To reproduce or not??
MLAM said:
...it would be a hard thing to explain to someone without kids.
MLAM, that was a putdown of a response. Basically you are saying that if one doesn't have kids they just wouldn't get it. I have children and I don't agree with a lot of what you said. I do agree about the love given and received in raising them.
But what about adoption? The point was why would they reproduce, not why would they want to have and raise kids.
The point about having biological offspring is that it is a step towards insuring your own immortality. You may die but your genes live on. I would prefer raising my biological offspring versus adopting for this reason (all other factors being equal).
We all understand that our biological offspring will not be perfect and will have some extra challenges because of it. This is normal and we don't think twice about it when the extra challenges are not dramatic. The whole situation takes on a different flavour when the
KNOWN odds are higher of greater problems. Would you create a child if you knew that the odds were 1 in 250,000 that the child will be 2" shorter than the national average? All but the most vain would say yes. Would you create a child if you knew that the the odds were 1 in 1,000,000 of the child being born with stumps for arms? I can't say what I would do. Fortunately I never had to make that decision. (Please note I am talking about conceiving a child
KNOWING the odds of a specific issue. As biological parents we all accept unknown odds of unknown problems when we conceive a child. Please also note I am not suggesting aborting the child assuming the issue becomes known after conception.) Would you deliberately create a biological child if you knew that the odds were 1 in 10 of the child being born with stumps for arms?
When the
KNOWN odds of the child having a major problem rise there comes a point when most would decide that passing their genes on might not be a good idea. At what odds and for what problem is a personal decision.
There are lots of wonderful people who give and receive a lot of love and have not created biological offspring.
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