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jw01

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Guys,

Whats up? I'm in a serious depression mode or at least feel uncared for by my gf and I would like to know how I can possible make my relationship better or atleast get her to show the same affection/love.

Ive been with my gf for about 5 years and its been a really up and down ride. Fights, love, arugments, hickies (I got) etc, and the last bit, hickies has really dampered our relationship or at least her love for me. That aside, I have done more for her than her own family, and more for her than anyone in my life and I have grown really attached to her. Her behaviour to not really want to kiss or hug is really eating me inside. ALso, she recently went out to see this guy, and I was told by her they kissed. Her goal was to show me how hurt she was and to get me jealous and I was not jealous. Now I can honestly say I love this girl and deep inside she knows of all the good things Ive done and what I mean to her. But shes turned her heart into stone and just seems to disinterested etc and thats rraelly hurting me inside; I cant sleep, eat anything.

I really want to win her love back and get her to love me the same way she did before. I keep having nightmares about the guy she saw and cant get it out of my head everytime I see her and keep bringing it up, which I think is making her think about the guy more than she is. Its a psychological game where I want her really bad now because she isnt showing much interests. Shes told me, she loves me, but her feelings are not there right now, and she might like the other guy :S Im hurt bc I didnt expect this from her. Now I really really want to win her back, her affection her love her care her everything. Shes asked for a break to think things through but Im really scared to loser her and Im really attached to her and shes knows that and takes advantage of it (takes it for granted).

Please guys, what do I do? I need some serious advise, and she means alot to me and to lose her like that really kills me inside as Ive been there through the thick and thin and now some jackass who doesnt deserve it comes in and she wants to get revenge on me, might get with her. Thats killing me and the way shes acting. How do I turn things around? Please help guy! Im very desperate to have her back to her old self, as you can tell.

Cheers,

Ive never had this feeling before and its burning me inside. I love her! Ive tried alot of things, so please help!!
 

JEFF247

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"Whats up? I'm in a serious depression mode or at least feel uncared for by my gf....."

Enough said. Dump her and move on. Everyone trying to "make it work". Trying to make a relationship something it isn't. Un-fucking-believable!!
 

addicted2whiskey

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IN THE MIGHTY JUNGLE.
Grow a pair of balls and confront her. Don't be a sissy.

jw01 said:
Guys,

Whats up? I'm in a serious depression mode or at least feel uncared for by my gf and I would like to know how I can possible make my relationship better or atleast get her to show the same affection/love.

Ive been with my gf for about 5 years and its been a really up and down ride. Fights, love, arugments, hickies (I got) etc, and the last bit, hickies has really dampered our relationship or at least her love for me. That aside, I have done more for her than her own family, and more for her than anyone in my life and I have grown really attached to her. Her behaviour to not really want to kiss or hug is really eating me inside. ALso, she recently went out to see this guy, and I was told by her they kissed. Her goal was to show me how hurt she was and to get me jealous and I was not jealous. Now I can honestly say I love this girl and deep inside she knows of all the good things Ive done and what I mean to her. But shes turned her heart into stone and just seems to disinterested etc and thats rraelly hurting me inside; I cant sleep, eat anything.

I really want to win her love back and get her to love me the same way she did before. I keep having nightmares about the guy she saw and cant get it out of my head everytime I see her and keep bringing it up, which I think is making her think about the guy more than she is. Its a psychological game where I want her really bad now because she isnt showing much interests. Shes told me, she loves me, but her feelings are not there right now, and she might like the other guy :S Im hurt bc I didnt expect this from her. Now I really really want to win her back, her affection her love her care her everything. Shes asked for a break to think things through but Im really scared to loser her and Im really attached to her and shes knows that and takes advantage of it (takes it for granted).

Please guys, what do I do? I need some serious advise, and she means alot to me and to lose her like that really kills me inside as Ive been there through the thick and thin and now some jackass who doesnt deserve it comes in and she wants to get revenge on me, might get with her. Thats killing me and the way shes acting. How do I turn things around? Please help guy! Im very desperate to have her back to her old self, as you can tell.

Cheers,

Ive never had this feeling before and its burning me inside. I love her! Ive tried alot of things, so please help!!
Buddy take it from me that she's JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU ANYMORE!!!!!!!!!!!

I think she's sparing your feelings by not coming out and telling you this because you seem ultra-sensitive. You need to grow a pair of balls and confront her about the way you feel. You have to assure her that you won't end your life (or do something equally stupid) and that you're stable enough to move on and accept reality.

She actually seems like she's simply letting you down easy and that she cares about you but in a "let's be friends" way!!! If you can't proceed with a "friendship" (since you seem obsessed with this lady) then block her out of you life and move on buddy.

By not confronting her and clarifying what may just be subtle hints that she's not interested, you're making life tougher than it needs to be for the both of you.
 

BallzDeep

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Are you talking about hickies you got from someone else, I deleted my earlier post because it sounds like you cheated on her? :confused:
 

Danolo

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Move on,

Get on the bus, Gus,

Make a new plan, Stan

and set yourself free!
 

opieshuffle

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go here...

www.loveshack.org

and read to your heart's content the same story told by thousands in the Relationships forums. Then take everyone's advice from hereand move on. Life's too short.

Op
 

noscrappy

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Just not worth it, let's say you get back together and everything is hunky dory... then the cycle starts again, that will drive you crazy. What if you get married and this happens.Better to get out now, there are plenty of fish in the sea.
 
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its over. just let her be. drop her instantly and cut everything off. you need to do it for urself. if u break up and keep bugging..trust me...ur just making it harder on everyone. if she eventually comes back in a yr or w/e...then great. but u need to just cut it off completely and just move on with your life. having that other dude on the side which she likes..basically spells OVER!
 

Never Compromised

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Drop off the Key, Lee
And set yourself free.

But seriously, buy a dog if you want unconditional love and affection.

Time to get drunk, have a bit of a cry and move on.

And don't come home with hickies next time.
 

beenthere123

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JW, this thread should end here but you will receive at least 20 more replies saying the same thing.

Everyone's gone through this at least twice, the older you get the more you will understand. It's happened to me as well, tried so hard to make it work and the bottom line is that people fall out of love. Just part of life, accept it.

DO'N'T BLAME HER, DON'T BLAME YOURSELF and for sure DON'T BLAME THE WORLD its the way thing turn out in life.

I know its easier to say it than to do it. Just re-read replies from Jeff247, Aden, addicted, Opieshuffle, noscrappy, soulshere and mine.

We've all beenthere and know better. Best medicine is to find a new girl fast.

Good luck and LET HER GO
 
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