Hottie Co-worker delemma?

[Bounce]

Ok...here is the dealo.....

Hot girl (21yrs) that works for me is driving me (32yrs)to the envelope of temptation. She has a boyfriend (unemployed loser) who deserves to lose her. Dudes, this girl is the one that is super hot, playful and is nice to boot! I think she is there for the taking (always flirting with me and looking at my pants b/c she knows I have a hard on for her. She works for me....is amazing at her job and will be finished in two months or so. She is always making fuck me eyes, bending over, singing and dancing for me. I could be a wishfull thinking she is into me or a bigger idiot that I am not jumping on this hot number.

What to do? Tempted to many times to mention but not sure if she is just playing or is good to go? Your help is most appreciated! Should I or shouldn't I? If so, when & how is the right time? Away from the office? How to get here there? Was thinking of waiting until she finishes up and then suprising her with the option of a hot trip for a job well done!

HELP PLEASE!!!!!

 

[Bounce]

We have gone out socially but never just the two of us. I'm glad you of all TERB's repsonded. You seem to always call a spade a spade and leave the BS out of things. Thanks.

 

[baltimoron]

I have a similar scenario

We have a new 20-something female co-worker on our team.

She's a real cute brunette and has got an awesome set of D cups.

During meetings, she always stretches her neck which causes those magnificent hills to stretch the fabric of her blouse.

What's funny is that the suit sitting next to her keeps droning on about "redundant testing of rack units..."

I have a hard time keeping a straight face.

Too bad she's newlywed.

I agree with Sheik. Seeing her while she's in your employ is dangerous.

 

[freshbreath]

I voted for option #4, but regret it

don't get involved at all, even after she leaves, she could still pull some sexual harassment bullshit since you were her boss

 

[Bounce]

As much as I want to I can't see myself doing anything unless she leaves no doubt in my mind she is game. That being the case, would you still stay away no matter what?

 

[Bounce]

Would be very curious to have some of our lady friends respond to this to get a balanced perspective on things.

By the way.....Shaun leaving HWE is a heartbreaker. God that girl was fun. Crappy!

 

[lomotil]

You can still like her with your penis inside her. Bounce I tell you that you are going to regret this. What would JFK do? You know he'd tap that ass.

* adapted from Greenfield

 

[Bounce]

Ok maybe today's experience will put this in better perspective.....

Sitting at my desk.....she walks in....starts in on some small chat.....next thing I know she has lifter one leg up on the chair and bent over so her face and beautifull ass were @ 180 degree perfect straight line. Call me crazy but was she A)stretching, B)teasing the shit out of me or C) inviting me to move in a fuck her silly?

 

[yoniluvrca]

You can still like her with your penis inside her. Bounce I tell you that you are going to regret this. What would JFK do? You know he'd tap that ass.

* adapted from Greenfield

I've heard it said that on the death bed very few people spend much time regretting what they have done (except perhaps in extreme cases like mass murderers who have turned,ugh, Christian, and been unduly influenced by priests) yet many people do regret what they have not done.

Imagine that you are dying. Would your holding back, being 'sensible', cause you to regret? If so. go for it with the full knowledge that you may be opening a hornets nest.

The other thing to remember is that young women know fully the power they hold over men. You mention a 'loser' boyfriend-her safety-and then there is you, an older male/authority figure. She could just be playing that energy for fun. If you do go for it do so with full commitment to the moment, take no prisoners, so to speak. This will give you the most likelihood for success, and for going down in flames. Either way-no regrets.

YL

 

[raverboy]

Ok maybe today's experience will put this in better perspective.....

Sitting at my desk.....she walks in....starts in on some small chat.....next thing I know she has lifter one leg up on the chair and bent over so her face and beautifull ass were @ 180 degree perfect straight line. Call me crazy but was she A)stretching, B)teasing the shit out of me or C) inviting me to move in a fuck her silly?

I'd say its D) trying to ask for a raise.

 

[incognito]

If thats what you call a dilema, you are soooo lucky.

However, better to hier in the side of caution. You don't want a sexual harassment suit slapped on ya. Unless you tape the incident showing her cuming on you...i mean coming on TO you.

 

[frankcastle]

I don't know some bending over, some jokes, some smiles doesn't sound like an iron clad case to me. For gods sake a co-worker of mine once told me how she likes to take her bf's cum. But I knew full well it wasn't a come on (no pun intended).

You're ignoring the most key point, that Sheik pointed out. You are the boss, which means you are leaving yourself wide open for a lawsuit if things go wrong. Oh well I guess you can always find another job as the boss with a sexual harassment suit in your past.

It sounds like you want people to encourage you, so go for it.... ask her out, get an answer and get it out of your head. The more time you wait the more elaborate your fantasy will become, interpreting every motion of hers as a come hither signal.

Anyways, I apologize for the sarcasm.

 

[Bounce]

Sacasism is good. No apology needed but thanks for putting things back in perspective. I very much liked what u, sheik, and yoniluvrca have had to say.

 

[yoniluvrca]

Glad that you enjoyed my post. Yes, perspective is always good.

Also remember that you are up against some powerful energies in this situation. Anyone can say that they would resist temptation, and rationally this is the best course of action-to resist.

But consider the attraction you feel as a primal urge of the Male to the Female. As the Male, you actually enjoy the risk. Even death has a very real fascination to most men. Let's face it, most of us men are, in some way interested in war. That is why it happens so much on this planet. Risking it all, your position in the job market, the money, your family (if you have one), seems worth it when you sense the magnetism of her Feminine "light". This same magnetism is the driving force behind much of the activity on this forum.

I mean, look at Bill Clinton!!. Even if you think that he was/is an idiot, you have to admit that he went for it. And most of us secretly, at least, admire what he risked, even if we are not impressed by who he risked it for. Beauty is indeed in the eye if the beholder.

Keep us posted as to what happens.

YL

 

[George OTJ]

Maybe she's angling to get her contract renewed? Sounds like a can of worms you don't want to open. Wait till her contract is up. On the last day, offer a goinging away drink after work. If she's interested she won't refuse - unless she has a commitment and then she'll offer an alternate day to get together. If she doesn't, write it off.

To expand on frankcastle's comment, different people have different 'comfort' levels. A dirty joke to one lady could be sexual harrasment to another. Your subordinate may be just "having some fun" at the edge of her comfort zone. Crossing it could have dire consequences.

 

[Scorpion King]

As many others have said, don't cross the line. Enjoy the tease, but don't cross the line. Chat and laugh and banter, but don't cross the line.

Couldnt agree with this statement more. I know this from experience. The joy you would experience if you ever get to stick it to her will pale in comparison to the amount of grief you will experience if anything goes wrong. Not worth the risk when there are SO MANY beautiful women out there. Forget the sexual harrassment. What if you bang her so good that she starts following you around at work and making it obvious that you guys have something going?? How would that sit with the others in your company.

I could come up with another list of reasons not to do it. As SB said, enjoy the tease, but let someone else take the edge off. Here's an idea, have her beautiful image in your mind with the next chick your getting it on with. Works for some....

 

[Goober Mcfly]

I honestly think you should post some pics here so we can gain some perspective.

Otherwise, tell her you like her but you don't want to endanger your work relationship. Do this by writing a note that says "I like you. Do you like me? Check yes or no" Then tell her you would love to take her out after she's done her contract with you. If she says "no", then you know she's only flirting with you to get ahead in the company. If that's the case, file a sexual harassment complaint against her. If she says "yes", wait a few months and fark her six ways from Sunday.

/QED

 

[Scorpion King]

I honestly think you should post some pics here so we can gain some perspective.

Otherwise, tell her you like her but you don't want to endanger your work relationship. Do this by writing a note that says "I like you. Do you like me? Check yes or no" Then tell her you would love to take her out after she's done her contract with you. If she says "no", then you know she's only flirting with you to get ahead in the company. If that's the case, file a sexual harassment complaint against her. If she says "yes", wait a few months and fark her six ways from Sunday.

/QED

Imagine how uncomfortable things would become around the workplace if a puzzled look came over her face and she said 'no'....

Still think it's worth bringing it up to her??

Are you only giving your opinion, talking from experience or both?

What she looks like doesnt matter.

 

[Scorpion King]

Strongbeau is Right.. we need a picture to get some better perspective.....

I mean, would you be here if she was 250lbs and Ugly? Exactly!

the pic is irrelevant... your thinking with the small head my friend...

 

[Pargolfer]

To go for it or not to go....

There is an old expression that I believe covers a situation like this and that is "never shit in your own nest"....