Is it so wrong to fall in love with a stripper?

[Never Compromised]

Is it possible to change her? is there a happy ending for us if we keep seeing each other? Why is it so hard for her to get out and to get a real job? I never believe in fairy tales but now I am begging to be in one.

You are a walking ATM, nothing more to her. No matter what she says or how she begs you to stay, the bitter reality is that she has been lying to you from the start and has taken advantage of you.

Time to cut your loses and move on. You are not the first, and you will not be the last.

 

[Cobster]

THank you so much for your kind reply!....I first thought she really needs money to pay for the bills. She is not doing drug or has no any addicts which I really like about her. I always think she is doing this for a reason to save money. She is from a single family. She is even a suicidal...I really feel sympathy for her..Although I sometimes will doubt if she is telling me the truth...I support her because I don't want her to work too hard and worry about her safety...I don't want her to treat me like any of her clients because that is not what I want...

You need to stop giving her money and see how she reacts towards you, that may open your eyes a little bit.
Try it and then tell us how it works out.

 

[rafterman]

You need to stop giving her money and see how she reacts towards you, that may open your eyes a little bit.
Try it and then tell us how it works out.

Ha ha ha....better yet ask her if she can "lend" you $500 for a few days cause you misplaced your bank card.

 

[basketcase]

Just simplify things. Call the agency she SP's for and book her time. It would be much cheaper.

 

[Dr69]

It is not clear from your posts what sort of relationship you have.

Are you even having sex with her?

 

[mmmhungry]

OMG 4-6K a month?

Are you serious dude! How old are you by the way?

How did you end up seding that much money every month?
Did she ask for it or did you insist on assisting her?
either way, that's just stupid.
STOP SENDING THE MONEY.. you will never see her again.
(Maybe for couple more days while she tries to convince you to keep sending her the cheque)


P.S I'm sorry OP but this is funny. Can't believe this guy is serious.
Do any of you guys actually send that much money to your GF each month?

 

[Whosyodaddy]

www.catharticlament.com

 

[Asterix]

Has it occurred to anyone that the OP is simply posting this for shits and giggles?

 

[funtimeca]

OMG 4-6K a month?

Are you serious dude! How old are you by the way?

How did you end up seding that much money every month?
Did she ask for it or did you insist on assisting her?
either way, that's just stupid.
STOP SENDING THE MONEY.. you will never see her again.
(Maybe for couple more days while she tries to convince you to keep sending her the cheque)


P.S I'm sorry OP but this is funny. Can't believe this guy is serious.
Do any of you guys actually send that much money to your GF each month?

Thank you for your kind advice! It is so hard to write down everything after seeing this girl for half year. She is a highly depressed person and suicidal. I saw the scar on her hand and really feel sympathy for her. She said she doesn't trust men and wants me to give her enough time to form boned. That is why I spend money on her and keep seeing her. I want to show her that I am willing to do my best to support her financially. But I could also offer her something that money can't buy and mentally support her when she is facing problems in life.
Regarding the money, I can see she is not satisfied with the amount I spend on her. She did imply that she could easily make thousand dollars a night at the club. Instead she is willing to spend time with me. I am not a club person and am not quite sure how much indeed she makes a night. If it is the case, 4k-6k for her is not a lot ..
I just need to clear my mind now...

 

[CapitalGuy]

You are a serious, university-educated manager/entrepreneur working in a successful family business with global concerns. You shouldn't be dating anyone in the sex trade. Enjoy their services, by all means, but don't date anyone you couldn't bring to a family function without having to tell lies about who she is and what she does. For serious relationships, stay in your own social circles.

 

[rama putri]

I take care of her financially and send her 4k-6k a month.

It's not wrong at all. Just keep this up, increase it better than inflation plus a little extra, and it will last forever. Another happy fairy tale ending. Brings me to tears.

 

[Aardvark154]

Where you are wrong in my opinion is 1) in believing that you can love someone into changing the way you want them to be; and 2) starting a relationship with someone in the sex industry expecting her to quit her job for you.

Unfortunately Gen is correct.

Unfortunately (or fortunately) most of us are hypocrites when we love someone. We want them to be in a 9-5 not sharing their sexual favours with the likes of the rest of us here.

 

[Aardvark154]

Thanks! Bro..Ya..Everytime I talk to her is making me even more depressed. She has so many excuses. I think there is no trust. People always say strippers are human. I respect them. That is why I try so hard to make something happen.

Different set of circumstances Funtimeca, but for all intents and purposes these are the famous “Red Flags” of dating someone from another country. You are unfortunately "In love with love," and regretfully I know the symptoms well.


I very much regret to remind you that no matter how badly you would like her to, "you can't make a leopard change its spots", or put another way "you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink." If she really wanted to, she would be exploring the possiblities of getting out of the industry - however you will note that she is not.

Sorry to hear about your hurt. But in your heart you know the answer.

 

[dagwood69]

probably not

I,m not sure on statistics but I,d figure most SC girls would either go through life unmarried or inhabit w non s/c guys...It takes a special person to live a life w a girl in the industry, maybe after they retire is easier?

 

[Toke]

WTF???????????????

Are you serious?

To answer the title question... It's not wrong.

After that, you lost me. $4-6k/month? Help? Dude that's $48-72k a year... TAX FREE!! Help?

Stop sending money. If she hangs around and is 'true' then help her, but cut the payments. You're not helping her, you're trying to purchase her.

STOP SENDING MONEY!!!

Take a read at this. It may not all apply but I'm sure it should trigger something.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sugar_daddy_(slang)#Slang_terms

 

[Hunkintoronto]

Man...u give 4k to 6k a month? U must be rich....oh my.

 

[Hunkintoronto]

Go out to other clubs, meet more people.
Open your mind....see from other perspective and find the answer for yourself.

 

[Dr69]

You are not even sleeping with her are you?

 

[maverick]

Thank you for your kind advice! It is so hard to write down everything after seeing this girl for half year. She is a highly depressed person and suicidal. I saw the scar on her hand and really feel sympathy for her. She said she doesn't trust men and wants me to give her enough time to form boned. That is why I spend money on her and keep seeing her. I want to show her that I am willing to do my best to support her financially. But I could also offer her something that money can't buy and mentally support her when she is facing problems in life.
Regarding the money, I can see she is not satisfied with the amount I spend on her. She did imply that she could easily make thousand dollars a night at the club. Instead she is willing to spend time with me. I am not a club person and am not quite sure how much indeed she makes a night. If it is the case, 4k-6k for her is not a lot ..
I just need to clear my mind now...

are you for real? if this isn't a troll post and pure b/s, then you have to big one gullible fool.

if this is for real, then you need to grow a set of balls to realize you're being taking for a ride. thousand dollars a night is not easily done without doing extras.

and you want to save her? hahaha... you're in for a surprise when you wake up from this fantasy you've created...

 

[nolabel]

Dude, there's a few marbles loose in your skull. Seriously. I've been waiting for your reply to everyone, the one that begins with "bugger, I am an idiot...".