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If you are prepared to waste a great deal of time and $$$ - there truly are some gems to be found on LL. I was fortunate enough to meet one of the hottest chicks that I've EVER seen on LL. But believe me when I tell you - getting there was frustrating, time consuming and expensive.
what worked for me....
When I had a really basd break up wth my ex the year before last I just said yes to one of my regulars when they asked me out for the fifteenth hundredth time. We "dated" for awhile and had great sex. There were no strings attached and I knew him well enough to feel comfortable around him. I liked the fact that I got to have a friend beside me who understood what I was going through, and someone I could confide in about my bad days at work. It is a choice I made and have not regretted. Our little diversion only lasted three months but it was long enough to help me forget about my ex and gain confidence again in myself and my sex appeal.
I tried lava life and I only met one person off the site. I just found there were too many guys looking for just sex. Not that I wouldn't have put out, but I get f*cked at work, I don't want to be f*cked at home too. I want to feel wanted for more then just that. I find guys on lava life are just looking for a free easy lay with absolutely no effort on their part. NO THANKS. lol not for me. I really liked e-harmony for finding someone. It is a bit expensive, but I find the guys to be much more respectful and willing to go through the dating process.
Just FYI
I am still single and I plan to stay that way for sometime, but dating is always a nice distraction on a Saturday night...
Catherine
xoxoxoxoxo
kat19 said:ya, same with me..bad break up. just wanted a distraction too and can't bother with the club/bar scene. maybe i should try saying single
When I had a really basd break up wth my ex the year before last I just said yes to one of my regulars when they asked me out for the fifteenth hundredth time. We "dated" for awhile and had great sex. There were no strings attached and I knew him well enough to feel comfortable around him. I liked the fact that I got to have a friend beside me who understood what I was going through, and someone I could confide in about my bad days at work. It is a choice I made and have not regretted. Our little diversion only lasted three months but it was long enough to help me forget about my ex and gain confidence again in myself and my sex appeal.
I tried lava life and I only met one person off the site. I just found there were too many guys looking for just sex. Not that I wouldn't have put out, but I get f*cked at work, I don't want to be f*cked at home too. I want to feel wanted for more then just that. I find guys on lava life are just looking for a free easy lay with absolutely no effort on their part. NO THANKS. lol not for me. I really liked e-harmony for finding someone. It is a bit expensive, but I find the guys to be much more respectful and willing to go through the dating process.
Just FYI
I am still single and I plan to stay that way for sometime, but dating is always a nice distraction on a Saturday night...
Catherine
xoxoxoxoxo
Well, I believe I've posted this before in another thread but it is worth it to post again.
I guess different people obtain different results from that site. I have been using lava long before it was lava. Back when they were only telepersonals and had 1000x better luck with telepersonals. Folks we're talking way back about 10 yrs.....
After spending, oh, $1000.00 +/- on credits I bet I can count on 1 hand (the other is busy typing) how many women I've chatted with on IM and I bet I've only received 3 responses to my introductory emails (all of which cost credits). I've heard "it must be your ad" so I had some female friends proof my ad and they've all come back with, it isn't that bad. A couple actually suggested I lie my teeth off (like a lot of the people do on there) to get that first intro. Sorry, but I don't do that....
I do get a laugh out of it. I SO like reading the ads from women who are looking for Mr Lawyer/bmw/gq model type. Do they REALLY think a guy like that is or has to go to a web dating site to find women? sheesh.
Here's an interesting thought to ponder: When women are very particular about who they will meet or who they are looking for, they are applauded and held up on high for knowing what they want and not willing to compromise because "they deserve to get what they want" and anything else is.....GASP SETTLING (and heaven knows that is SUCH a bad thing). BUT (and this is bigger than anna nicole smith's butt) when a guy does the same, he's described as being way too PICKY and shallow?
If you're looking for a place I've had much better luck lately with yahoo.ca personals.
I guess different people obtain different results from that site. I have been using lava long before it was lava. Back when they were only telepersonals and had 1000x better luck with telepersonals. Folks we're talking way back about 10 yrs.....
After spending, oh, $1000.00 +/- on credits I bet I can count on 1 hand (the other is busy typing) how many women I've chatted with on IM and I bet I've only received 3 responses to my introductory emails (all of which cost credits). I've heard "it must be your ad" so I had some female friends proof my ad and they've all come back with, it isn't that bad. A couple actually suggested I lie my teeth off (like a lot of the people do on there) to get that first intro. Sorry, but I don't do that....
I do get a laugh out of it. I SO like reading the ads from women who are looking for Mr Lawyer/bmw/gq model type. Do they REALLY think a guy like that is or has to go to a web dating site to find women? sheesh.
Here's an interesting thought to ponder: When women are very particular about who they will meet or who they are looking for, they are applauded and held up on high for knowing what they want and not willing to compromise because "they deserve to get what they want" and anything else is.....GASP SETTLING (and heaven knows that is SUCH a bad thing). BUT (and this is bigger than anna nicole smith's butt) when a guy does the same, he's described as being way too PICKY and shallow?
If you're looking for a place I've had much better luck lately with yahoo.ca personals.
nice distractions
well put catherine!
I tried lava for a little dating.. found the people weren't really who they said they were.. I met up with a few and well maybe my standards are high.. but like you, I get off at work.. and meet loads of great peeps...
I know we are all busy folks.. but who has time for dating? And the expense for gents is high... I expect to be wined and dined.. For every 100 people that wrote me on lava I responded to 1. There are 1000's of horny guys.. how do you pick one that will click with your chemistry ...
Really - it's just cheaper to hire me than to date me.. lol...
.. as I am writing now the cute and kinky banner is running here on terb.. hmm.. the new one is cute :0 .. hmm..
well put catherine!
I tried lava for a little dating.. found the people weren't really who they said they were.. I met up with a few and well maybe my standards are high.. but like you, I get off at work.. and meet loads of great peeps...
I know we are all busy folks.. but who has time for dating? And the expense for gents is high... I expect to be wined and dined.. For every 100 people that wrote me on lava I responded to 1. There are 1000's of horny guys.. how do you pick one that will click with your chemistry ...
Really - it's just cheaper to hire me than to date me.. lol...
.. as I am writing now the cute and kinky banner is running here on terb.. hmm.. the new one is cute :0 .. hmm..
Catherine: Awesome post in that its frankness is refreshing. Thanks for sharing a little of your soul.
pixiegyrrl: Either one of you correct me if I'm wrong, but I dont get the impression Catherine 'gets off' at work. Its all semantics, but I dont quite think her choice of word equates. Just my $0.02.
Cheers!
pixiegyrrl said:
pixiegyrrl: Either one of you correct me if I'm wrong, but I dont get the impression Catherine 'gets off' at work. Its all semantics, but I dont quite think her choice of word equates. Just my $0.02.
Cheers!
I couldn't help putting in my 2 cents on this one...
I can't disagree with any of the previous posters as to the volume of messages a guy has to send out to get a few interested replies. Nor can I dispute that the ad descriptions can often venture from slightly misleading to wildly inaccurate (for bot sexes, I'm sure).
However, I met my wife of 5 years on LavaLife. Maybe I should've bought a lottery ticket the day I connected with her, because that certainly seemed to be my day. We're extremely happy together. I'd had several meetings with other women before from LL that didn't work out. And no, I wasn't just looking for sex.
Before I get flamed as to why I'm here if I'm so happy with my wife... We have an understanding about such things. May every guy find a spouse so accomodating
I can't disagree with any of the previous posters as to the volume of messages a guy has to send out to get a few interested replies. Nor can I dispute that the ad descriptions can often venture from slightly misleading to wildly inaccurate (for bot sexes, I'm sure).
However, I met my wife of 5 years on LavaLife. Maybe I should've bought a lottery ticket the day I connected with her, because that certainly seemed to be my day. We're extremely happy together. I'd had several meetings with other women before from LL that didn't work out. And no, I wasn't just looking for sex.
Before I get flamed as to why I'm here if I'm so happy with my wife... We have an understanding about such things. May every guy find a spouse so accomodating
Laval life is waste of time. I tried it for 5months without meeting any girl. There are alot of fake profiles of girls on laval life. Even if you can chat with one girl she is unlikely to meet with you. There was an article on the internet when laval life owner sold the service; He said most of the money he earn from the site come from men since there are very very few women would meet with the men. I paraphrase his words. He acknowledged that most of the men whom signed up on the service will not meet the girl they specified on the profle. Majority of women are wary of signing up on internet dating according to his words.
It is better for a guy to pickup the old fashion way. I tried yahoo and other dating sites with no success. I never met one girl in real life. I chat with one girl in phillipines. That was the most success I ever had with these sites.
It is better for a guy to pickup the old fashion way. I tried yahoo and other dating sites with no success. I never met one girl in real life. I chat with one girl in phillipines. That was the most success I ever had with these sites.
speed dating
When I was in university (not that long ago) I had wild success with a site called www.casualkiss.com but they turned into a pay site now and the girls all left. I was getting laid every weekend with that site, and the profiles were all accurate from my experience. I have tried lava life as well and did get 3 dates out of it with attractive girls, I only purchase $25 or so in credits. The only gem I found was one that very recently moved to the city, had no social circle here and tried the site. This is a case I think a great woman would use a dating site. Reason being I think that a decent woman with an average social circle would be able to find a few men in her natural environment that she would like to date. So I have given up on finding a decent girl to date off the sites, in my situation it obviously has to be a casual relationship as I would never tell a girl what I do for a living. My 2 cents is that if a girl on there she does not have a decent social circle, and unless she has a good reason for that...its kind of weird, or they are very clingy and want more then I am willing to comit..even after a couple dates, some chicks are crazy ( I am sure there are lots of crazy men too though).
When I was in university (not that long ago) I had wild success with a site called www.casualkiss.com but they turned into a pay site now and the girls all left. I was getting laid every weekend with that site, and the profiles were all accurate from my experience. I have tried lava life as well and did get 3 dates out of it with attractive girls, I only purchase $25 or so in credits. The only gem I found was one that very recently moved to the city, had no social circle here and tried the site. This is a case I think a great woman would use a dating site. Reason being I think that a decent woman with an average social circle would be able to find a few men in her natural environment that she would like to date. So I have given up on finding a decent girl to date off the sites, in my situation it obviously has to be a casual relationship as I would never tell a girl what I do for a living. My 2 cents is that if a girl on there she does not have a decent social circle, and unless she has a good reason for that...its kind of weird, or they are very clingy and want more then I am willing to comit..even after a couple dates, some chicks are crazy ( I am sure there are lots of crazy men too though).
MathewH said:I couldn't help putting in my 2 cents on this one...
I can't disagree with any of the previous posters as to the volume of messages a guy has to send out to get a few interested replies. Nor can I dispute that the ad descriptions can often venture from slightly misleading to wildly inaccurate (for bot sexes, I'm sure).
However, I met my wife of 5 years on LavaLife. Maybe I should've bought a lottery ticket the day I connected with her, because that certainly seemed to be my day. We're extremely happy together. I'd had several meetings with other women before from LL that didn't work out. And no, I wasn't just looking for sex.
Before I get flamed as to why I'm here if I'm so happy with my wife... We have an understanding about such things. May every guy find a spouse so accomodating
Does she have a sister?
I'm going to throw my experience in as well. I've used lavalife and had some sucess. I've met up with a few girls that led to sex. When I lived in the States I also met a few women from adult friend finder. The trouble with lava (and similar sites) is you have to put in a lot of time and effort. The ladies I saw were alright but after awhile I didn't want to put in all that time and effort. It was exciting at first but seemed to lose it's appeal.
I dated a woman who worked for Lavalife once and she told me a lot of the ads are fake, just there to suck in the paying clients. Which is to say the really good looking ones with fantastic bios are planted. All in all you can spend a lot and get absolutely nothing out of it. I assume however that the guys have it tougher than the woman though guys will always lie at least about something ("My friends say I'm like a young Tom Selleck").
Now you go to PlentyOfFish which is free and you look at the ads and you see what real online dating looks like, not so pretty. Nerve is not bad but they try and make a buck off you any way they can, too everyone worth meeting seems to live in NY.
Not that I've suscribed to online dating...
*Edit. Actually I plan on doing an anti-personals website for people who hate the whole personals biz. Or maybe I'll do a "Hire A Jewish Aunt" service..."OMG I just met the perfect one for you...I got their number and everything, you just have to call."
Now you go to PlentyOfFish which is free and you look at the ads and you see what real online dating looks like, not so pretty. Nerve is not bad but they try and make a buck off you any way they can, too everyone worth meeting seems to live in NY.
Not that I've suscribed to online dating...
*Edit. Actually I plan on doing an anti-personals website for people who hate the whole personals biz. Or maybe I'll do a "Hire A Jewish Aunt" service..."OMG I just met the perfect one for you...I got their number and everything, you just have to call."
I was on Lava during the last couple years of Sp'ing after a breakup with what I thought was the love of my life.
Lava was great for me 'cause I wasn't looking for anything.
I met about 7 or 8 guys whenever I felt the need to let a little loose, it wasn't 'work' and it was all fun.
I never went in the intimates section though.
The guys I met were a combination of one nighters and a few fuk friends, some of them I spent a couple of months with, some were a couple weeks and others were kicked out the door after one shot. If you were cute, good in bed and not all clingy I kept them around for a while, whenever I felt the need I would give one a call.
I even had a little fun with one of the guys from the naked news! I won't say which one though! Gawd was he HOT! LOL
If you are a girl and just want to screw around and have fun, go for it. Just be careful though. I was pretty lucky, I met every single guy except for one right at my house and never had any problems but I also had a lot of experience screening people from being an SP, it came in handy, especially when I was lazy and just wanted someone to come over and screw me LOL.
Lava was great for me 'cause I wasn't looking for anything.
I met about 7 or 8 guys whenever I felt the need to let a little loose, it wasn't 'work' and it was all fun.
I never went in the intimates section though.
The guys I met were a combination of one nighters and a few fuk friends, some of them I spent a couple of months with, some were a couple weeks and others were kicked out the door after one shot. If you were cute, good in bed and not all clingy I kept them around for a while, whenever I felt the need I would give one a call.
I even had a little fun with one of the guys from the naked news! I won't say which one though! Gawd was he HOT! LOL
If you are a girl and just want to screw around and have fun, go for it. Just be careful though. I was pretty lucky, I met every single guy except for one right at my house and never had any problems but I also had a lot of experience screening people from being an SP, it came in handy, especially when I was lazy and just wanted someone to come over and screw me LOL.
Well so far my experience on Lava and sites similar to it (Ex - PlentyOfFish.com) has been quite poor. I understand that ladies probably get a lot of emails / smiles / messages etc. But I do find it puzzling in a way that I can send out (respectful) emails and not get a single response.
At work, whenever we do a mass contact we expect perhaps a 10% response rate. Targetted contacts tend to yield much better results - sometimes as high as 75% but that's rare. In any case, I'm well aware that you have to try numerous times to get one reply. But for whatever reason, my online experience has been rather barren.
I'm not giving it up yet though. I'll still keep trying. But I also find it odd that many ladies list themselves on multiple sites yet even from those I'm not getting responses.
At work, whenever we do a mass contact we expect perhaps a 10% response rate. Targetted contacts tend to yield much better results - sometimes as high as 75% but that's rare. In any case, I'm well aware that you have to try numerous times to get one reply. But for whatever reason, my online experience has been rather barren.
I'm not giving it up yet though. I'll still keep trying. But I also find it odd that many ladies list themselves on multiple sites yet even from those I'm not getting responses.
