Ladies, what does it mean when a girl tells you you are too nice?

[jwmorrice]

Old saw proves true!

...so many just feel the need to tell me that I'm the nicest guy they've ever met, and whether they realize it or not whenever they say it I want to kill myself.

Eeek! Guess it could be literally true that 'good guys/girls go to heaven but bad guys/girls go everywhere!'

jwm

 

[gramage]

It means "God are you ever going to get it up?" I have been down here for an eternity and my lips are chapped!!!!!

Dani(nice guys: take a hint, get a little nasty!!!!!!!)

the problem here Dani is that I can't get the ladies down there to show them just how nasty I can be.

 

[i_am_good]

ROTFLMAO!

Next time you're with her, kick a homeless person.

Goob, you so rock (go leafs go)!

Anyway, hey poorboy, the guys are right. You're too nice = "I know you want to have sex with me, but it's not gonna happen - EVER.".

Poorboy made the CLASSIC mistake - he did not clearly make his intention to have sex within the first three (3) minutes of first meeting a woman. He chose to be a gentleman.

This girl now knows that poorboy will always be there for her. HOW BORING! NO CHALLENGE! Therefore, NO INTEREST SEXUALLY. Nothing kills a chance to have sex with a girl than pretending to be her GIRLFRIEND. Girls like to have girlfriends. So, why ruin the relationship? She might even want to dress him up and have him put on makeup!

GIRLS WANT WHAT THEY CANNOT HAVE!

They want a guy who is a work-in-progress. Someone they can change. NOW THERE'S A CHALLENGE! Now she's interested and intrigued. Sex with this badboy would be so wrong, bad and dirty - HOW EXCITING! Maybe I can change him.

Poorboy, you have a few options left.

1. Go to the gym, workout, lose weight, get buff and then try again - flirt with her.

2. Tell her that you think you may have missed an opportunity. Tell her that sometimes, you try so hard to be a gentleman that you fear doing something inappropriate. So, instead of taking a chance, you decide to err on the side of safety and do nothing. Tell her that if there was ever a chance for you and her, no matter how slim, that you would run with it.

3. Next time you two are sitting alone, tell her the following. "Oh my God - YOU LOOK SO INCREDIBLY SEXY. I WANT YOU SO BAD - RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW.". And then TAKE HER.

Good luck. And stop being so nice! It's too mushy. Women are attracted to a MAN. Be more manly.

 

[oldjones]

It means she's not nice enough. Whatever that means

 

[GlavaMan]

When she says you're too nice it really means you're too ugly.

BINGO!

 

[poorboy]

Thanks for the imput boys, but I'm hoping to hear more from the women. First off, she is not in the industry. She works as a checkout girl at the local grocery store. Last Christmas, I gave ther two small Godiva chocolates. Closer to Valentines day, I gave her four small chocolates. She started taking her break at the time I was shopping, and I would talk to her for a bit. I finally asked her out to ice cream, and she agreed. After that, she lost interest for a few months. Then I asked her out to coffee and she agreed. I made it obvious I liked her by holding her hand, running my fingers through her hair and listening to what she had to say. After that, she lost interest again. She's 21 and I'm 32, but she said she was ok with that.

When she told me I was too nice, I wrote an email back to her and asked if she wanted a bad boy that treated her poorly and puts her down and she was being immature. I told her she was going to get hurt. I told her that there are things I don't like about her (smokes, moody, gos out too much) but that I believe she is a fairly good girl. I told her that I may not be the one she marries, but the time we spend together would be worthwhile and that I want her to feel good about herself.

Borrowing excerpts from the "older man preference" post. I told her that she is not used to someone who knows what they want and am not afraid to show how I feel about her.

No reply back from her.

P.S. My mom says I am handsome Seriously though, I have been described as cute by non sp's

 

[hedway]

Poorboy, she's only 21 and this is the period of her life to be "bad". You're trying to change her, no wonder she's backed off. You're trying to rob her of all the life experiences she will probably regret, but look back fondly on ten years from now.

 

[wrong hole]

It means you have warts on your penis




*per other thread*

 

[dogman]

I have the same problem. When a " nice guy " likes me I have no interest in him. I dont know why it is but I like the bad guy/ good guy type and if he is too nice like holding doors, rubbing my feet, and always staring at me.
I just simply can not get interested no matter how cute he is. Maybe thats why im single lol

Now Alanassecret are you going to tell me that if a guy holds a door open for you and as you go by......he whispers to you that the reason he is holding it open for you is so that you will be in front of him and he can get an eyeful of your ass. Also he looks you straight in the eye and says to you while rubbing your feet that he likes to rub your feet so that he can spread your legs apart just enough to get a hint of what your pussy looks like in those tight jeans?

Now tell me you would not like to hear that........li'l miss bad ass?

Dogman

 

[shredder]

if he is too nice like holding doors, rubbing my feet, and always staring at me.
I just simply can not get interested no matter how cute he is.

I can see how that would get tiresome.

Poorboy, the women are not going to divulge their secret dictionary of terms on the board in public...especially the meaning of one of their best and most confusing terms i.e."too nice". Unfortunately you should just move on and let her seek out one dead end relationship after another. Based on your comments about your dislikes of her, I would say she's not for you and you're not for her. Take it for what it is and be friends or move on.

It would be simpler though if instead of some girl trying to soften it up by saying you're too nice, she could grow a pair and tell it straight up like it is...we'd all be better off.

 

[gramage]

I have the same problem. When a " nice guy " likes me I have no interest in him. I dont know why it is but I like the bad guy/ good guy type and if he is too nice like holding doors, rubbing my feet, and always staring at me.
I just simply can not get interested no matter how cute he is. Maybe thats why im single lol

damn alana have we met? I'm feeling deja-vu

 

[SirLickheralot]

From the sounds of it she may like you or she wouldn't keep seeing you but your clingyness is probably scaring her away. Whats with all the little gifts you keep giving her. To you it may seem like romantic little gestures but to her it may seem like a desperate attempt on your part to buy her affections, or at least your way into her pants.

Too many gifts, compliments, or other romantic gestures at this point in your friendship will probably seem phoney and insincere or desperate and cliggy, back off a little.

 

[BSR]

As another "nice guy" who's trying to change, take it from someone who's seen all his "bad boy" friends get married. She aint looking for mr Right. It's mr right now.

I have to agree with SirLickheralot. Too much complimenting and gifts are not what she's looking for. Give that to a 30 yr old. The 21 yr old wants you to take her to the back during her shift, and bang her from behind. 5 years from now, she'll want you banging her from the front, but still at work. And 5 years after that, she'll take your chocolate and not give you that BJ she promised. Besides. No matter what others may tell you, 11 years is too much of an age difference. Unless you just wanna fuck her.

 

[The Doctor]

She's looking for a guy who's definition of safe sex is remembering to put the parking brake on.





(yes, I stole it...)

 

[sexy lady]

yes that is what it mean, that u might not be what she is looking for look wise and she was being nice in telling u that. sorry dude

 

[dogman]

Now Alanassecret are you going to tell me that if a guy holds a door open for you and as you go by......he whispers to you that the reason he is holding it open for you is so that you will be in front of him and he can get an eyeful of your ass. Also he looks you straight in the eye and says to you while rubbing your feet that he likes to rub your feet so that he can spread your legs apart just enough to get a hint of what your pussy looks like in those tight jeans?

Now tell me you would not like to hear that........li'l miss bad ass?

Dogman [/QUOTE

haha very funny but then again he wouldn't be the " nice guy" im talking about he would for sure be my bad ass... damn where can I find that man???

Well I know where he is right now.........however I have no idea where he (I) will be when you read this........

 

[The Doctor]

Unfortunately some guys don't have it in them to treat the girl like crap even if it is in futherance of sex. You can't change who you are just like she can't change who she is. Even if they did try to change, thier relationship would be based on personas that are fake and that's not something that will last.

 

[Bud Plug]

The one thing that "you're nice" doesn't mean is that that she actually thinks that you're nice. She is just cushioning the blow for you that she's not interested in you.

Nice guys don't finish last. Women just don't tell them that they're nice!

Women like nice guys, but in the same way that men consider women, it takes a lot more than that to get a woman sexually interested in you.

Being a nice guy is like saying "I'm a hard worker". Anybody can be a hard worker. In fact, it's expected. What would make you special is if you were an excellent worker (quality, not effort). Same thing with women, you've got to be more than nice.

 

[dogman]

For all you guys that are confused as to what is meant by the expression..."you're too nice" and think that treting a woman badly is the way out..............WRONG....... Do yourself a favour and go out and rent the video............9 1/2 weeks........take it as an educational film........most women want to be Kim Bassinger in that movie.........she is not treated poorly........she is treated extremely well sexually and mentally. Take whomever the male star was, his attitude toward life........that is what a woman wants to see in you........not some pansy assed boy who will worship the ground she walks on........do that once and become her bitch......show her some raw animal magnetism and she's yours for at least 9 1/2 weeks......lol

Dogman

 

[medblue]

I'll use that info. I'll tell the dancer "you are too nice" "no" lol