marriage

[Needs2Relax]

True, less desirable men can marry only less desirable women, but that's much better than not marrying anyone at all.

I diasagree. Is it also true that being in a bad relationship is better than no relationship? I think not! Sounds like battered child syndrome.

It's too easy to get into a bad relationship/marriage and too difficult to get away from.

I picked up on a gf's 2 timing...and she denied it to the 'n'th degree. To make a long story short, trust is about all you have to build upon. It has nothing to do about needs whether perceived or not. Needs don't change and wants are guided by ego etc. If you don't communicate well, interpretation of your roles can suffer, leading you to all sorts of inaccurate expectations. Not much wonder when you finally see clearly and you both are facing different directions.

IMHO there is a positive angle to just about everything. Weeding through the emotional swamp is usually too much for a couple and could have been avoided by being upfront and honest in the 1st place.

Being a control freak (narcacist) or egocentric (world revolves around you) probably won't help matters if you try and defend from that position. All the denial, excuses, affixing blame only serves to reveal one of the possibly several underlying problems... lack of communication.

I can appreciate the situation between "Jordan" and her estranged SO. It sounds like "he" might be compensating for a perceived need for something he is lacking. I know of some guys that have (had) a good home life, yet thought they needed a little stimulation or stroking of their ego. (Believe me, in most cases I think you will find that this is at the heart of a lot of hobbiests) Very few couples are well suited to each other. It is their willingness to work on the rough edges that seems to weather the storms. The secretive nature of this hobby can be dangerous to the health of a relationship, if there are other contributing factors (namely money as this hobby can get expensive) you're not only spending your money, but your family's as well, it is only understandable that this can add fuel to the fire about a discussion over budgeting. Let's face it $100-$300/month can impact your buying power significantly. Not such an issue before marriage, but hard to support and disguise afterward.

 

[slyjohn]

The lesson here his...... never take any risk ! always think twice and make left no mistake behind.....

Dont do this from your computer at home or your cell. I do everything from my work..... So I wont never make a mistake....

Mistake = $$$$

Bingo! Same here.

 

[lunarianqueen]

True, less desirable men can marry only less desirable women, but that's much better than not marrying anyone at all.

I diasagree. Is it also true that being in a bad relationship is better than no relationship? I think not! Sounds like battered child syndrome.

It wasn't my words , I was just quoting something from alink that oldnerd in this thread referred to http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-20070622-000002.xml.


I would love to agree with you but I am afraid the reality says otherwise.For along time wives have tolerated their husbands hobbying or the casual physical encounters because they did not have a choice and for fear of social issues .And it is the fact even in the modern times.

But no matter what the reason is it is very painful for the wives part to know about it and continue living in the marriage.Not all women have the luxary to voice over their husband.I am not sure if hobbyist ever think about that.Someone in this thread said most wives know about it and just ignore it.It doesn't mean it doesn't affect them.

The sad thing is alot of the times the wives are not even given the chance to understand their lacking or anything.And how are they supposed to deal with if the thrill seeking aspect of the husbands? even when everything is okay? Some people are not given any chance.A simple wife can not compete with a sp/mp no matter what.The sad fact is I know someone who left everything literally to be with the significant one only to find out she was betrayed all through.

 

[JoyfulC]

If you're smart, you can clear TERB from your history (without clearing your whole history, which is a tell tale indicator).

After you've visited TERB, go to history, select TERB, right click and delete the entry.

To prevent it from showing up in your search listings, send yourself an e-mail message to your hotmail or other private webmail account with TERB's link in it. Whenever you visit TERB, get there from that link.

Good luck!

..c..

 

[Ladyluvr69]

go to http://www.tinyurl.com/ma3k9 and download the file atf cleaner to your desktop and run it. It will clear everything. (including passwords) but you can tell it what to delete and not. So if you have passwords u want to keep remove the check on cookies.

 

[KingofGirth]

True, less desirable men can marry only less desirable women, but that's much better than not marrying anyone at all.

I diasagree. Is it also true that being in a bad relationship is better than no relationship? I think not! Sounds like battered child syndrome.

Actually, the originally quoted text is true, purely from a genetic point of view. In species where males exhibit themselves, fight over females, etc, 90% of the children are fathered by a select few males. But then the females usually end up rearing the young alone.

In monogamous societies, since most women aren't going to get one of the top men, they settle for a lesser man. So that's better for us men who not exceptionally wealthy, powerful, or famous. However, there is still adultery on both sides. Men are trying to spread their seed to maximize their chances of passing on their genes. Women cheat to try to slip in better genes to their kids while getting their average man to help raise the kids.

Read "The Red Queen" by Matt Ridley or "The Selfish Gene" by Richard Dawkins. They go into a lot of detail about this kind of thing. I highly recommend both books

KoG

 

[lunarianqueen]

stupid

So guys, either delete all emails from ladies, or dont use a password your wife can guess!!!!!!!!

Not all wives/gfs these days are so stupid that they have to have it right infront of their eyes to discover it.I know alot who discovered it through other means than by having their noses into their husband's.bf's emails or stuff.

 

[CapitalGuy]

Also:

go to http://www.tinyurl.com/ma3k9 and download the file atf cleaner to your desktop and run it. It will clear everything. (including passwords) but you can tell it what to delete and not. So if you have passwords u want to keep remove the check on cookies.

Wash your windows after every use.

http://www.webroot.com/En_US/consum...r.html?WRSID=1c4adcfee38155c9489a366edb08450a

 

[Ladyluvr69]

Wash your windows after every use.

http://www.webroot.com/En_US/consum...r.html?WRSID=1c4adcfee38155c9489a366edb08450a

WASTE OF MONEY

Use my link its FREE and works great. BETTER the webroot stuff.

http://www.tinyurl.com/ma3k9

 

[CapitalGuy]

WASTE OF MONEY

Use my link its FREE and works great. BETTER the webroot stuff.

http://www.tinyurl.com/ma3k9

Thanks, I'll look into tinyurl. I'm not a huge computer geek, so I wouldn't mind a technical explanation of why its a waste of money? Have you run sniffer programs to determine which of the two programs does a better job of scrambling the data that is produced during a web crawl or other activities? The Webroot stuff says the FBI wouldn't be able to unravel a computer history after the "Bleach" process is run. This website, which reviews all nature of computer related "stuff", speaks highly of Window Washer but does not mention the ATF cleaner http://privacy-software-review.topt...indow+washer&gclid=CPfw2_-k35ACFSdaQAod2lUURQ . Has tinyurl been proven to be even better, or is it that the two programs are similar so you think paying for one of them is a waste of money? Thanks again, as I've no idea what happens, bits and bytes wise, when I press "run" on any program.

 

[Ladyluvr69]

I am in the IT field and one of the things I do is clean infected systems so I have touched many applications in my life.

One thing about any software by webroot is that it is resource hungry. Your system will definately lose some performance.

ATF Cleaner (the app in the tinyurl link) is a small app that you run when you need it and it will clean all logs of what you have done. This is not a virus or spyware cleaner just a tracs cleaner.

If someone really wants to see what you have done they can still see it no matter what you do but this will stop 9-% of it. If you want to get rid of tracs completely you need a commercial shredder program but those are expensive and I doubt anyone will need it.

Hope this helps a bit.

 

[Ladyluvr69]

also tinyurl is not a manufaturer it is a site where you can take
http://www.thissite.com/thisfolder/andsubfolder/andhere/487vswihg37rvuguskd.php/$document#98yufwrnfwzd/anotherfolder/andfile/andhereur

into www.tinyurl.com/address

a lot simpler to write

And the FBI could get the data if they wanted to with Webroot or ATF

People think their data is gone but it never is.

You want a sure way of deleting tacs? Do what DND does. They shredd the hard drives. I dont mean the data on the drives but the actual physical drives. and then burn them. That is because they know you can never delete anything from a hard drive no matter what you do to it. You can even recover overwritten data.

 

[JoyfulC]

In monogamous societies, since most women aren't going to get one of the top men, they settle for a lesser man. So that's better for us men who not exceptionally wealthy, powerful, or famous. However, there is still adultery on both sides. Men are trying to spread their seed to maximize their chances of passing on their genes. Women cheat to try to slip in better genes to their kids while getting their average man to help raise the kids.

Weirdly enough, any time I was turned on enough to spread my legs, genetics never crossed my mind. At least not my conscious mind.

..c..

 

[KingofGirth]

Weirdly enough, any time I was turned on enough to spread my legs, genetics never crossed my mind. At least not my conscious mind.

..c..

True. By the same token, if you go out to eat at a nice restaurant, you're not consciously thinking that you need to eat food in order to stay alive, you're out fulfilling a biological need that your body happens to enjoy.

KoG

 

[JoyfulC]

True. By the same token, if you go out to eat at a nice restaurant, you're not consciously thinking that you need to eat food in order to stay alive, you're out fulfilling a biological need that your body happens to enjoy.

KoG

Yes, but then, what accounts for people's generally abysmal nutritional choices? The fast food industry, in particular, is based on people's cravings for too much of the wrong food.

..c..

 

[s_licker]

actually, the craving for fat is a survival tool. The problem is that fat is now abundant enough that we don't *have* to like eating it to survive. Gradually, natural selection is likely making an aversion to fat a reproductive advantage.