That may be true if all you are looking for is just getting laid. I think most of want at least something more, like a GFE session implies. In that case it makes sense to try to identify a partner who would be accepting of whatever your condition is. We, including SPs, all have our preferences and limits to our real comfort zone. Being forthright with the SPs you like might help you find a more suitable match, therefore a better experience.
On being fat and über hot sps?
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I definitely prefer a client is clean, respectful, kind & has a sense of humour then one who might be young & gorgeous but is a dick. Your age, looks, weight, differences in ability (physical or mental) etc, are largely irrelevant to me as a service provider. I strongly believe that a great fuck is beneficial & should be available to all, regardless of the differences that make us all human, unique & beautiful in our own special ways.
The majority of independent escorts that I know definitely feel the same way.
However, if you are rude, cheap, think you 'own me', aggressive, unhygienic, refuse to shower, etc, I will ask you to leave, regardless as to how you look.
xoxo Charley
The majority of independent escorts that I know definitely feel the same way.
However, if you are rude, cheap, think you 'own me', aggressive, unhygienic, refuse to shower, etc, I will ask you to leave, regardless as to how you look.
xoxo Charley
jms,
Maybe confronting your fear might be good. Who''s to say that losing 40 lbs is all you need to feel better?
I have an extreme fear of heights and roller coasters. So much so that I get nervous at the edge of a balconey regardless of whether is the 2nd floor or the top floor. Recently I went to Canada's Wonderland with a group of friends. I decided that I would face the fear head on and went straight for behemoth. Sure I was scared and swore a lot while hurtling down the first drop. But after that I enjoyed the rest of the day trying different roller coasters.
Point is that I walkd away thinking "wow that wasn't so bad in fact it was fun."
Am I cured? No still scared but next time a chance to ride a roller coaster comes up I won't feel as nervous.
But I've seen the construction of the new roller coaster which I think will be called leviathan. It looks to be higher and faster and the idea of riding it is not out of the question. But I will probably scream my head off.
Keep in mind that many of the girls here who are well reviewed as well regarded for more than just mileage. They typically provide a good overall experience and that includes making you feel at ease.
Maybe confronting your fear might be good. Who''s to say that losing 40 lbs is all you need to feel better?
I have an extreme fear of heights and roller coasters. So much so that I get nervous at the edge of a balconey regardless of whether is the 2nd floor or the top floor. Recently I went to Canada's Wonderland with a group of friends. I decided that I would face the fear head on and went straight for behemoth. Sure I was scared and swore a lot while hurtling down the first drop. But after that I enjoyed the rest of the day trying different roller coasters.
Point is that I walkd away thinking "wow that wasn't so bad in fact it was fun."
Am I cured? No still scared but next time a chance to ride a roller coaster comes up I won't feel as nervous.
But I've seen the construction of the new roller coaster which I think will be called leviathan. It looks to be higher and faster and the idea of riding it is not out of the question. But I will probably scream my head off.
Keep in mind that many of the girls here who are well reviewed as well regarded for more than just mileage. They typically provide a good overall experience and that includes making you feel at ease.
People usually frame this issue as an either/or proposition. You are either unattractive and nice or you are attractive and a jerk.
But there are plenty of people who are attractive AND nice. So, between someone who is unattractive and nice vs. attractive and nice, who do you think gets better YMMV? I'm pretty sure that on average, it's the latter.
But there are plenty of people who are attractive AND nice. So, between someone who is unattractive and nice vs. attractive and nice, who do you think gets better YMMV? I'm pretty sure that on average, it's the latter.
I'd think it would be better but would it be noticeably better? Both guys would probably get dfk and bbbj and treated to a fantasy what difference would a person notice?
Some girls are notoriously YMMV. And not every SP is great at acting. And there are new/young SPs who really aren't comfortable with people they are not attracted to. So, more enthusiasm, less mechanical service. Maybe your DFK and BBBJ would last longer.
I have the exact same story. Huge fear of heights, one of the reasons why I stayed away from roller coasters. Some girl in my social circle which I loathed dared me to ride one with her. Did it and now I love riding roller coasters. I'm not nervous at all with them but I still freak the fuck out with anything else regarding heights, couldn't handle the glass floor on the CN tower.
Of course there are some SPs who are YMMV.
I'm pretty sure that if jms asked for recommendations there's probably some overweight hobbiests who could easily point him towards some "uber hot" SPs.
On a side note I prefer SPs and MPAs that are a bit more experienced. Not because I am overweight or anything but from a skill/execution standpoint I find experienced girls are just flat out more fun. Youth is overrrated. There are plent of women in their mid 20s to mid 30s who are hot and talented. Heck I've even seen the odd 40 year old that was fun (but maybe less attractive to me)
Anyways, t here's only so much that one can do about their physical attractiveness but my point is that with careful choice and approaching the hobby clean and polite the average joe can have as much fun as a hot guy.
Besides how would you know if some hot guy got an extra minute of bbbj? At the end of the day that's just all in the guys head.
I've never looked at how long certain acts were done. As long as we went through my list of interests and its done well, and she was nice that;s good enough for me.
How about a twist - tall guy 6 3 and short lady 5 0 or 5 1. Had some excursions like this in the past - two in college - and the experience with both ladies was above average.
How about tall girls and short guys? I know where their heads would be.
How about tall girls and short guys? I know where their heads would be.
Those girls tend to not last long. I've heard a number of established SP's over the years say that if a girl is going to offer services based only the level of clients' attractiveness, she's in the wrong business.
If you simply select an SP who has been working for more than 2 or 3 years and I can guarantee it will be a great experience and you will feel wonderful and have had a GFE experience. All you need to do is avoid the new SPs. Or if you must see a new one research her carefully.
I understand what you are trying to say here but also keep in mind that "attractive" is a subjective term. You can't know what the SP finds attractive until you ask her. I personally have had some of my best experiences in this business with much larger men. It has changed my opinions of attractiveness.
To the original poster - While it is always a great thing to get yourself healthy and comfortable in your own skin, none of us know if we are getting tomorrow so do what you want today!
And like anything else in this business, communication is key. Ask the girls you are interested in if they enjoy larger men. Chances are if they don't, they won't respond back. If the answer is really positive - go for it.
I am sure if any of the wonderful BBW you have seen asked you if they should be in this business you would tell them yes. There is a market for everything and there is a wide range of what people consider attractive.
Hey JMS:
You sound like you are really self-conscious about your appearance. My advice is to not worry about it. You sound like a good, decent guy and the kind of regular client any sp would hope to have.
I don't think your experience with an sp will depend much on what you look like but rather upon how you treat her.
I don't think the idea of trying to lose weight before seeing an "uber-hot" sp is the way to go. Doing this will only make you more (not less) self-conscious because it buys into the idea that your worth depends on your appearance.
My advice is the same as the roller coaster guys: just face your fear directly about being with an sp that you find attractive. The more you do it, the less worried you'll feel and eventually you might even wind up enjoying the experience.
You sound like you are really self-conscious about your appearance. My advice is to not worry about it. You sound like a good, decent guy and the kind of regular client any sp would hope to have.
I don't think your experience with an sp will depend much on what you look like but rather upon how you treat her.
I don't think the idea of trying to lose weight before seeing an "uber-hot" sp is the way to go. Doing this will only make you more (not less) self-conscious because it buys into the idea that your worth depends on your appearance.
My advice is the same as the roller coaster guys: just face your fear directly about being with an sp that you find attractive. The more you do it, the less worried you'll feel and eventually you might even wind up enjoying the experience.
I totally agree. I don't mean to sidetrack this thread, but it often takes being "forced" to be with someone you otherwise wouldn't have given the time of day to (figuratively), to make people realize the beauty in others. I don't know if anyone remembers a show "Beauty and the Geek". It was a reality show that matched beauties/nerds and made them do a variety of contests together. At the end, the girl always said the nerds were cooler than they thought and the guys would say the pretty girl is just a girl, not so intimidating. The moral of the story: 'don't judge a book by only its cover.'
You sound very open minded. World needs more of those.
