Hyperdog,
what you're suffering from is not lack of confidence of or a deep level of insecurity.
what you're suffering from is what they call 'One-itus'.
1. Oneitis
Often confused with love, this is the feeling that a particular woman is actually special. This is just an illusion; she is the same as the other three or so billion. "Go fuck ten other women" is the most commonly prescribed treatment for this "disease" (hence the "itis"), as it tends to show quite quickly how very alike people are.
In other words, get over yourself and your obsession with that girl, because it's just an illusion. And when you get rejected, don't be depressed. Because there's really not much to worry about.
Dude, you definitely have oneitis for that girl. You've been talking about her nonstop for the past week. Don't you realize she's nothing special, and that you are just being fooled? Snap out of it so you won't be so depressed when she rejects you!
2. Oneitis
A social disease that affects millions of people - both male and female - that cockblocks a man or a woman from seducing or romancing a member of the opposite sex. Oneitis, is that social malady that results in a feeling that this person is totally special and unique and therefore one must not mess up anything with them. These confused "messed up" feelings then often mess up the chances of a person seducing their romantic victim brcause after all thier emotionjs tell them that they cannot be too careful, gentle, and that they cannot "act too foolish." OFten, Oneitis also confuses a person by making them worry too much about what other people will think of them or worse what thier romantic victim will think of them, and thus that simply cannot do what is necessary to seduce thier romantic prey.
Normally, a person does not get over oneitis until they are fairly sexually and romantically experienced with several partners - that is because at that point a person may realize they are not that different from each other, the romantic victims, and that each of them was not special and unique, and if one is to seduce their romantic victims and have their romantic victim in thier hands they must not develop oneitis. In other words, oneitis is often overcome with experience and practice - that is what a seducer must accomplish if they are to truly be a master of their craft.
Some helpful advice for getting over oneitis during a seduction is never stop flirting with other girls.
3. Oneitis
The dreaded "One-Itis," otherwise known as the ailment of liking that "One Special Girl" and wanting her more than any other woman on earth. A want so intense, that it's actually painful.
A feeling of intense wanting and need for a particular woman and only this woman.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=oneitis
Remember when i told you that you have to make a move, read the signals which you should interpret as either a green light, yellow light or red light - and depending on what light you get - green light - you make your move asap and ask her out (because a relationship is 99% based on chemistry, physical attraction, appearances) and there's very little need for too much personality, charm, funny, witty banter (guys can say the dumbest things and still get the girl...) simply because she finds you good looking enough to get to know (personality always comes later, your looks are what get your foot in the door) is why you need to just make your move and ask her out in the simplest fashion necessary. Just ask her if she wants to see the art museum, whatever, doesn't have to be exceedingly creative....IF YOU GET A GREEN LIGHT.
and ONE-ITUS, in this case, is IF YOU GET A RED LIGHT. This is where guys generally fall into the category of stalkers and creepy. When they don't MOVE ON. If a girl gives you a RED LIGHT and you know she's not interested, then you MOVE ON to the next girl. This keeps you from falling into the category of becoming stalkerish and/or creepy. Cause she gave you the RED LIGHT and you're still thinking of sending her messages via facebook, leaving her notes in her work mailbox, etc etc.
YOU SIMPLY HAVE TO TEST FOR SOME SLIGHT SIGN THAT SHE IS INTERESTED IN YOU AND YOU MAKE YOUR MOVE / ASK HER OUT. If she says No thanks. YOU MOVE ON TO THE NEXT GIRL. DO NOT OBSESS ABOUT IT OR HER. DO NOT THINK ABOUT TRYING AGAIN. DO NOT THINK ABOUT LEAVING HER NOTES. NO MEANS IM NOT INTERESTED.
If you do MOVE ON, you might be surprised. She might come up to you one day out of the blue and say, Hey, I noticed you haven't been around and was wondering if you were avoiding me?
THAT, MY GOOD SIR, IS A GREEN LIGHT to ask her out. RIGHT ON THE SPOT.
Otherwise, if you get a red light or the signal that she is not interested. YOU MOVE THE FUC.K ON.
There are about a dozen sources on the internet that explain the concept of oneitus. You are putting way too much pressure on yourself on this ONE WOMAN. It's like she's the only girl in the entire planet. She isn't the only girl. Just ask her out and if she says no, then MOVE ON to the next girl.
http://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/oneitus-vt20228.html
what you're suffering from is not lack of confidence of or a deep level of insecurity.
what you're suffering from is what they call 'One-itus'.
1. Oneitis
Often confused with love, this is the feeling that a particular woman is actually special. This is just an illusion; she is the same as the other three or so billion. "Go fuck ten other women" is the most commonly prescribed treatment for this "disease" (hence the "itis"), as it tends to show quite quickly how very alike people are.
In other words, get over yourself and your obsession with that girl, because it's just an illusion. And when you get rejected, don't be depressed. Because there's really not much to worry about.
Dude, you definitely have oneitis for that girl. You've been talking about her nonstop for the past week. Don't you realize she's nothing special, and that you are just being fooled? Snap out of it so you won't be so depressed when she rejects you!
2. Oneitis
A social disease that affects millions of people - both male and female - that cockblocks a man or a woman from seducing or romancing a member of the opposite sex. Oneitis, is that social malady that results in a feeling that this person is totally special and unique and therefore one must not mess up anything with them. These confused "messed up" feelings then often mess up the chances of a person seducing their romantic victim brcause after all thier emotionjs tell them that they cannot be too careful, gentle, and that they cannot "act too foolish." OFten, Oneitis also confuses a person by making them worry too much about what other people will think of them or worse what thier romantic victim will think of them, and thus that simply cannot do what is necessary to seduce thier romantic prey.
Normally, a person does not get over oneitis until they are fairly sexually and romantically experienced with several partners - that is because at that point a person may realize they are not that different from each other, the romantic victims, and that each of them was not special and unique, and if one is to seduce their romantic victims and have their romantic victim in thier hands they must not develop oneitis. In other words, oneitis is often overcome with experience and practice - that is what a seducer must accomplish if they are to truly be a master of their craft.
Some helpful advice for getting over oneitis during a seduction is never stop flirting with other girls.
3. Oneitis
The dreaded "One-Itis," otherwise known as the ailment of liking that "One Special Girl" and wanting her more than any other woman on earth. A want so intense, that it's actually painful.
A feeling of intense wanting and need for a particular woman and only this woman.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=oneitis
Remember when i told you that you have to make a move, read the signals which you should interpret as either a green light, yellow light or red light - and depending on what light you get - green light - you make your move asap and ask her out (because a relationship is 99% based on chemistry, physical attraction, appearances) and there's very little need for too much personality, charm, funny, witty banter (guys can say the dumbest things and still get the girl...) simply because she finds you good looking enough to get to know (personality always comes later, your looks are what get your foot in the door) is why you need to just make your move and ask her out in the simplest fashion necessary. Just ask her if she wants to see the art museum, whatever, doesn't have to be exceedingly creative....IF YOU GET A GREEN LIGHT.
and ONE-ITUS, in this case, is IF YOU GET A RED LIGHT. This is where guys generally fall into the category of stalkers and creepy. When they don't MOVE ON. If a girl gives you a RED LIGHT and you know she's not interested, then you MOVE ON to the next girl. This keeps you from falling into the category of becoming stalkerish and/or creepy. Cause she gave you the RED LIGHT and you're still thinking of sending her messages via facebook, leaving her notes in her work mailbox, etc etc.
YOU SIMPLY HAVE TO TEST FOR SOME SLIGHT SIGN THAT SHE IS INTERESTED IN YOU AND YOU MAKE YOUR MOVE / ASK HER OUT. If she says No thanks. YOU MOVE ON TO THE NEXT GIRL. DO NOT OBSESS ABOUT IT OR HER. DO NOT THINK ABOUT TRYING AGAIN. DO NOT THINK ABOUT LEAVING HER NOTES. NO MEANS IM NOT INTERESTED.
If you do MOVE ON, you might be surprised. She might come up to you one day out of the blue and say, Hey, I noticed you haven't been around and was wondering if you were avoiding me?
THAT, MY GOOD SIR, IS A GREEN LIGHT to ask her out. RIGHT ON THE SPOT.
Otherwise, if you get a red light or the signal that she is not interested. YOU MOVE THE FUC.K ON.
There are about a dozen sources on the internet that explain the concept of oneitus. You are putting way too much pressure on yourself on this ONE WOMAN. It's like she's the only girl in the entire planet. She isn't the only girl. Just ask her out and if she says no, then MOVE ON to the next girl.
http://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/oneitus-vt20228.html
