How do you apologize...

Roses, it depends for what you are apologizing: your divorce, or some something you did after the divorce which caused offense. In the former case those who say you are wasting your time and probably causing further offense in my opinion are correct. If it is the former those who counsel sending a written (snail mail) note expressing your apologies for having given offense are in my opinion correct.

I use the language I do because I'm not sure there truly is a universal right or wrong answer, however the above is my advise.
 
Roses said:
I've never been married. I cheated on her...
Ouch! Lord, I just don't know on that one. I tend to believe it's irrecoverable, but also think a note saying I doubt you'll forgive me, but I know I was wrong and hurt you. would be appropriate - IF that is how you actually feel.
 
Yeah, I've heard that she has had a hard time dealing with it... so at the very least I can give her some sort of closure.
 
Roses said:
I've never been married.
I cheated on her...
Deny everything.:rolleyes:



But she caught me on the counter (It wasn't me)
Saw me bangin' on the sofa (It wasn't me)
I even had her in the shower (It wasn't me)
She even caught me on camera (It wasn't me)

She saw the marks on my shoulder (It wasn't me)
Heard the words that I told her (It wasn't me)
Heard the scream get louder (It wasn't me)
She stayed until it was over

Honey came in and she caught me red-handed
Creeping with the girl next door
Picture this, we were both butt naked, banging on the bathroom floor

I had tried to keep her
From what she was about to see
Why should she believe me
When I told her it wasn't me
 
rama putri said:
The make up sex was pretty intense.


You're lucky.. I doubt that will be the result of mine.

KWI - if you're offering to write it for me.. I'll take it! :D
 
alienencounters said:
When I got "caught in the act" I denied everything....
problem was when she started pulling out the pictures and in each one it was impossible to deny that it was my tattooed back and ass in each shot.

No make up sex.
To this day I feel lucky that I still have my nads....
heres a hint.
NEVER DATE A SICILIAN!


Damn, that must a "heated" discussion! LOL
 
apologize and be sincere.
 
Roses.. just pick up the phone and say what you feel needs to be said... done

Why is this taking 3 pages to discuss?
 
alienencounters said:
When I got "caught in the act" I denied everything....
problem was when she started pulling out the pictures and in each one it was impossible to deny that it was my tattooed back and ass in each shot.
...
How about...That damn tattoo artist. He told me that my tattoo was an original. I'm going to go right now and give him a piece of my mind.

ASYLUM said:
apologize and be sincere.
Only if you really think you did something wrong and there's a chance she'll take you back. If it's obviously over and you just want to explain why, don't bother.
 
Mongrel4u said:
Roses.. just pick up the phone and say what you feel needs to be said...
No, write a letter.

In some ways I suppose a divorce, particularly when you were the party who really wanted it to work is a bit like this at least in feeling badly about it all. In that sense, although otherwise our situations are entirely different, I really feel for Roses! It sucks! :(
 
Roses said:
How do you apologize to an Ex that you have really hurt?

Do I let it go and not say anything... or do I make the effort and say it?
"I apologize for hurting you and letting it go this long without saying anything. I wanted to make the effort to tell you this."
 
Aardvark154 said:
No, write a letter.


What difference does it make?.. he fucked up...shes gone. All he wants to do is apologize.

So long as he is sincere, the medium shouldnt matter.
 
Mongrel4u said:
What difference does it make?.. he fucked up...shes gone. All he wants to do is apologize.

So long as he is sincere, the medium shouldnt matter.
Among other things it's not quite as awkward, and it doesn’t put her on the spot in having to decide whether or not to talk with him.