Men with high standards thread

[Cbr20152012]

Men and those who wish they are men be honest. Would you be ok if she is taller and/or make a higher income than you? Be honest.

Couldn’t care less about either. I often end up with 5:7-5:9 women in my personal life, in heels they are taller than me. It turns me on.

Firstly, current earnings aren’t the best way to look at it, overall contribution OR perceived potential overall contribution (think of those in low earning but high potential VC liquidation scenarios) is bettter. That said, God, I’d love to be with a woman that contributes same, similar, or more than me. I came out of a relationship recently where this was a key issue and it really annoyed me.

***caveat - obviously just speaking to financial contribution as that was the question. Not overall contribution to the relationship ***

 

[RZG]

Word. You would not believe the mental health issues of women in the legal system

What you mentioned plus financially stable, eg: not in 50K of credit card debt, a decent amount of savings and investments too. Non- smoker, no drinking or drugging are important. If I offer that I expect reciprocity. Yeah good fuckin` luck RZG.

 

[Darts]

Non- smoker, no drinking or drugging are important.

Yes, same here but good luck with that.

 

[RZG]

Yes, same here but good luck with that.

Which is why I`m resigned to remaining single `til the end of days. That`s OK. A man must NEVER let a woman`s problems become his, if you do you`ve just created your own little Vietnam, and you are a fool if you think it ends well for you.

 

[Darts]

Contrast this thread with the one about women's expectations/standards. Men's expectations and standards are so much more rational and reasonable.

 

[JuanGoodman]

An Indisputable Mathematical Proof that Women = Problems

 

[Darts]

As I get older and think more about it, my dad really won the lottery of life when he married my mom.

 

[RZG]

Contrast this thread with the one about women's expectations/standards. Men's expectations and standards are so much more rational and reasonable.

You can`t be rational and logical and be a woman at the same time.

 

[angrymime666]

What you mentioned plus financially stable, eg: not in 50K of credit card debt, a decent amount of savings and investments too. Non- smoker, no drinking or drugging are important. If I offer that I expect reciprocity. Yeah good fuckin` luck RZG.

It's a sliding scale. Most women are not at my level financially so I can't expect them to level up to my level. No debt for sure. I agree with the drugs and drinking. I expect for them to be responsible but they won't be able to reciprocate on the levels I'm at. I have found with most women they tend to want to ride the coat tails of my success. I'm fine with that but be at the level I want in a woman.

 

[angrymime666]

As I get older and think more about it, my dad really won the lottery of life when he married my mom.

Have you noticed that after gen x women have significantly change?

 

[RZG]

As I get older and think more about it, my dad really won the lottery of life when he married my mom.

No doubt, watch any `50s or `60s film on TCM and see a world where men weren`t portrayed to be the enemy of women or the reason why everything is wrong. It`s actually stunning to see how different the western world was. Around 2010 when 4th wave feminism collided with social media/internet it was over for men.

 

[RZG]

It's a sliding scale. Most women are not at my level financially so I can't expect them to level up to my level. No debt for sure. I agree with the drugs and drinking. I expect for them to be responsible but they won't be able to reciprocate on the levels I'm at. I have found with most women they tend to want to ride the coat tails of my success. I'm fine with that but be at the level I want in a woman.

Young men in their `20s seldom pay attention to cautionary tales when pussy is involved. FAFO, it was ever thus.

 

[harryass]

I'll start....

Not fat, physically fit, no tattoos, not a social media addict, modest, a 5 or 6, below 5' 8", a religious background, soft, feminine, agreeable, family oriented, has skills such as cooking sewing etc.

Most of this appears like mom approval standards. Ain't nothing wrong with that, just saying LOL

 

[speakercontrols]

So guys Im interested in a realistic expectation of standards you have in your long term mate. Qualities, attributes, attractiveness, whatever is important to you that would be her.

Brains, education, career, quick thinker, high tolerance for verbal bullshit (in a good way) & opinions, emotionally stable, grit, stands up for herself, 5'6" to whatever, likes sex/intimacy, able to have good conversations. You know, a partner.

Surprisingly, looks are far down the list.

 

[JuanGoodman]

angel by day and devil at night would be my choice

 

[xix]

Taller is not attractive just like a chick who is built like a linebacker is not. I don't care about what she makes but I'm not a fan of that boss girl attitude. It's unpleasant behavior to be around long term

Money or materialism changes most people for the worst.

 

[xix]

Have you noticed that after gen x women have significantly change?

Please explain your point of view.

 

[angrymime666]

Most of this appears like mom approval standards. Ain't nothing wrong with that, just saying LOL

It's moreso I've noticed trends in female behavior both good and bad, certain attributes that successful relationships have and my own person likes and dislikes.

 

[angrymime666]

Brains, education, career, quick thinker, high tolerance for verbal bullshit (in a good way) & opinions, emotionally stable, grit, stands up for herself, 5'6" to whatever, likes sex/intimacy, able to have good conversations. You know, a partner.

Surprisingly, looks are far down the list.

Totally, she doesn't have to be a supermodel but just pleasing to our eyes

 

[angrymime666]

Please explain your point of view.

This just anecdotal...

I'm gen X. Most of the marriages I know to be stable, successful and possibly happy have been gen x and back. Religion, family values, two parent households were the norm. Divorce happened but it rarely happened in my life. The family unit was as much more cohesive. It wasn't a divide about who did what morse things needed to get done and parents did what they needed to do. It was a different time.