opinion wanted- real date or pay for play

[bluesman]

I find myself in a little bit of an awkward dilemma and am hoping I could get an opinon or 2 before i make my decison.

Over the years I have had the fortune of staying in touch (via email only) with a few sp's well past their retirement. I am always amazed at how almost all of them have moved out of city or country (lol).

Now one of them after several monthes of silence between us initiates contact with me and says she is back in town and really wants to see me. Of course i said yes but I later realized nothing came up, either overt or subtle about money or her coming out of retirement

Would you just assume this is a paid gig, assume it is a real date, but more importantly would you just bring the money matter up or wait for her to bring it up?

Either way i will have some cash with me and I have a pretty good idea of what i am going to do but still, would appreciate an opinion or two.

If there is already a thread on this my apologies.

bluesman

btw, I am pretty sure I am safe posting this here, but if she does sees this i am sure i wll get my answer in a hurry !!

 

[big.guy_13]

I would hazard to say it's a genuine request to see you, off the clock so to speak.

 

[lurkerjoe]

Either way, you'll need card/cash unless your going dutch. Might be smart to be prepared lest you want to make the walk of shame to the nearest ABM.

 

[Viggo Rasmussen]

She should have made it clear when she contacted you, I'd be wondering too.
Go on the date and have fun, if sex happens I'd consider it off the clock unless she says otherwise beforehand.

 

[Incall Lover]

You are one lucky man. Go for it dude.

 

[TPO]

I would say be honest and ask her. Given your background together I doubt she would be offended about the question, provided if was asked in an appropriate way. " Just to clarify, is this a professional get together or a friendly get together " or something of that nature.

I have met a few ladies for both on and off the clock for a drink or dinner then..... I try to always ask in advance as to not embarass myself.

 

[Don Draper]

She should have made it clear when she contacted you, I'd be wondering too.
Go on the date and have fun, if sex happens I'd consider it off the clock unless she says otherwise beforehand.

Exactly! She has contacted you and wants to see you. Treat the event exactly like the date it should be. Pay for dinner, film, club whatever it is you do. Have enough $ on you to cover any bases you may need to. Take a stand point and follow through on that. A date it is, not an hourly transaction. If she brings it up, you'll know what she's thinking. If she does not, likewise.

 

[hairyfucker]

I think you should offer HER an hourly rate. I mean if you had contacted her she would charge you. Way not the reverse?

 

[NorthernBear]

My line of thinking has always been, Ä lady that is free for the evening usually ends up costing you the most money."

 

[poker]

Ok.... Here is how I would gage the situation. When you seen her in the past, did you take her out for dinner and movie, or did someone show up at the room.... had some conversation, then got to the main events?

Now, what are we talking about for the current date?

Point being, if you have never taken her "out" for diner and a movie, or dancing, or an art gallery, but you are today..... I would consider it a real date. However, it the plan is simply meet me at my place and we'll catch up.... I would think its an SP situation.

Just my 2 cents.

good luck either way, I'm sure you'll fun catching up.

Cheers!

 

[bluesman]

thank you for the posts and opinions. I figure since it is bothering me I'm just going to come out and ask her direct what the deal is. I don't really care either way (paid or date) but don't want this to be left out there hanging.

cheers

bm

 

[Damondean]

thank you for the posts and opinions. I figure since it is bothering me I'm just going to come out and ask her direct what the deal is. I don't really care either way (paid or date) but don't want this to be left out there hanging.

cheers

bm

That is the correct approach IMO. It's best to make it clear beforehand and have no misunderstandings.

Enjoy however it turns out!