How do you dump somebody?

[Jasmina]

Just be real. Say you don't see it going anywhere, you want different things, etc. If they choose not to listen, then ghosting is perfectly acceptable, but try to let 'em down first, randomly blocking someone without an explanation is a childish, selfish, and pathetic action.

*ahem*

And the old adage of not doing it over the phone no longer counts. Text dumping is reasonable for short term/casual relationships.

 

[IM469]

Just say "Honey it's over. But would you have sex with me one last time?"

I don't argue the two thoughts, just the order of delivery.

Anything but ghosting someone. I think it's largely a chick thing but for those with balls - just end it. Why drag it out ?

 

[Robert Mugabe]

The irony is that she wants me for sex. Dear Penthouse. I never thought this would happen to me.......There was a book out some time ago . "He's just not into you. "
A damning indictment of female intuition.

 

[TeeJay]

I've ghosted people before
Just sometimes its not worth the breath
One rather comical girl spent an awfully long time trying to get in touch to ask why
You would think most get the hint but you would be surprised

 

[thirdcup]

I might be a little bit old school, but I think doing it in the same way you would fire someone, is best.
Do it in person, be polite, honest, and direct.
Do not leave room for any ambiguity.
Wish them well.

In all of my past breakups, I have had the most respect for the women who did not ghost me, did not string me along, did not put me in the friend zone. Yes, it was painful. But it was also very clear. This meant I did not have to re-interpret, or decode what they wanted me to know, but did not have the strength to tell me.

Google will show you many phrases that are polite, honest, and direct.

 

[thirdcup]

I've ghosted people before
Just sometimes its not worth the breath
One rather comical girl spent an awfully long time trying to get in touch to ask why
You would think most get the hint but you would be surprised

She wanted to learn from her mistakes. That is not wrong. Tell her what put you off of her, and then tell her you are no longer available to talk. And then she can decide if she needs to change her behavior.

 

[james t kirk]

I might be a little bit old school, but I think doing it in the same way you would fire someone, is best.
Do it in person, be polite, honest, and direct.
Do not leave room for any ambiguity.
Wish them well.

In all of my past breakups, I have had the most respect for the women who did not ghost me, did not string me along, did not put me in the friend zone. Yes, it was painful. But it was also very clear. This meant I did not have to re-interpret, or decode what they wanted me to know, but did not have the strength to tell me.

Google will show you many phrases that are polite, honest, and direct.

I agree with everything except the part of don't accept the offer of the friend zone.

I maintained friendships with several ex's and subsequently had various flings with most of them over the years since we broke up. Also, some set me up with their friends. I got a lot of sex out of the friend zone, so don't write it off so quickly.

 

[Fun For All]

What has always worked on me is "Your time is up, get the fuck out."

 

[thirdcup]

I agree with everything except the part of don't accept the offer of the friend zone.

I maintained friendships with several ex's and subsequently had various flings with most of them over the years since we broke up. Also, some set me up with their friends. I got a lot of sex out of the friend zone, so don't write it off so quickly.

I guess this meant my interpretation of the friend zone was incorrect. Hopefully I will remember this in my next life.

 

[thirdcup]

What has always worked on me is "Your time is up, get the fuck out."

I will give you points for being honest and direct. Polite, not so much.

 

[jalimon]

I maintained friendships with several ex's and subsequently had various flings with most of them over the years since we broke up. Also, some set me up with their friends. I got a lot of sex out of the friend zone, so don't write it off so quickly.

I completely agree with you. I to maintained such flings with ex's. And a few time with their friends who were recently separated or not... (girl who simply wanted a bit of fun on their own).

But this is not for every men/woman. To be able to do that you need to be immune to jealousy. If not it can turn ugly very quickly.