I totally agree with you. I wouldn't have started this if I knew how costly is this hobby going to be. Now I am addicted and hopeless. Just keep doing it until I run out the
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.I for one wish I didn't, but with that said there was a time in my life when this hobby was a saving grace.
If you can afford it and it doesn't affect your personal life, then ya, what is there to regret?
It can definately be dangerous though, and time consuming for us addicts. I could spend all day browsing ads and agency websites to see who's on, which definately affects my work and a bit of my home life.
It's the fact that I haven't been able to stop despite knowing it's having a negative affect on my life that makes me wish I never started.
The experiences however... God damn.. pretty tough to regret those lol
If you can afford it and it doesn't affect your personal life, then ya, what is there to regret?
It can definately be dangerous though, and time consuming for us addicts. I could spend all day browsing ads and agency websites to see who's on, which definately affects my work and a bit of my home life.
It's the fact that I haven't been able to stop despite knowing it's having a negative affect on my life that makes me wish I never started.
The experiences however... God damn.. pretty tough to regret those lol
It's a great question. It was a perfect solution to a separation at first, but now I look at attractive young ladies and think seriously what it would be like to be with them, even though if I ever approached I would not stand a chance. But having young beauties from this industry treat me so well it does not feel like a professional interaction, and hence biases my mind into thinking there is a better than 1 in a million chance lol.
The other way it affects is I don't know what it's like to date for real again. To overnight. To chat, attract, and address the possibilities of intimacy, versus the simplicity of "have a shower and get on the job" with women out of my league that this industry affords. To feel that I have to shower right before sex or else I can't do it. Maybe meeting the right person solves this. But i just dont know.
Glad I did this though. Met many super fantastic ladies. Fulfilled numerous fantasies built up over the single days plus 20 years of monogamy. Regrets are more about what you didn't do. Thus those regrets are gone.
The decompression created by the pandemic would enable me to walk away though. Prepandemic...Maybe more addicted.
The other way it affects is I don't know what it's like to date for real again. To overnight. To chat, attract, and address the possibilities of intimacy, versus the simplicity of "have a shower and get on the job" with women out of my league that this industry affords. To feel that I have to shower right before sex or else I can't do it. Maybe meeting the right person solves this. But i just dont know.
Glad I did this though. Met many super fantastic ladies. Fulfilled numerous fantasies built up over the single days plus 20 years of monogamy. Regrets are more about what you didn't do. Thus those regrets are gone.
The decompression created by the pandemic would enable me to walk away though. Prepandemic...Maybe more addicted.
There are a lot of decisions I would be able to correct, but I'd' be scared of triggering some aspect of the butterfly effect...
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Interesting opines by those who say they would not. I suppose I said I would because it doesn't seem to have the same control over my life it does on others. When I started dating a civvie early last year, all my hobbying ceased. And I don't miss it, because said civvie keeps me quite satisfied. If her and I were to go our separate ways, I'd jump right back into hobbying, no question.
Sure...otherwise where would I have learned about rimming, COF, Chinese duos in Beijing, anal sex, face-fucking, and at some point in the near future...ladyboys?
I would definitely have started hobbying.
But since you're letting us "go back in time"... I would center my hobbying life on a point further back in time.
For while the internet has increased the supply and brought better quality individuals AS the supply, the online world cannot match the awe known to a younger me when meandering about on crowded downtown strolls way back when.
Doing diligent research on TERB or anywhere, while intoxicating in its own way, doesn't get anywhere near to the exhilarating feeling of wandering along a stroll and seeing so many prospects fully dressed to the nines and making their intentions ever so clear.
I just found that I missed the golden years of a number of various spots by just a few years. If you're patient and not too spontaneous, you can hone a pretty good sense of what sorts of personalities you'd likely gel with once you picked out a lady on the stroll.
Now if only I could go back in time with a whole lot more money to spend...
The only way I wouldn't have started is if my balls were lost in a tragic accident as a toddler. The positive side of that fate is that I would have enough money to buy a beach house in the Barbados - the negative side is that I would be chasing topless girls off my beach and threaten to call the cops if they return.
Absolutely. Wish I could have started younger. However the pre-internet age wasn't as good for hobbying.
No regrets. Had so much fun and hope there's tons more to come!
When I see escorts for a brief moment I get to live like a rock star or James Bond.
When I was a teenager I never would have imagined that I would be living like this in my 50s.
No regrets. Had so much fun and hope there's tons more to come!
When I see escorts for a brief moment I get to live like a rock star or James Bond.
When I was a teenager I never would have imagined that I would be living like this in my 50s.
I started hobbying shortly after the sex in my marriage ended, and we were staying together just for the kids. I have no guilt about that, and I would not have started earlier, when the marriage was OK.
These days, and at my advanced age, it is the main source of pleasure in my life. I've lost my desire for any of my previous hobbies such as golf, tennis, playing guitar and sax, and I have no interest in the effort, expense, and complications of dating civilians subsequent to my divorce in early 2020.
I get up inthe morning these days with a spring in my step on those days where I have an mpa or sp date planned, and always enjoy that special "first time" anticipation and thrill when meeting a new lady in the industry, especially when the session is better than I anticipated.
Also I find with my few regulars that whatever "connection" we have established, while obviously an illusion, is more than enough to satisfy my minimal need for "romance".
These days, and at my advanced age, it is the main source of pleasure in my life. I've lost my desire for any of my previous hobbies such as golf, tennis, playing guitar and sax, and I have no interest in the effort, expense, and complications of dating civilians subsequent to my divorce in early 2020.
I get up inthe morning these days with a spring in my step on those days where I have an mpa or sp date planned, and always enjoy that special "first time" anticipation and thrill when meeting a new lady in the industry, especially when the session is better than I anticipated.
Also I find with my few regulars that whatever "connection" we have established, while obviously an illusion, is more than enough to satisfy my minimal need for "romance".
I've lost my desire for any of my previous hobbies such as golf, tennis, playing guitar and sax
Me too. Too much sax and violins in my life.
yes I would go back in time and start even earlier.
in retrospect the amount of money I spent on clothes, dinners, time, etc I would be so further ahead if I just went and fucked a prostitute once or twice a week.
the juice isnt worth the squeeze.
in retrospect the amount of money I spent on clothes, dinners, time, etc I would be so further ahead if I just went and fucked a prostitute once or twice a week.
the juice isnt worth the squeeze.
If I could go back in time to a pivotal age, say 20, I would not care less about the hobby as it was irrelevant to my life then as frankly it is now. (Because I didn't hobby then and I don't now.) I just hang around here for the cast of characters.
But if I could go back in time to age 20 knowing what I know now I'd take a very different path with respect to my choice of educational path and vocation. And I'd avoid the one young woman who was the love of my life but never worked out. (Just because the emotional cost and the cost in years wasted was just too high.)
Like the old song goes, "regrets?, I've had a few".
But if I could go back in time to age 20 knowing what I know now I'd take a very different path with respect to my choice of educational path and vocation. And I'd avoid the one young woman who was the love of my life but never worked out. (Just because the emotional cost and the cost in years wasted was just too high.)
Like the old song goes, "regrets?, I've had a few".
You need to lick a pussy for $$$$$ and then watch her gobble and spit on little James. Just one time and you will be hooked. Aim for about 21, sexy, fresh and BOOM, you will be walking with a skip and a hop in your step.
You're Welcome!
I wish I started earlier. I was late to the game but truly love our lifestyle.
