How to choke an SP?

[Goodoer]

Same as most. I wouldn't want to try in case things went wrong.

This discussion brings me back 20+ years to a conversation that I had with an ex-GF. She told me about a 'bad boy' guy she dated after me that would come over late drunk/high and pretty much forcefully rape her. The white knight I was at the time was shocked... I was the guy who bought flowers, opened doors, clean cut, etc. That dude did the opposite. She'd know he was coming over, he'd fuck her and just leave. I guess she really liked it at the time? Yet she seem to imply it was a negative experience that she let happen over and over...

My wife also dated a guy like that (he had money)... Years ago, my ex-cop FIL wept over a Christmas Scotch when talking with me, saying how happy he was that she found me... How bad was this guy?! I had no idea before I was married.

How do women get caught up in relationships like these?

 

[Mr.Know-It-All]

Same as most. I wouldn't want to try in case things went wrong.

This discussion brings me back 20+ years to a conversation that I had with an ex-GF. She told me about a 'bad boy' guy she dated after me that would come over late drunk/high and pretty much forcefully rape her. The white knight I was at the time was shocked... I was the guy who bought flowers, opened doors, clean cut, etc. That dude did the opposite. She'd know he was coming over, he'd fuck her and just leave. I guess she really liked it at the time? Yet she seem to imply it was a negative experience that she let happen over and over...

My wife also dated a guy like that (he had money)... Years ago, my ex-cop FIL wept over a Christmas Scotch when talking with me, saying how happy he was that she found me... How bad was this guy?! I had no idea before I was married.

How do women get caught up in relationships like these?

Simply put, your ex and your wife were sexually attracted to those guys in their past. Think about females that you really desire sexually... they may be trash people but you have no control over what makes your dick hard. Likewise, females get wet for men they find physically attractive regardless of how "bad" the guy is, and will give up the pussy easily.

When a woman is not as sexually attracted to a man, she makes him work for it in the form of dinners, gifts, dates, and even then only offers it up sparingly.

 

[massman]

Yes, I thought of this movie too when I saw this thread.

 

[poker]

It had been just over 3 weeks, and the Dr’s could not bring her out of the coma. One Dr pulled the husband aside and said he had an idea that might work. He suggested the husband go in the room, and try some oral. He had heard a story at conference once where that had worked. The husband agreed and went in the room alone with his wife…. He came out 10 mins later and asked the Dr “are you sure about this? She’s choking!”

 

[jalimon]

Wow! Didn't know it was a thing and never been asked. Not sure I would enjoy it and maybe that is coming through.

To be honest i learned because of the stuff i did with other guys like 3 somes 4 some and or small gangbang.

Especially that time when we were 4. 3 of us on the girl for like 15 minutes. She was awsome and finished us for round one quickly like if we were teenagers

4th guy hadn’t done anything yet. He’s 6’2 or more dad’s bod and looking quite good. He takes the girl by the neck. Says to her to say yellow for him to slow down or red to stop. He slapped her lightly, spit in her mouth and ask her if she understood. Fucking wow i’m learning so much. They are both smiling. He directed her head to his big dick. There is no way she can put it all in she said Myself during that time had put my hand on the girls pussy. She was getting so wet… He removed my hand and made the girl squirt a fucking pool…

As he stop to put an condom the girl turn towards me and another guy, she put the other guy hand on her neck to choke her lightly and said to me she wants a cock in her mouth the whole time that guy would fuck her. I came in about 5 minutes so i switch with another guy who couldn’t last 3 min we switched again

That dude finished all over her face with her tung out…. We are all smiling and hand fiving each other as if we had scored an overtime goal

We cooled down with a beer after and the girl told us she had never let it go so much… It felt awsome being your little slut she said.

I asked her is there anything we did that made you be so comfortable and nasty. She said it was me who at the very beginning said how cool it was to be with 3 other fathers and no little punk or douche bag…

We live only once

 

[Darts]

LE should take a lesson from you guys. It seems whenever they choke someone, they (not LE) die and its all caught on video.

 

[G.D. Gentleman]

@rocco_s enters the chat in 3....2....

 

[Thackeray]

Interesting read! Hit a nerve there.

Had an awesome session recently partly just asking the girl to explain/illustrate choking to me (she liked it one hand, straight on, no pressing arteries).

It's probably something like shoving a thumb up a girl's ass while you're inside her - best to ask and even then start slow.

And why do it? Again... it's sometimes super-awesome to have a hot young girl writhing in uncontrollable orgasm with you.

Other times frankly it's enjoyable to just dump a load in a girl's mouth and jump in the shower.

Depends on you, depends on the girl.

 

[KDK13]

Was asked once. Found it really hard to do cuz in my earlier life I've seen people who were choked to death. It's simply awful. They are like frozen in a scream and the eyes are so bloodshot that there's no white.. Couldn't get those images out of my head and boner vanished. Explained it to her, she talked me into a light hand grip around her throat. Luckily she was so hot I could get the boner back and finish the job. But when I see it in porn it's a turn off.

I'll eat her ass all day lol, but no slapping, spitting, choking, etc. I tend to like the ladies I fuck lol (but I do understand different chokes for different folks and as long as both are able to consent and do so...enjoy!)

 

[Darts]

Erotic Asphyxiation: 10 Things to Know About Safe Breath Play (healthline.com)

 

[Darts]

I've been to Folson Street Fair where I saw women being abused and I found it very disturbing. Yeah, yeah, I know ---- consenting adults. I'll stick to boring plain vanilla. Ok, maybe a bit of very light

 

[Prurient]

It had been just over 3 weeks, and the Dr’s could not bring her out of the coma. One Dr pulled the husband aside and said he had an idea that might work. He suggested the husband go in the room, and try some oral. He had heard a story at conference once where that had worked. The husband agreed and went in the room alone with his wife…. He came out 10 mins later and asked the Dr “are you sure about this? She’s choking!”

RIP Norm

 

[Jubee]

Remember, if she asks to be choked, she doesn't mean like this.

 

[JayRoam]

This has come up a few times - girls asking to be choked while I’m inside them.

I’m generally uncomfortable with it - I’m really not trying to hurt anyone here - but I’m increasingly aware that girls in their 20s seem to enjoy this.

So I’ve got two questions:

1) WTF? Does the lower oxygen level to the brain make the sex more enjoyable? Or is it the slight risk of permanent brain damage or death that makes it “sexy”?

2) How do you go about doing this? A non-SP young female friend basically said one hand is good, two bad. But nothing’s that simple. Are you supposed to press on the carotid artery? Or the windpipe? What am I optimally going for here?

Never do it. WTF? Did girls really ask you to do that? Cause you could just have just asked them directly why they like it. The truth is they would have said "don't choke me. I don't want you to crush my windpipe". Sounds to me like you're just trying to get validation from the terb community.

 

[SexB]

Place your fingers on either side of her throat and squeeze, applying as much pressure as she's comfortable with.

 

[KilaBesos]

Heck yah choking can be hot
Like I enjoy the feeling of being submissive to the one that is dominant
But I wouldn't expect every guy to do it or feel comfortable enough to place their hand around my neck .


But yah If they are comfortable with choking lemme bring my inner wild freak out to play

 

[LTO_3]

I've done this a few times and it's best done when 2 people know & trust each other very well. I'd never do it with someone on a first time meet.
Depending on the girl/SP the choking part I've found varies a bit from SP to SP but I agree with what's been previously said about pressure on the sides of the neck along with some pressure on the throat (above or below Adam's apple depending on what works best).
As KilaBesos has said and those I've been with have stated, it enhances the intensity of their pleasure.

LTO_3

 

[Shaquille Oatmeal]

Choking is edge play,
Do not attempt without proper coaching and ask the provider to show you.
Generally you NEVER choke the trachea in front.
That is the hard part in front, where the thyroid bone is.
Any choking needs to be on the carotids, but not so much that the person passes out.
A more safer way to erotically choke, is to cover your partners mouth and pinch their nostrils shut, till they tap while keeping a watch on their consciousness.
Also, safe words and signals need to be agreed upon before you start.
For choking I like to give my partner a set of keys, or some other, that they can simply drop which would be my signal to stop.
Ideally, safe to choke for a few seconds and then let your partner breathe to never push it too far.
Some subs may try to prove they can take a lot, and not know their own limits, so as a dom you are supposed to take care of them.
Dont ever tie the belt around her neck and tighten it etc.,
What you see in porn is very unsafe and stupid.

 

[jerbear15]

I had a regular that liked this. It made me very uncomfortable and never did it.

 

[SamanthaJones69]

Look up how to do this. Alwyays ask pre fun if she might enjoy it. Focus more on slight pressure on the sides than anything.