Good catch. People can become scarce as in not willing to go out as much because they are in a relationship, married or have kids. You certainly should have to make adjustments once your're in a serious relationships and have kids, but that does not mean that your life revolves around them. The funny thing is that some people can become scared to do things on their own once they're in a relationship or once it ends.
Hate being single!
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Good catch. People can become scarce as in not willing to go out as much because they are in a relationship, married or have kids. You certainly should have to make adjustments once your're in a serious relationships and have kids, but that does not mean that your life revolves around them. The funny thing is that some people can become scared to do things on their own once they're in a relationship or once it ends.
Funny thing is i live alone but I'm never lonely. I can get as much company as I need or as little of it as I want.
Again keeping yourself well groomed and clean is paramount. During the week, grocery shopping can be very enjoyable, but of course I'm not going to peruse the produce section smelling like a Bronx sewer.
Also, one of your best friends is your ironing board. Even if you rock the Canali, you're not getting a second look if your shirt is wrinkled. Also, I've never needed cologne - waste of money. I do just fine with Old Spice Stick.
Again keeping yourself well groomed and clean is paramount. During the week, grocery shopping can be very enjoyable, but of course I'm not going to peruse the produce section smelling like a Bronx sewer.
Also, one of your best friends is your ironing board. Even if you rock the Canali, you're not getting a second look if your shirt is wrinkled. Also, I've never needed cologne - waste of money. I do just fine with Old Spice Stick.
I think the point he was making is a lot of married couples stop having sex after several years, or cut down drastically in the frequency, and aren't experiencing health issues as a result.
They absolutely experience mental health issues from not having sex. That’s why so many married people see SPs (or cheat) and why so many marriages fail. If they can’t get sex at home, they’ll seek it elsewhere. Almost as if it were a biological need...
Lack of sex is a symptom of larger problems in a relationship especially financial ones. Not making enough or having too much can cause a lot of stress. Stress saps a person's energy. Less energy makes people tired and irritable and leads to less desire for sex. That's when they look elsewhere.
I don't know of any study that has established a causal relationship between frequency of sex and mental health. Further, anyone wishing to study this would have great difficulty in gathering data because relationships are touchy subjects people don't like talking about.
Give this man a medal. He just encapsulated what myself and other average joes in our 30s/40s have gone through.
I never thought i would say it but I have to agree I bummed out being single. Dated & banged a lot of fun girls over the years & always enjoyed the time in between when I was single. Got into a serious relationship at the beginning of the year with a single mom & fell in love. Never seen myself as a family guy but I fast become one & it made me happier than other achievements in life lately. Met my perfect 10 & as usual I ducked it up, funny thing is I miss the kids just as much! I don't think we were put on this earth to be single...
The relationship you have with yourself will determine everything. Fuck that up, and you are done, especially if you are trying to hide behind/supplant it with a relationship with someone else. Where ever you go, there you are. It is a lot harder to distract yourself from yourself when single, hence why, in part, many people do not like it. Just my take.
Sometimes, being single or alone is better than being around with people who caused you more stress. You and you only can find peace within yourself. Do not seek it without (Buddha)
I was married for 10 years. Since my divorce I have grown so much more as a person than I think that I ever could have while married.
I've been on my own for so long now, I don't think that I could ever co-habit with anyone again.
I've been on my own for so long now, I don't think that I could ever co-habit with anyone again.
Is it so far fetched that some people feel fulfilled by taking care of other people?
Fack no! She comes from a very affluent family & could have a nanny or three if she wanted & her ex shares custody. She's so down to earth & caring it's not even funny. Never been with a more genuine person & when my own family said she's too good for you I laughed...I'm not laughing now more like crying on the inside. :blue: When the kids got up super early & facetimed me with a birthday cake they made & sang happy birthday I never felt better & more complete in my life. I would do anything for them, hurts me everyday thinking about it.
Maybe my first love's mom was right(we still have a love hate relationship to this day), she always told me your like the dog that chases the car...you never really want to catch it but love the chase
I hated being single when I was a teen.
But everything changed wen I started working
Because I really stopped feeling guilty.
Like finding the perfect one was a problem
And my fault. Work made me feel better
Kept me from searching too hard and I would eventually
Meet someone I liked too much... work
Keeps me in check... there are still ex toy friends/playmates I miss
But I still am happy that they are probably still
Happy too.
But everything changed wen I started working
Because I really stopped feeling guilty.
Like finding the perfect one was a problem
And my fault. Work made me feel better
Kept me from searching too hard and I would eventually
Meet someone I liked too much... work
Keeps me in check... there are still ex toy friends/playmates I miss
But I still am happy that they are probably still
Happy too.
