I might relapse into booking sex workers

[Tashki]

It’s been a little over two months since I last booked a provider. It’s a pretty good milestone to say the least; I saved a decent amount of money as a result. I also saw a therapist as well. They helped me unpack a lot of things and some of the things they were saying were aligned with what some of you guys were telling me for years.

The objective for me was to develop personal relationships with women because most of my sexual experiences with women were professional. I was seriously questioning my worth as a man towards women because the only way a woman would give me any kind of companionship was when I had to pay her for it.

I’ve been heavily penetrating through the dating market like I have never did before; I would go every weekend and meet dozens upon dozens of women on the street, bar and clubs and faced countless rejections but I kept pushing. Since the two months that I stopped booking providers, I only ended up on two instant dates (it’s when you take a lady out somewhere on the day or night you just met her). None of those instances lead to sex though.

My level of perseverance in romantically pursuing has gotten higher but I have been craving for physical intimacy again.

 

[drlove]

There’s nothing wrong with seeking professional companionship, so there’s no need to feel ashamed or “less than”. Honestly, it’s probably a better option since it removes all the barriers, games etc.. That leaves you a lot more relaxed and carefree when pursuing civilians. Remember, it doesn’t matter how many girls say no… it only matters when one says yes! Good luck out there…

 

[Butler1000]

Sometimes a "dry spell" can be good for you. It can mature you and clarify thoughts.

I'm not a therapist but the best stage I think can man can get to is the "I don't give a shit stage" when it comes to sex. By removing the desperation in you, you will become more desirable. You will also become yourself, confident, and instead develop the skill sets that make a man a man.

There isn't a magic formula. But solitude, introspective thought, and achieving through self determination and reliance are some seriously empowering moments.

Don't concentrate on what women want. They are so mercurial, emotional and at times bat shit crazy, THEY don't know. Instead set goals for personal improvement not with the intention of getting girls but becoming a better man. For yourself.

Finally becoming a bit of an asshole is what every man needs. Learning to say no to women, to walking away from them, to not simping, is the best thing you can do.

So honestly, imo, stop trying to date. Set realistic goals whether phyical health, breaking bad habits career improvement, monetary improvement. Avoid quick fixes, materialistic fixes, and all advice from Women. Achieve goals and set more. Simple ones. Learn your real worth and value. Its there. You have it. Just find it.

Good luck.

 

[thumper18474]

Sometimes a "dry spell" can be good for you. It can mature you and clarify thoughts.

I'm not a therapist but the best stage I think can man can get to is the "I don't give a shit stage" when it comes to sex. By removing the desperation in you, you will become more desirable. You will also become yourself, confident, and instead develop the skill sets that make a man a man.

There isn't a magic formula. But solitude, introspective thought, and achieving through self determination and reliance are some seriously empowering moments.

Don't concentrate on what women want. They are so mercurial, emotional and at times bat shit crazy, THEY don't know. Instead set goals for personal improvement not with the intention of getting girls but becoming a better man. For yourself.

Finally becoming a bit of an asshole is what every man needs. Learning to say no to women, to walking away from them, to not simping, is the best thing you can do.

So honestly, imo, stop trying to date. Set realistic goals whether phyical health, breaking bad habits career improvement, monetary improvement. Avoid quick fixes, materialistic fixes, and all advice from Women. Achieve goals and set more. Simple ones. Learn your real worth and value. Its there. You have it. Just find it.

Good luck.

Just when you think you're out....
They pull you back in!!!

 

[Butler1000]

Just when you think you're out....
They pull you back in!!!

That's the thing. I had a few dry spells lasted awhile(one just under a year). It was when I stopped caring about that they ended. And the rain would fall.

 

[MorganStanley1]

It’s been a little over two months since I last booked a provider. It’s a pretty good milestone to say the least; I saved a decent amount of money as a result. I also saw a therapist as well. They helped me unpack a lot of things and some of the things they were saying were aligned with what some of you guys were telling me for years.

The objective for me was to develop personal relationships with women because most of my sexual experiences with women were professional. I was seriously questioning my worth as a man towards women because the only way a woman would give me any kind of companionship was when I had to pay her for it.

I’ve been heavily penetrating through the dating market like I have never did before; I would go every weekend and meet dozens upon dozens of women on the street, bar and clubs and faced countless rejections but I kept pushing. Since the two months that I stopped booking providers, I only ended up on two instant dates (it’s when you take a lady out somewhere on the day or night you just met her). None of those instances lead to sex though.

My level of perseverance in romantically pursuing has gotten higher but I have been craving for physical intimacy again.

Hey man, I am sure everyone has felt the same way as you as some point. Here is what worked for me:

Go to bed at 9-10pm. Set an alarm for 6-7am. Jerk off only once per day - in bed before you fall asleep.

Dont eat unnecessary sugars - have a little fruit and one small piece of 100% dark chocolate per day - in the morning. Shower daily.

Put a little sign on your mirror to remind yourself that - today is the best day of your life - that the key to your better future is you. Listen to Jim Rohn -

Go for at least a 1 hour walk daily and try to work up to a mentality of - leaving it all behind. Once you walk out your door listen to the wind, the birds, the trees. Breathe. Then walk and breathe. Be in the now. Try out the Wim Hof method:

Be kind to yourself. Your life is finite. Everyones direction in reality is different. We can't compare ourselves to other peoples paths, to their realities. We can only better our understanding of our perception to impact our reality. Others will make their own decisions.

Lastly, remember that you are loved. If you don't have anyone - family, friends etc. Or if you don't believe in god - thats fine. Just remember that you have you. Seeing sps is fine. Eating cake is fine. Yelling is fine. Playing games is fine. Do everything in moderation.

You got this!

 

[superman12]

It’s been a little over two months since I last booked a provider. It’s a pretty good milestone to say the least; I saved a decent amount of money as a result. I also saw a therapist as well. They helped me unpack a lot of things and some of the things they were saying were aligned with what some of you guys were telling me for years.

The objective for me was to develop personal relationships with women because most of my sexual experiences with women were professional. I was seriously questioning my worth as a man towards women because the only way a woman would give me any kind of companionship was when I had to pay her for it.

I’ve been heavily penetrating through the dating market like I have never did before; I would go every weekend and meet dozens upon dozens of women on the street, bar and clubs and faced countless rejections but I kept pushing. Since the two months that I stopped booking providers, I only ended up on two instant dates (it’s when you take a lady out somewhere on the day or night you just met her). None of those instances lead to sex though.

My level of perseverance in romantically pursuing has gotten higher but I have been craving for physical intimacy again.

I have had phases like this in my life where i wanted to quit seeing escorts because of the stigma around it and I was also questioning my worth as a man when I couldn't get attention from women and the type of companionship I was looking for. Through the years I have understood that there is nothing to be ashamed about in seeking professional companionship from escorts. It really just depends on the lens you look at things from. When i was seeing providers in my 20's before meeting my SO I was admittedly becoming an addict to this hobby which was not good but at the same it was totally exhilarating being with so many different women on a monthly basis so I wouldn't really change anything . I'm still seeing escorts after meeting my SO but a lot less often and im realizing that it's doing wonders for my mental health and in a weird way actually makes me have a better relationship with my SO since I don't need to rely on her to fulfill sexual desires that she probably wouldnt be capable of fulfilling in the way I want anyways. Don't let society or people dictate what should make you happy as a man.

 

[goalie000]

Sometimes relapsing can be good.