Need a date idea ASAP

[stinkynuts]

lol. No, she's not an sp.

Ok, I guess I can tell you what happened in detail.

First, off we agreed to meet at the subway station. Time comes by, she's not there. Ten minutes later, she's still not there so I phone her. I'm like, oh great, I've been stood up. It turns out she was SLEEPING (I later found out this was true). How excited could she have been to go out with me when she didn't even wake up?

But she was well dressed, apologized, and was friendly throughout. She even mentioned that she would never have agreed to come out in the first place if she didn't want to. And we spent a good three hours eating and talking, and an hour playing pool before she had to leave.

I think her sleeping is due to her depression. But in any case, it hurt my ego very much.

 

[RTRD]

With good reason...

lol. No, she`s not an sp.

Ok, I guess I can tell you what happened in detail.

First, off we agreed to meet at the subway station. Time comes by, she`s not there. Ten minutes later, she`s still not there so I phone her. I`m like, oh great, I`ve been stood up. It turns out she was SLEEPING (I later found out this was true). How excited could she have been to go out with me when she didn`t even wake up?

But she was well dressed, apologized, and was friendly throughout. She even mentioned that she would never have agreed to come out in the first place if she didn`t want to. And we spent a good three hours eating and talking, and an hour playing pool before she had to leave.

I think her sleeping is due to her depression. But in any case, it hurt my ego very much.

"But in any case, it hurt my ego very much."

...but what is a guy to do?

"She even mentioned that she would never have agreed to come out in the first place if she didn`t want to."

How did this come up? You asked her? Bad move my friend...of course she wants to be out with you...you ROCK (remember...self confidence...seriously...if you don`t think you are great why should she?)

So...you had a good time. But nothing at the end in regards to intimacy, and no follow up call.

My guess...without knowing more...is that you spent the evening trying to become her friend versus trying to get into her pants. Now...trying to get into her pants doesn`t mean you make an ass of yourself...it means you make it clear that your intentions are not platonic in nature.

Believe me when I tell you this - she would have NEVER gone out with you if the two of you fucking at some point in the future wasn`t on the table...unless there was something you said when you first spoke with her before that said to her you only wanted to be friends. She is depressed - not stupid...she knows you asked her out because you want to fuck her. But somewhere during the course of the evening she decided you weren`t intertesting / exciting / confident / whatever enough that it was going to happen.

The good news though is that apparently you aren`t so abhorent that women won`t go out with you. You just have to change your approach when you get them out with you.

First rule of thumb - you don`t need female friends. If you aren`t married or engaged, any female you know should be someone you either a) Have slept with, B) Haven`t slept with yet or c) Do not want to sleep with. Period. Until it is VERY CLEARLY established that the two of you will not be sleeping together (as in it has come up in conversation and the concept was totally shot down) you should be trying to sleep with every women you know well enough to imagine sleeping with her....with the possible exception of if she works for you or you for her (and truth be told, I`ve given the me for her thing some thought, but I`m married...).

Once you truly embrace that...that you don`t care if you piss your date off and the two of you never become friends because all YOU care about is riding her ass...you`ll do better....

Sorry things did not go well...but hang in there...

BTW - BTDT..."depressed" girls can be LOTS of fun, with the low self esteem and all...but be very, very careful. They have a way of dragging you into their mess if you aren`t careful. My advice...some girls you care for...some girls you just wanna fuck as many times as you can. Never confuse the two...because you aren`t a shrink and you can`t "fix" them. Take it from someone who learned the hard way because no one gave ME this advice beforehand...

P.S. This post has some insights as well...says what i am trying to say here in a different manner that might be more clear...

https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=1418469#post1418469

 

[Svend]

Ending was no kiss, no hug. We had a good time, and she said she'd call me. So far she hasn't.

I'm curious if people here think stinkynuts should give her a call anyway.
I'm glad you had a good time, you now have some practice which will help your confidence. Look at this date as a learning experience.

 

[xix]

call ????

I'm curious if people here think stinkynuts should give her a call anyway.
I'm glad you had a good time, you now have some practice which will help your confidence. Look at this date as a learning experience.

She doesn't want him or not interested at all. Period.
If he does call go straight to bowling don't ignore her completely but do so 50% of the time and 3/4 of the game he should say to her:

"So you looking for fun, relationship or am I just a dog to you ( pet)?"
if she can't give out an answer in less than 10 seconds....

YOU ARE HER NoN FACK PET.

 

[stinkynuts]

My guess is that I blew it. Yeah, I asked her several times if she was late because she wasn't really interested in seeing me. I was so rattled that I never made any moves. Maybe asking her several times if she was interested was a bad move as MLAM said. But what's done is done.

I guess this game is over, Svend. Don't know the strategy to recover from this blunder.

 

[RTRD]

Sure....its worth a shot...

I'm curious if people here think stinkynuts should give her a call anyway.
I'm glad you had a good time, you now have some practice which will help your confidence. Look at this date as a learning experience.

...except he should show her his other side and take the neanderthal approach.

I'd suggest something like this...

"Hey...I had a great time last Friday. I'm thinking we should do something a bit more crazy fun and sexy though....why don't I pick you up around 8 on Thursday".

Be direct, assertive and to the point. I am coming to pick YOU up in order that WE will do something that I am betting will get US in bed. She might say "where the fuck was THIS guy on Friday". Or she might hang up the phone. Nothing to lose though, is there...except a "friendship" you don't need....

 

[RTRD]

Learn from your mistake....

My guess is that I blew it. Yeah, I asked her several times if she was late because she wasn't really interested in seeing me. I was so rattled that I never made any moves. Maybe asking her several times if she was interested a bad move as MLAM said. But what's done is done.

I guess this game is over, Svend. Don't know the strategy to recover from this blunder.

"I guess this game is over, Svend. Don't know the strategy to recover from this blunder. "

...and go with the strategy I gave you above. Nothing to lose, everything to gain.

 

[Svend]

Don't let one date get you down, there are plenty of women who would appreciate an evening out. This kind of stuff happens to everyone, just get back in the saddle.

 

[Rose]

Look at what you gained--perhaps you can ask her out again and she wont be asleep this time--btw all men need women friends-just friends!!

 

[Pedro Sanchez]

What saint gave you the right to be so judgemental of others? Why are you even on this board if you dont "pay to play"?

The guy asked for open advice so let the people speak (appropriately).

My Bad! but, you didnt have to be such a CNT about it!

btw, there are a # of people on here who dont "pay-to-play" as you put it.

 

[secret_touch]

My Bad! but, you didnt have to be such a CNT about it!

btw, there are a # of people on here who dont "pay-to-play" as you put it.

Funny guy.........NOT!!

 

[Pedro Sanchez]

Funny guy.........NOT!!

Im just curious, have your balls dropped yet?

Oh lets just stop this nonsense and schedule a date. I can tell we are sooo perfect for each other.

 

[secret_touch]

Im just curious, have your balls dropped yet?

Oh lets just stop this nonsense and schedule a date. I can tell we are sooo perfect for each other.

Couldnt agree more. How is 2nd Tuesday of next week for you?