Angela you are right. You say it like it is. i may not agree with your view on some things but I respect your honesty and straitforwardness.
Is a massage "cheating"?
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Angela@Mirage said:
Hey I don't really care but the above comment doesn't match with the previous statements you made, like this one:
This comment tells me you do seek out partners outside your business and that really is all that I was commenting on. My position remains the same, that relationships often involve compromise something from your post(s) is clearly not part of your mind set and that this lack of compromise, from my own experience can cause a lot of loneliness no matter what your business is.
How you make your money is not my concern, nor would I ever comment on that. Frankly I really don't care about your resume.
We just have different views I guess on this subject.
sean
Angela@Mirage said:
As long as it is safe sex between consenting adults behind closed doors (yes, please close the door) and no animals or minor children are involved, it is nobody's business.
seaniam said:
You might be confusing compromise with capitulation. If you live a non-monogamous lifestyle, there WILL be certain things you won't budge on, like switching to monogamy. Ethical non-monogamy actually stresses compromise (and time-management) skills. If your partner feels uncomfortable or bothered by something in your behaviour, then the two (or more) of you sit down and discuss it ASAP. You re-negotiate.
I understand Angela's position, and her comments don't seem contradictory to me. It's merely where she's coming from. The fact that sex with others is part of her work environment will lead to lots of negotiation with her partner. It has to, because sex is so strongly associated with intimacy and feelings.
Is it more difficult to find an understanding partner when you work in the sex trade? Definitely. Does it lead to loneliness? Not at all.
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That is true with most men even if they are involved in a serious relationship.
I know others who have worked it out and found open minded SO . I have had no such luck..
a 1 player said:I just need to get laid.
That is true with most men even if they are involved in a serious relationship.
I know others who have worked it out and found open minded SO . I have had no such luck..
I have a couple of FWB, so it usually is not a problem for me, but it is noon and they are all working at the moment dammit.Tiffany_69 said:
Angela@Mirage said:
You didn't.
No I think compromise was what I was getting at, and I agree 110% with you about renegotiate, that of course is healthy in any relationship. I also agree with you about your point on finding an understanding partner when you're in the Adult Entertainment business.
I was only commenting on Angela's unyielding position here which I'm not a big fan of and I do find them somewhat in conflict. I mean no offense to Angela we simply have different opinions.
sean
Hmmm. it seems to me that "cheating" is such a variable term.
Some folks consider cheating to be different than others.
Taken to the extreme, you have the fundamental folks of many religions, who clothe their women in long dresses and drab colours, who discourage men from even looking at other women, who make such acts "sinful".
I remember my beloved mother once threatening me with dire consequences just for touching my dick. (She was ashamed of me and that reaction no doubt changed my view of my own sexuality. but that's another thread)
The range of behaviour that defines "cheating" varies widely between cultures and from person to person.
I think cheating is best defined by say that its behaviour with another you would not tell your beloved about.
Some folks consider cheating to be different than others.
Taken to the extreme, you have the fundamental folks of many religions, who clothe their women in long dresses and drab colours, who discourage men from even looking at other women, who make such acts "sinful".
I remember my beloved mother once threatening me with dire consequences just for touching my dick. (She was ashamed of me and that reaction no doubt changed my view of my own sexuality. but that's another thread)
The range of behaviour that defines "cheating" varies widely between cultures and from person to person.
I think cheating is best defined by say that its behaviour with another you would not tell your beloved about.
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Angela@Mirage said:
OMIGAWD,
I haven't creamed my jeans in ten years. You are so fucking hot.
EU
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Hypothesis
One major point here is the evolutionary differences. Females can have a very limited number of offspring in their lifetime - 20 to 30 tops.
With men it is unlimited.
Therefore, to ensure their offspring survive females need a loyal partner because humans take years to become independent of their parents.
Men, on the other hand, can produce so many they do not share the same feelings. If a few of their offspring do not survive WTF? they can have millions so they spread their chances around and that is what you do when you get your "massage". Even though there is no sex you are still satisfying the urge.
This is a genetic difference. If your partner can not handle this then SHUT THE F**k UP.
Hypothesis
One major point here is the evolutionary differences. Females can have a very limited number of offspring in their lifetime - 20 to 30 tops.
With men it is unlimited.
Therefore, to ensure their offspring survive females need a loyal partner because humans take years to become independent of their parents.
Men, on the other hand, can produce so many they do not share the same feelings. If a few of their offspring do not survive WTF? they can have millions so they spread their chances around and that is what you do when you get your "massage". Even though there is no sex you are still satisfying the urge.
This is a genetic difference. If your partner can not handle this then SHUT THE F**k UP.
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