Guys: Do you talk to strange women in public?

[LeeHelm]

Guys: Do you talk to strange women in public? I am not talking at a bar or some other event where you you might go there to meet someone. I mean in a place like a grocery store.

There is a grocery store near me. I do not know what it is about this place but it seems to have a lot of really attractive woman. Many of which gives me a nice smile, that rarely happens any other place, I am not ugly but no where near what most women would find attractive . I smile back but I never approach them. Then I come home and slap myself in the head for not saying anything. Most of these woman are a lot younger than me. Usually I go to the grocery on Sunday mornings, unshaven and dressed in jeans and t-shirt. I don't know if they are just being friendly and smiling at the old frumpy guy or what.

Today it happened again. This time the young attractive lady had rather large breasts in a tight sweater. Being a breast man, it was hard not to look. I felt a bit embarrassed , thinking that she caught me looking. I don't know if he was smiling out of dis comfort, because she liked the fact I was looking or just plain old being friendly.


In these situations I never know what to say. If I have a reason to talk then I am fine. But just walking up to someone no, can't do it. What about everyone else?

 

[oftenrong69]

OK, so here's an opener. Find one of these foxy women at a shelf where there is an ingredient you need. Then casually ask what the difference might be between two or more brands. Casually mention you're teaching yourself to cook. Hopefully she's kinda impressed and starts chatting..... Over to you

 

[luckyjackson]

I've read that grocery stores rank high on the list of pickup spots. As in every situation though, you can make it work if you've got game. If you don't, you'll come across as a creep.

 

[Insidious Von]

I've gone to do my groceries looking far worse and sometimes farting in the produce section.

If you frequent grocery stores enough, you'll be able to sense when a lady wants you to break ice. Women will talk your ear off if you let them. However, if you don't sense that vibe back the fuck up. I usually have a joke or a one-liner for the cashier, they have a thankless job and they usually enjoy it.

Have fun, if no signal is given don't be a communist prevert.

 

[basketcase]

Any chance of picking up hot cashiers ? ...

You must go to different groceries than me. Most of the ones I see are either VERY plain looking (to be polite) or 16 years old.


But yes, one of the papers did a bit on non-bar pick-up places and rated a store near me as number 1. As to what to say, I'd suggest starting with 'Hi'.

 

[Chloë.]

You must go to different groceries than me. Most of the ones I see are either VERY plain looking (to be polite) or 16 years old.

Venture to whole foods or Pusateri's. OR a farmer's market. You're welcome!

 

[Boss Nass]

Stand in the produce section and watch for the women who fondle the cucumbers with glazed eyes.

 

[Ceiling Cat]

Women that want to "talk" are fishing. They are checking you out. They need an excuse to talk to you. You have to look for signs that they want more than just to talk. If they move on to a second subject ( especially if it is a personal area ), they are delving deeper to see who you are. They want to believe that they are in charge and the final choice is theirs to make. You have to let them believe that.

 

[fuji]

What works for me is talking to everyone. The people who think it's a "game" come across as creeps.

Instead just develop an ability to start conversations with people. Not just people who happen to be hot and female. People.

Next time you are in the grocery store and there's an opportunity to tell a joke based on what you or somebody else is doing, tell the joke. Tell it whether the other person is old or young, male or female, tell it to a couple, tell it to the hot girl too.

Once you get natural talking to people then talking to a "strange woman" is just something you do not because she had big tits in a tight sweater. But because that's what you do.

Also this makes you more attractive in general. If maybe before you even talk to her she's inwardly laughing at the joke you just told the cashier your odds that she will laugh at the joke you tell her are much greater.

Some people are really good at this and some are not, but everybody can learn to make small talk and it's an easier skill to develop if you disconnect it from dating specifically and just try it out on anybody.

When the hot woman comes along you will be much cooler and less creepy and more just being yourself by saying something to her, than if you try and turn on something that you only do for women.

 

[ElCapitain]

Any chance of picking up hot cashiers ? I thought it's easier to start conversation with them than with other customers, but at the same time they try to be friendly only as part of their business requirements/ customer service

You have to have a very, very soft touch with cashiers... they don't have the opportunity to leave or walk away if you're making them feel uncomfortable. Just be mindful of that.

 

[Frankunderwood]

Venture to whole foods or Pusateri's. OR a farmer's market. You're welcome!

^^^This. Or try the Longo's by Yonge/Bloor.

 

[Mr Bret]

You have to have a very, very soft touch with cashiers... they don't have the opportunity to leave or walk away if you're making them feel uncomfortable. Just be mindful of that.

I always keep things very light with them.

Stand in the produce section and watch for the women who fondle the cucumbers with glazed eyes.

LMAO

I usually have a joke or a one-liner for the cashier, they have a thankless job and they usually enjoy it.

I don't have anything prepared, but I usually try to at least get a smile out of them with something spontaneous, harmless, and friendly because, yes, they sometimes have a thankless job. Especially when some customers treat them like crap.

 

[LeeHelm]

I appreciate the advice but that is not what I was looking for and I probably wouldn't follow it anyway since I am hopelessly shy and frankly I think I have a bit of a problem with low self esteem.

What I wanted to know if guys actually do this. I hear about it but no one I know has ever meet their SO this way.

 

[LeeHelm]

You must go to different groceries than me. Most of the ones I see are either VERY plain looking (to be polite) or 16 years old.


But yes, one of the papers did a bit on non-bar pick-up places and rated a store near me as number 1. As to what to say, I'd suggest starting with 'Hi'.

Venture to whole foods or Pusateri's. OR a farmer's market. You're welcome!

As I said other places aren't like that. Heck some of the groceries I have been too was like the bar in Star Wars.

And this place is sort of a whole foods or farmer's market sort of place. It is called Market District. They basically have food from all over the world.

Just wonder if it is not my imagination and these women are looking at meeting someone.

I remember one of those unisex hair salons I went to years back once. The girl seemed to be rubbing up against me and getting turned on. I was young and stupid and thought this was my imagination. Later I learned that this is what that place was known for. Sort of a hair cut with a lap dance sort of place. By the time I got a chance to go back the place had closed.

 

[Celticman]

Any chance of picking up hot cashiers ? I thought it's easier to start conversation with them than with other customers, but at the same time they try to be friendly only as part of their business requirements/ customer service

Not if you tell them about your desire for unprotected anal sex.

 

[barnacler]

I agree with Fuji.

Just talk to everyone, everywhere.

Eventually it becomes second nature.

 

[Celticman]

And if you find your life partner are you going to use condoms for the rest of your life ? How did you come to this world if your parents never had unprotected sex ?

What a stunningly unrelated response. I could eat a bowl of alphabet soup and shit a better line than that. You have to get out of Mom's basement into the real world.

 

[sasemohan123]

Judging by the time you spend on this board, I doubt you're the kind of social person who spends his time talking to people

Despite of having disagreed (many times quietly) with Fuji on various subjects, I totally agree with what he said here, especially:

"Once you get natural talking to people then talking to a "strange woman" is just something you do not because she had big tits in a tight sweater. But because that's what you do."

Being judgmental on the amount of posts he does not take away the value of his post, just saying.

 

[Perry Mason]

How did you come to this world if your parents never had unprotected sex ?

Yes, but I doubt it was anal!

Perry

 

[foru2discover]

Well try and find the ones that are not married or unhappy married ...lol
I see them all the time , they smile and you wonder what they are thinking..
but as guys we think we the other head and the girl is thinking nice smile...
but what I do is I give them a compliment or talk about some health food in the store...show an interest in something
besides their tits n ass .....women love compliments about hair or skin......
then if they bite well.. I go to next level of do you shop here a lot ...and if they are friendly I go for the kill
I give my number , dont ask for theirs bc they think you are a stalker .....I just say text me next time lets grab a coffee...
YES this has worked for me and yes I got laid once with a store pu..... married woman needed some attention..
its all about timing ....
OK so no charge for those tips ....and worse case they go home and masturbate thinking of your cock...
then you book a session with an SP thinking you picked her up in the store....
enjoy!