how to get a guy to commit to a relationship

[sexy lady]

hi everyone, just wanted to know how i can get someone to commit to a relationship without any pressure, because u know that when a man is pressured in to a relationship they run the other way. Any suggestions.

Thanks
Sexy lady

 

[Cardinal Fang]

Not to sound too critical but if he himself is not willing to commit on his own why would you want to "get him" to commit? How is that different from pressuring him? Maybe it's just me but it sounds strange to me.

 

[Bud Plug]

No guy knows how this is done. We just think it somehow "happened to us"!

For advice on the manipulation required, you'll have to hear from the ladies on the board.

 

[scubadoo]

Ask him if he wants both of you to be exclusive to one another.

Good advice.

Remember, you miss 100% of the shots you don't make!

 

[Berlin]

I agree with cardinal.

Don't even try to manipulate him if you really care about that person. Manipulation is only good for short term fix, and will back fire.

Just find a chance to talk to him, express how you feel , and let him know that you are not pressing for answer. Let fate be the guide and just go with the flow. Best of luck.

 

[hedway]

Sexy lady if what you want for yourself is a committed relationship, tell him. He might split for a bit, but if he comes back, he will be sure of his feelings for you, and you will be more sure of his commitment to you.

If he doesn't come up, well at least you have your answer, and you've probably saved yourself a lot of long term grief.

 

[The Doctor]

sexy lady, I'm trying to keep up with your threads, which have been very interesting BTW, but if I can summarize, you are in some form of a relationship, you've tried every sexual adventure we've been able to throw at you and from your most recent thread, you seem to be quite versed in BJ technique.

If all of these efforts do not result in a committed relationship then either the execution has gone terribly wrong or "That dog won't hunt!" You may just want to call it a day.

 

[Flower]

I agree with Cardinal Fang!

Not to sound too critical but if he himself is not willing to commit on his own why would you want to "get him" to commit? How is that different from pressuring him? Maybe it's just me but it sounds strange to me.

I would not want to trap or conspire to "get" anyone to commit to a relationship, nor would I want anyone to even attempt to do that to me.

If this troubles you or if you feel a need to be in a committed relationship with this person .. Tell him exactly that and he'll either agree with you or it may cause him to run. Either way, you'll be better off.

 

[sexy lady]

what will that solve

 

[The Doctor]

Probably nothing more than some TERBites fantasy

Sorry red.

 

[rdhaired_vixen]

Ya cant make someone care hon ,believe i know about this painfully aware of it.. you have to decide whether your willing to wait for this guy. but be warned ...sometimes it doesnt end up like you hope...its painful... and hard but you do build a great friendship.. perhaps if your ready and he's not you should keep the lines of dating open.. there maybe another great catch out there who is willing to commit. and theres nothing sexier than the oen who got away.....* le wink

 

[Bobzilla]

pressure

Ya know, sexy lady, if I didn't know better, I'd think you were the woman I broke up with today. I met her on New Year's Eve, we went out a couple of times, I didn't call her on Monday, & got deluged with emails & phone messages asking what the problem was....I wasn't aware we were supposed to talk every day...
Anyway, in regard to your question, you must have been tipped off by him if you're even asking this question. Give him the space he wants, but subtly remind him of the advantages of a committed relationship with you. (Added emphasis on "subtly")

Good luck,

Bobzilla

 

[tillithurts]

I said it before and I'll say it again

Show up naked and bring beer

 

[shredder]

I believe you can get the committment and love and have the sexual satisfaction as well. I don't believe that men just get an itch every couple of years. It may not be beyond men to think about sex with someone else, but to act upon that thought is inconcievable to most. I wouldn't say I fall into that category, but I think many do.

If you've tried everything sexy lady, you need to start looking at it from your perspective and not his. Is it worth it to continually work towards a committment with this guy, because you may get it and it could turn out to be exactly what ricahrgl claims.

 

[reaper29]

Let him bang other chicks and it wouldn't hurt if you could bring in some of your friends into it too!

 

[MindJohn]

hi everyone, just wanted to know how i can get someone to commit to a relationship without any pressure, because u know that when a man is pressured in to a relationship they run the other way. Any suggestions.

Thanks
Sexy lady

I want you to ask yourself if, deep down inside, you feel that many of your recent feelings and fears about this relationship have you interacting with the fear of losing the relationship and its potential if you appear to act too forwardly on your interest in drawing a commitment.

If that is the case, and you feel that every step you've been taking seems to be a tip-toed one held back by the concern over losing the relationship, then I say you should do the opposite of your instinct.

Let yourself get to a point where you really can dare to risk everything and convince yourself that you'll be OK if you do lose the guy. Only from that stance will you then put forth an almost aloof-seeming confidence that will actually draw him more near to you if he is the guy you really want in your future.

It is really difficult to face being able to let him go and upgrade your search for your true lifemate, but that is how you need to seem - willing to chance dropping everything depending upon his answer - to really pique his willingness to fish or cut bait.

I know that sounds scary, but please consider it after you think you fully understand what I'm saying.

Good luck to you.

 

[joebear]

you can never force the situation it will backfire no matter how hard you try.

let him go and see if he comes back.

 

[Tony-the-Tiger]

Commitment

So very often, isn't it the case where one is more in love with the other? One is so madly in love with the other person, that he/she dreams of a long-term relationship or even marriage while the other is just happy to hang out and have amazing sex. The one that is madly in love in this situation almost always gets their heart broken especially if the partner is dating and making out with others. This is one reason why relationships between sex-workers and non-sex workers usually have short tumultuous relationships. As strong as the relationship may seem, jealousy will eventually rear its ugly head.

 

[shack]

Tell him you're pregnant by him. It's a tried and proven method.

 

[einar]

Speak to him about what you desire in a relationship. Explain why commitment is important to you (if you can come up with a good reason). Then hope for the best, but don't expect much to change. You're announcing the end of the relationship, in my pessimistic estimation, but that might be a good thing.

Einar