Hottie Co-worker delemma?
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I would agree with your theory under most circumstances but I think this situation is an exception.Goober Mcfly said:
Try flirting with her...
or hinting at an incredible date you had the night before (and seeing how jealous she gets)
The one thing you do not want to do is to allude that maybe the two of you together would be "wrong". Rather, you should play to her "doing the boss" fantasy.
If she's a hottie, then she knows it.
Just don't put anything in writing, or do anything publicly in front of other people.
However, having said all this, I am guessing she is just trying to spice up a boring office job and will never go through with anything.
fj
or hinting at an incredible date you had the night before (and seeing how jealous she gets)
The one thing you do not want to do is to allude that maybe the two of you together would be "wrong". Rather, you should play to her "doing the boss" fantasy.
If she's a hottie, then she knows it.
Just don't put anything in writing, or do anything publicly in front of other people.
However, having said all this, I am guessing she is just trying to spice up a boring office job and will never go through with anything.
fj
Two cents from a woman ....
She's 21, she's flirty, she's testing her boundaries .... There are many types of flirting, she may or may not realize that she's gone a bit beyond "polite respectful" flirting. She might not be offering anything or may not even realize how she is affecting you.
Wait until she's not in your employ and then ask her if she's free to date.
She's 21, she's flirty, she's testing her boundaries .... There are many types of flirting, she may or may not realize that she's gone a bit beyond "polite respectful" flirting. She might not be offering anything or may not even realize how she is affecting you.
Wait until she's not in your employ and then ask her if she's free to date.
Sayings
Don't stick your pen in the company ink.
And my personal favourite, delivered by an old grey haired professor in my MBA class: "Don't fuck the hired help!".
Don't stick your pen in the company ink.
And my personal favourite, delivered by an old grey haired professor in my MBA class: "Don't fuck the hired help!".
Just a thought but people flirt/kiss ass all the time to try and get ahead in business. Also, as some have mentioned before she might not realize how her flirting has gone too far. This is of course assuming she is flirting (meaning a conscious decision) or she may not even know she's doing it.
Your much better off just sending a hot sp to your office when shes gone to cure your fever . Lots of young hot babes are looking for a raise as well as you men in your pants 
Mixing at work is so political and brings nothing but bad consequences when it dosent work out .(there are the few exceptions but most are horror stories )Chances of something working out on lust are pretty slim . I used to have a boss like you but when i demanded a raise without bopping him he hired another lady and another and another until he finally found his sexatary .I bumped into him recently he said i can have my old job back he needs an excuse to get rid of this crazy in love girl ....and he promises to never fantasize about me again lmao ......please dont end up like him good luck
Mixing at work is so political and brings nothing but bad consequences when it dosent work out .(there are the few exceptions but most are horror stories )Chances of something working out on lust are pretty slim . I used to have a boss like you but when i demanded a raise without bopping him he hired another lady and another and another until he finally found his sexatary .I bumped into him recently he said i can have my old job back he needs an excuse to get rid of this crazy in love girl ....and he promises to never fantasize about me again lmao ......please dont end up like him good luck
What do you actually look like?
This guy could be a 300lb road pizza who is totally out of this girls league.
If you honestly think you're relatively close to her as far as looks go, just ask her out.
This guy could be a 300lb road pizza who is totally out of this girls league.
If you honestly think you're relatively close to her as far as looks go, just ask her out.
Next time she dances for you at work, tell her to dump her loser BF, grab her and feel her up a bit. Tell her you didn't know how to react such a social situation, so you discussed it with your buddies on an escort review board and it was pretty much 50/50, so you went for it. I'm sure it will turn out OK.
hey maybe thats how her boyfriend became unemployed -they met at work ? or maybe hes her pimp lmao just some thoughts
Life is short, Bounce. I say, bang her !
What's the worst that can happen to you ?? All that counts is it's consensual. If she is making moves on you encourage her.
What's the worst that can happen to you ?? All that counts is it's consensual. If she is making moves on you encourage her.
Enjoy the flirting. Enjoy having the other guys atthe office thinking there might be something going on. Enjoy the fantasy but don't be stupid.
21 is probably too young. I found it's best to stick to the 1/2 your age plus 7 as the minimum acceptable age to date. (although if she's that hot...)
If your still thinking of it, organize a casual small get together at a bar to celebrate her last day. If she's interested, and there's alcohol, she'll let you know.
21 is probably too young. I found it's best to stick to the 1/2 your age plus 7 as the minimum acceptable age to date. (although if she's that hot...)
If your still thinking of it, organize a casual small get together at a bar to celebrate her last day. If she's interested, and there's alcohol, she'll let you know.
Worst thing that happens you
spend 10000 on a lawyer
sexual harassment charge
only allowed to hire males/shemales
she doesnt dfk or lfk or bbjcim
she keeps her skirt that you released in
oh and did i mention she hasa boyfriend (whos gonna kick your ASS)
her real name is cybil
the boyfriend is now your assistant
you live til 100
spend 10000 on a lawyer
sexual harassment charge
only allowed to hire males/shemales
she doesnt dfk or lfk or bbjcim
she keeps her skirt that you released in
oh and did i mention she hasa boyfriend (whos gonna kick your ASS)
her real name is cybil
the boyfriend is now your assistant
you live til 100
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Choices, choices, choices...
Well, you could straight out ask her. Tell her, with a straight face and in a normal, conversational tone of voice (if you can!) that you are confused and don't know whether she is flirting and coming on to you or whether you are imagining things. Ask her to clarify. And don't say anything further until she has completed her answer.
Let's be clear: in law, harassment is a course of conduct, not a single event -- unless it is something like "Baby, I want to fuck you and I'll fire you if you refuse."
Or, if I were in your shoes, I think I would have some fun. I'd continue to act totally "straight" but wait for opportunities to say something that can be taken in more than one way. A very subtle tease back (for example, if she asks you if she has a nice ass, ask her why your opinion matters to her or tell her that you can't be objective about her question) and put some questions into her mind. Then, be patient and wait. Do not make the first move: if she is really interested, she'll let you know. Wait until she makes a move or her contract expires.
Otherwise, the expression as I know it "Dog don't shit in his own doghouse."
But I do agree that people do regret what they did not do much more than the mistakes they made in doing something: "Nothing ventured, nothing gained!"
BTW, I assume you are single... if you are married you are playing with more fire than any person might be able to handle and you increase the chances of getting burned. That is, boy meets girl at the office is much easier for people to understand and accept than lecherous boss tries to seduce pretty young gal.
Perry
Well, you could straight out ask her. Tell her, with a straight face and in a normal, conversational tone of voice (if you can!) that you are confused and don't know whether she is flirting and coming on to you or whether you are imagining things. Ask her to clarify. And don't say anything further until she has completed her answer.
Let's be clear: in law, harassment is a course of conduct, not a single event -- unless it is something like "Baby, I want to fuck you and I'll fire you if you refuse."
Or, if I were in your shoes, I think I would have some fun. I'd continue to act totally "straight" but wait for opportunities to say something that can be taken in more than one way. A very subtle tease back (for example, if she asks you if she has a nice ass, ask her why your opinion matters to her or tell her that you can't be objective about her question) and put some questions into her mind. Then, be patient and wait. Do not make the first move: if she is really interested, she'll let you know. Wait until she makes a move or her contract expires.
Otherwise, the expression as I know it "Dog don't shit in his own doghouse."
But I do agree that people do regret what they did not do much more than the mistakes they made in doing something: "Nothing ventured, nothing gained!"
BTW, I assume you are single... if you are married you are playing with more fire than any person might be able to handle and you increase the chances of getting burned. That is, boy meets girl at the office is much easier for people to understand and accept than lecherous boss tries to seduce pretty young gal.
Perry
Sheik is actually an asshat, but he's right in this case. You really shouldn't do anything while she's still working for you but after the contract is up it's fair game. Do wait a decent period after the contract ends though - don't do anything the day after or anything like that.Bounce said:
Solid feedback from everyone here.....wow. Tons to think about. Definately think that not being eager, testing to see if she gets jealous and having her ponder or think about things is the way to go. She never asks for anything from me ever and will most definately move on to a great career after she graduates.
FYI...for the record...I'm just a single, not bad look'n dude who is a workaholic who and like to avoid any committment. The problem with this one is I actually like her and would like to change. Known her for (4) yrs now and she is not just a pretty face. I honestly tried dating differnt types of women and get bored, spooked and pull the shoot time and time again. That's why SP's are so safe.....no attachment, have some fun, then they leave. Nice and simple. Very black n white. No grey area.
Thanks again to everyone who took the time to respond....most helpfull. Especially when most of my friends think with their dicks and the girls I know say "oh just tell her you like her". Not that easy in this particular case considering I do love my job.
Crappy that Shaun from HWE is gone....her and Erika could clear my head. Peace out.
FYI...for the record...I'm just a single, not bad look'n dude who is a workaholic who and like to avoid any committment. The problem with this one is I actually like her and would like to change. Known her for (4) yrs now and she is not just a pretty face. I honestly tried dating differnt types of women and get bored, spooked and pull the shoot time and time again. That's why SP's are so safe.....no attachment, have some fun, then they leave. Nice and simple. Very black n white. No grey area.
Thanks again to everyone who took the time to respond....most helpfull. Especially when most of my friends think with their dicks and the girls I know say "oh just tell her you like her". Not that easy in this particular case considering I do love my job.
Crappy that Shaun from HWE is gone....her and Erika could clear my head. Peace out.
Keep us up to speed Bounce.
Its like one of those reality shows. This and the one about changing the Girlfriend into an MPA.
My view...........no, I won't bother, just too subjective. Much depends on the lady and you know her, we don't. Things can get very complicated if you go for it and sparks fly. Many have met this way and gone on to live happily ever after.
I'd be cautious, but if ya don't at least try, you'll always have that question in the back of your mind: What would have happened if I had asked _____________ out??
Its like one of those reality shows. This and the one about changing the Girlfriend into an MPA.
My view...........no, I won't bother, just too subjective. Much depends on the lady and you know her, we don't. Things can get very complicated if you go for it and sparks fly. Many have met this way and gone on to live happily ever after.
I'd be cautious, but if ya don't at least try, you'll always have that question in the back of your mind: What would have happened if I had asked _____________ out??
get her hot and bothered
The way to get a girl all hot and bothered for you is to keep her wondering while flirting with her. Do a hot and cold routine on her. Amplify the sexual tension by frustrating her. Totally ignore her come-ons, shake your head at her as if she's a big dork, treat her like a bratty little sister, make fun of the way she dresses or does her work, accuse her of looking at you as just a sex object, and make her laugh with some witty comments that shows you don't care WTF she or anyone else thinks. Be cool. As long as you are comfortable showing a manly attitude, she'll jump your bones first chance she gets. You won't have to do anything else to set up the situation -- she'll do it for you. You won't need to ask her out.
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That's got to be the worst piece of advice in this thread.
The way to get a girl all hot and bothered for you is to keep her wondering while flirting with her. Do a hot and cold routine on her. Amplify the sexual tension by frustrating her. Totally ignore her come-ons, shake your head at her as if she's a big dork, treat her like a bratty little sister, make fun of the way she dresses or does her work, accuse her of looking at you as just a sex object, and make her laugh with some witty comments that shows you don't care WTF she or anyone else thinks. Be cool. As long as you are comfortable showing a manly attitude, she'll jump your bones first chance she gets. You won't have to do anything else to set up the situation -- she'll do it for you. You won't need to ask her out.
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