How do married guys deal with locators on their phones?
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i don’t understand why any adult in this aspect of life would ever have location turned on.
Further, having to make excuses for an hour of radio silence is more a reflection on the person giving them than the person demanding them. Good thing to reflect on.
As another member said, Trick here is to not create jealousy or suspicion. I think you can add to that, it’s a good policy to not have that expectation of your partner either. In addition to not being hypocritical, it’s also just easier that way.
As to Ahri’s post (for those that have not met her, do so, she is wonderful) - I had some cross over late in my last relationship. It’s shockingly easy to cover up random casual sex, because it’s an hour here or there with little more evidence than some money and a little bit of time. If you have no guilt and there is little emotional attachment, it’s not difficult
As a fun smart older woman I used to have sex with told me, affairs are complicated…fucking is fun.
Great advice.
Further, having to make excuses for an hour of radio silence is more a reflection on the person giving them than the person demanding them. Good thing to reflect on.
As another member said, Trick here is to not create jealousy or suspicion. I think you can add to that, it’s a good policy to not have that expectation of your partner either. In addition to not being hypocritical, it’s also just easier that way.
As to Ahri’s post (for those that have not met her, do so, she is wonderful) - I had some cross over late in my last relationship. It’s shockingly easy to cover up random casual sex, because it’s an hour here or there with little more evidence than some money and a little bit of time. If you have no guilt and there is little emotional attachment, it’s not difficult
As a fun smart older woman I used to have sex with told me, affairs are complicated…fucking is fun.
Great advice.
There are lots of apps that will track where you are. Its not technical and its not tricky. If you have an iphone or android then big brother is always tracking you - at the very least turn off all the connection functions on the phone - but also have alibis and reasons as to why they are off - just randomly turning them off when you are reliably trackable otherwise is as big a red flag.
To be effective you really have to create the persona of a untrackable buffoon who has no idea what they are doing - or who is a paranoid big brother conspiracy theorist - aka me. Then its simple as to why I'm untrackable.
If you are new to this I have posted in many places on this forum - but also you can ask Chatgpt -if you have an android ask it how to "degoogle your phone" and ask it how to make you untrackable.
Even if I wazn't hobbying, I HATE this idea that it is unthinkable to not be reachable by phone every fucking minute of every fucking day.
We managed quite well in the 70s.
And we were happier.
This should help you, I have a strong feeling that even if you have location turned off, your location is known as long as your phone is on.
It's not a feeling. It's why they stopped allowing batteries to be removable. So location tech can work no matter what.
with all these technologies available, police still can’t trace a stolen phone…But a wife can trace it even if u leave the planet 🫡🫡🫡
They can. But its not worth it. Hell you can't get them to do laptops, bikes and sometimes even cars.
But the wife has the motivation.
"never turn on something that allows another individual to track your location"
I get the feeling you've never been in a close relationship where this isn't a big deal
"Turn off phone, or turn off location services"
Yet - assuming iOS here - it shows that you've turned off your phone or location. Good luck continually giving good reasons why you've done this.
If your wife is tracking your location you've got bigger problems.....
I have plenty of experience in close relationships. There shouldn’t be an expectation in a relationship that the two people must be able to track each other at all times, just as eavesdropping on each others phone calls should not be expected.
This is a problem that is much more easily dealt with by never starting. However, GPS and cell signals sometimes fail, fairly often actually, leading to your location being temporarily unavailable.
You could also put your phone in a faraday bag. Your location will be unavailable (tho the phone will also be unusable).
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No kidding. A wife is already on to you if doing this shit. No fucking way would my girlfriend/wife would have my location willingly provided. That’s some bullshit.
I think some of the younger fellas who hobby are gonna be fucked on this. While I don’t think location tracking is the majority norm, it’s becoming increasingly common. I see it a lot for later Gen Xs, Millenials, and Gen Z.
I know a happily married Gen X guy whose entire family shares location and keeps an active group chat every day. Both the parents and the kids. Supposedly for safety and convenience. Being paranoid about their young daughter’s well being and all that. Or coordinating between the wife and the husband to run errands (oh I see you’re near X grocery store, please pick this up then). It’s wildly too much in my opinion, but I understand the reasoning isn’t borne out of wifey thinking he’ll cheat. But if he did have that inclination, he’d be screwed
I know a happily married Gen X guy whose entire family shares location and keeps an active group chat every day. Both the parents and the kids. Supposedly for safety and convenience. Being paranoid about their young daughter’s well being and all that. Or coordinating between the wife and the husband to run errands (oh I see you’re near X grocery store, please pick this up then). It’s wildly too much in my opinion, but I understand the reasoning isn’t borne out of wifey thinking he’ll cheat. But if he did have that inclination, he’d be screwed
You have to turn on “share my location” in messages (at least on iPhone). If you don’t, nobody can track your location with their phone.
Everyone, even in families and committed relationships, deserves some measure of privacy.I think some of the younger fellas who hobby are gonna be fucked on this. While I don’t think location tracking is the majority norm, it’s becoming increasingly common. I see it a lot for later Gen Xs, Millenials, and Gen Z.
I know a happily married Gen X guy whose entire family shares location and keeps an active group chat every day. Both the parents and the kids. Supposedly for safety and convenience. Being paranoid about their young daughter’s well being and all that. Or coordinating between the wife and the husband to run errands (oh I see you’re near X grocery store, please pick this up then). It’s wildly too much in my opinion, but I understand the reasoning isn’t borne out of wifey thinking he’ll cheat. But if he did have that inclination, he’d be screwed
Exactly. Want me to grab something? Text me and ask me to on my way home. You don’t need to see it in a map.
I was thinking the same thing, it’s a generational thing in many ways. But it also speaks to how much we rely on our phones, and how much we’re willing to trade our privacy for the convenience.I think some of the younger fellas who hobby are gonna be fucked on this. While I don’t think location tracking is the majority norm, it’s becoming increasingly common. I see it a lot for later Gen Xs, Millenials, and Gen Z.
I know a happily married Gen X guy whose entire family shares location and keeps an active group chat every day. Both the parents and the kids. Supposedly for safety and convenience. Being paranoid about their young daughter’s well being and all that. Or coordinating between the wife and the husband to run errands (oh I see you’re near X grocery store, please pick this up then). It’s wildly too much in my opinion, but I understand the reasoning isn’t borne out of wifey thinking he’ll cheat. But if he did have that inclination, he’d be screwed
I know a couple of families like this too. And my first reaction when I find out is “here is a man who’s never fucked around” Respect to him, he’s a better man than me, but god help him if he ever wants to.
This is the best answer here. You might as well just quit forever or at least until WELL after the heat dies down.
You will be living with a detective that has so much access to build a case against you. Nowadays all your S/O would have to do is conceal an AirTag in your car or backpack or whatever then catch you in lies.
