Why is it important to know if it was with a male or female ? You could also have anal sex with females
There may be bi-guys receiving anal sex here among us on Terb, gasp! Anyways, if you visit the HFC, you will see gay men vastly outnumber straight at that clinic.... if you have any gaydar at all.
They have a very carefully worded script of questions, that is non-judgemental.
* Have you had sex with one long term partner or casual sex with multiple partners?
* Did you have vaginal sex? (yes) anal sex? (giving) Using protection? (yes)
* Have you had oral sex? (yes) receiving or giving (both) Using condom? (no)
They don't ask how many partners or if you are gay or straight.
Anyone that hobbies with any regularity should get tested. It's not a big deal.