my phone out in plain view at work because someone could come and just pick it up. Even though its locked that still bothers me when someone just picks up my phone, with or without permission.
So ya, ladies can text me anytime and sometimes i find the heads up is actually helpful. obviously for some its ok, others its not.
same here.....there are some positives about being unattached, this is one of them.
Actually easy for me. She kept it very professional and general. And yes common for me to has sign forms. I also had her in my contacts as a work contact. If i did book from this type of text she usually offered me a great deal.
Got texts from two SP’s today. One sending me a pic from a photo shoot. Used to be a reg but she got greedy so haven’t seen her in a while.
The other is a new reg, saw her two weeks in a row, so here it is 3rd week and she wants to see me.
In both cases, I’ll see them if and when I want, there are lots of other choices.
I’m not an ATM. Don’t treat me like one.
The other is a new reg, saw her two weeks in a row, so here it is 3rd week and she wants to see me.
In both cases, I’ll see them if and when I want, there are lots of other choices.
I’m not an ATM. Don’t treat me like one.
funny, I just received one yesterday from a SP. Didn't recognize the number. The text was " Hi, I am available today are you interested in seeing me". Google'd the number and not a bad looking SP based on her pictures. What is funny, I have never seen her ? Not sure how she got my number, I've had the same number for 10 years. Sent her back a text asking how she knows me as I don't recall meeting her. "Apparently" her friend gave her a list of regulars as she retired from the industry. She would not tell me who the friend was. This got me a little concerned. I declined the offer. Something just didn't seem right, just a very strange.
thumper18474
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this has happened to me
1 SP i saw sent my # to another SP that I was having an issue with from another board...Texted me right outta the blue...I didnt recognize the # and asked "who is this?".I asked her who gave you my #?...she attached conditions on telling me ...so I told her dont ever contact me again...and I found out who gave her my # and told her"dont ever contact me again "too, some just arent smart enough to understand the concept of discretion and keeping clients info.."in the vault"
Holy Crap! An SP gave your number to another one? Isn’t there supposed to be discretion? Maybe some privacy?
I had one regular text me saying her freind Kaylie wanted my number. I said no. I said to tell her that I said to never give out my name or number. (Kaylie had my number at one point, used to text me, cum see me babe. I’m glad she lost my number when she switched phones)
lol it's crazy...i've seen SPs as much as MPs but would always delete outgoing text and calls as soon as the deed is done...anyone who texts me will just come up as a random #. Plus the fact that my wife doesn't care who text me unless those are friends inviting for a weekend of fishing which pisses her off because i bring the stench home and the car smells like salmon...
