Is a massage "cheating"?

[genintoronto]

These "Is [fill in the blank with whatever activity] cheating?" threads always amuse me.

If you are in a relationship where intimate exclusivity is part of the agreement, shouldn't you figure out with your partner what they consider to be 'intimate' rather than with a bunch of strangers online? And shoudn't you figure this out before doing something that your partner may consider breaking this agreement, rather than after?

Isn't it obvious to everybody by now that we don't all share the same understandings of what is 'cheating' and what is not? From there, isn't it obvious that the key is to find someone with whom you share the same understandings and agree on the same boundaries?

 

[wantoplay]

I don't seek out relationships. I am in the entertainment industry. I fuck men for a living. Do you really think I have the audacity to tell another person what to do? I have stripped, made porn, worked massage, and i escort. Let's be real.

Honesty is the best policy. I would date you in a heart beat, I really don't care what you do to pay the bills.

 

[Pleezerwell]

Stop...

These "Is [fill in the blank with whatever activity] cheating?" threads always amuse me.

If you are in a relationship where intimate exclusivity is part of the agreement, shouldn't you figure out with your partner what they consider to be 'intimate' rather than with a bunch of strangers online? And shoudn't you figure this out before doing something that your partner may consider breaking this agreement, rather than after?

Isn't it obvious to everybody by now that we don't all share the same understandings of what is 'cheating' and what is not? From there, isn't it obvious that the key is to find someone with whom you share the same understandings and agree on the same boundaries?

...making sense!

With deference to the many good replies...the above is the best piece of advice, imho.

PW