Lavalife

maybe it is just the way you look in your pics, I'm not saying that you look bad or anything, I don't know what you look like.

I'm just saying that, with me anyway, I was no holds barred when I was on there and if I wanted to get laid by a hot guy, you better have been damn hot. On lava most decent looking girls can have their pick of the litter so to speak and I was damn well going to have it.

Some guys, I find, have thier standards set a little too high. Not that it is a bad thing, you just can't really complain if you get shot down that is all. On the other hand some of the women you may be messaging may have their standards set pretty high too and perhaps they feel that you just don't measure up. It is a lot easier for some people to shoot someone down if they don't have to look them in the face while they are doing it.

Sad but true.
 
I think I had great success with Lava. I dated several women, fu^ked at least 3 on a ongoing basis. I met SPs, dancers and a massage therapist as well as the usual single moms looking for something better or longterm.

Didn't see Sasha though. Now that would have been the ICING on the cake. :D

One thing I've come to realize, that it's feast or famine. I've got a couple of women from Lava begging me to keep seeing them, while I've got 3 dancers wanting to see me outside of the SC.
 
On plentyoffish & no luck.

My profile is jazzy-one. You can go see it & make comment. I have sent messages to 1000 or so women in the gta ranging in age 25/40. All shorter than me; I am 5'6". Went on 3 short dates. They were pleasent meet-ups at restraunts. In the forum section there is several threads discussing women's fixation with dating only TALL men. Thats an UNDERSTATEMENT!:eek:
 
Lavalife is really hit or miss like any other dating site. I've met women that have gone no where and yes i've also fucked a couple that i met. The funny thing is that all the women i fucked came out of the relationship section and it happened on the first or second time i met them.
 
Hmmmm maybe it's your approach what do you write in the messages.

I usually am talking to one or two new girls at any given time. Some turn into dates and others fizzle out. It's not the greatest but I'm doing infinitely better than in the clubs.
 
Warning. Ayone who has not yet used Lava stay clear of this thread.

Unless you a male or female supermodel.
 
Not sure it is responce.

If they are in their 30s & looking to date I first title my message " Well you sound interesting". Then in the message I say: Tell me more about your fav. interests, music etc. Check my profile. If they are party girls in their 20s I say: Want to have some fun with a mature, well established guy? From my research on the forms the first message is quite good compared to what most ladies claim they get from the men. As my research also found, the ladies check height before anything else. If you aren't 5'10"+ they claim to delete without reading profile. My personal experience seems to show this as true.
 
My suggestion is stay away. It's a money pit. Those who have had any sorta luck with Lavalife are few and far between.
 
Be careful! If you're a girl....you might end up talking or datingt some married man who is pretending to be single or if you are a guy....you might end up talking to a guy pretending to be a girl!
 
I love the Ladies on TERB but sometimes you just run out of Cash and never out of Hornyness
 
Online Dating...

... ahhh, memories.

For me, before there was TERB, there was the online dating game.

I had a lot of fun and some great successes from my experience. I was in and out of the game for about four years or so. For me, I tried it just for the thrill of the hunt and the novelty of it. Over the duration, I met a few dozen women. Some led nowhere, others I still see occasionally for casual dates and the periodic romp.

I would say that it can be costly if you are not able to figure out what gets the attention of those reading your profile and mail msgs. You could end up spending endless dollars on credits try to find someone. This simply boils down to the fact that are countless more men than women on most of these sites. If you are a poor e-communicator, this can pose a problem as well. For me, the success I was able to create, boiled down to putting the right words in the profile and not taking it personally if someone decided they werent interested - regardless of the reason.

As impersonal as this will appear, the reality is that it is all a numbers game, and aside from sheer luck, for the men to find a good match, you might find yourself sending the same emails over and over again (copy,paste, copy, paste)... and then simply keeping the fish you want, and throwing the rest back in the water. It's a fine science for those who can master it. My goal was always to go from digits to Digits in no more than 3 weeks... (from the day I got the phone number, til the day my prospect got the Digits - if you catcha my drift)...

Funny, since discovering TERB, I find that I prefer to 'invest' that same money with girls where I can get straight to the point... without any emotional baggage. I suppose this had a lot to do with the fact that when I discovered Terb, I wasnt really interested in an emotional relationship - so the transition to my new hobby worked out fine for me. I could on and on about my personal experiences with the online dating thing, but to generalize, it all boils down to knowing what you want out of it... and trying to weed out all the ladies who dont fit the bill of what you're looking for... in order NOT to waste your time or theirs. I also got in the habit of either meeting in person or doing a photo exchange - as soon as it was comfortable for both of us - to avoid too much 'build up' only for a letdown in the end.

I'm glad for the experiences and dont regret a dollar I spent. Several great relationships came out of it - some short term, and others I still maintain contact with. Like this hobby, my advice is to know what you want out of it and not let it become addictive...

SK.
 
Ll

it is a numbers game,woman can pick and choice who they want to be with,they get tons of mail,so they will only respond to the ones that they like,and some woman on there play games in which you will e-mail and then when you want to talk on the phone they will make excuses not to,there are many that are lonely and just want to talk and nothing else
 
jackhammer99 said:
Women can/will use Reverse Number Lookup on you and one even tracked me down through an airline right to my hotel room in another province while I was on a business trip.
Sounds like you've seen it all.

How come the airline gave out your personal info?
 
Try... Plenty of fish . com

It is completely free. Huge site. Same results. Women looking to fulfill the soap opera fantasy of getting that mysterious TALL dark & gorgeous man. At least you are not blowing your money.
 
lavaless

tried it & adultfriendfinders... most members contacted just have basic memberships and cannot communicate, then when they see my profile and face I never get a response... gotta change my hairdo.
 
all the dating sites do take persistance, but my experiences were tremendous... it was hard to keep up with all the different sex only gals that I had.... I was never a bar guy, if you are at all charming & somewhat attractive you will be busy every night.

at Ashley Madison, the women are plentiful as well, it's just that with schedules & families, never mind having to get a place.. the SP incall makes that so much better.