Hi eveyone, i've been dating this christian girl for a while now , we've agreed no sex before marrigae i mean i gotta respect her we've been together almost 4 and a half years now and we've managed, she's into toys and i know she's as horny as me, but she can control her self very well. But sometimes she refuses to talk about sex, I'm just wondering if anyone here has had this problem? Becuase were thinking of maybe an engagment next year, but i'm realy nervouse of what are sex lives could be like, i know, she has some wild ideas, it just seems like a forbiden subject till the ring is on her fingure, need some advice, on what might happen and how to deal with this hopfully from people whopm delt wit this kinda thing before.
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- Thread starter clover33
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...and months if not weeks later you realize that you have made a mistake.Sheik said:
Then in about a year you will come to this place
https://terb.cc/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?forumid=9
shortly after this place
https://terb.cc/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?forumid=8
then here
https://terb.cc/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?forumid=30
and then you`ll freak and read a post like this
https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?threadid=74264
but the thing you got going for you is the fact that there are many lawyers on this board.
Who's going to break it to him that other than a brief period of baby-making, there's no sex after marriage either?
never mind all the test drive crap...just go have fun and call her when she is ready to wed...what a waste of 4 1/2 years...
Especially if one of her toys is a strap-on.Paul/IT said:
If you've made it 4 plus years and are still sane, then keep it up, er going...
clover33:
If she is that conservative, she might think sex is for procreation only. If so, she might also believe that good girls do not enjoy sex, they just submit to it for having babies or because its a wife duty. That doesn't mean you should not marry her, there may be other reasons why you should, only you should do it with full realization that your married sex life may be severely constrained.
If she is that conservative, she might think sex is for procreation only. If so, she might also believe that good girls do not enjoy sex, they just submit to it for having babies or because its a wife duty. That doesn't mean you should not marry her, there may be other reasons why you should, only you should do it with full realization that your married sex life may be severely constrained.
This thread starter gives Christianity a bad name: I cannot imagine why you would put up with such a relationship! In my experiences the sex starts going downhill when you move in together. Long before marriage.
If you want to live your life in a different sequence, you don't need our help. These should be your prime sexual years with your partner. If she is not game, get another partner.
If you want to live your life in a different sequence, you don't need our help. These should be your prime sexual years with your partner. If she is not game, get another partner.
I thought Rule #1 was don't buy the cow if you can get the milk for free.Paul/IT said:
Cheers,
-djk
if your on this site, the milk is NOT free dear!
second i want to say .. congrats you have made it four and a half years. That means you are really committed and really love her. Coming from a woman this is really great, you have respected her.
So shes willing to use toys with you and play in other ways which are not intercourse.. well, this is good because it means that she is open to the idea of sex, either that or she is doing it to please you. both are important. how does she feel about doing this with you? is she squeamish, is she into it? you said sometimes she wont talk about it. is that because you are asking for it, or is it because she doesn't like to talk about it.
there are lots of sides to this story. but, four and a half years is nothing to scoff at.
me
second i want to say .. congrats you have made it four and a half years. That means you are really committed and really love her. Coming from a woman this is really great, you have respected her.
So shes willing to use toys with you and play in other ways which are not intercourse.. well, this is good because it means that she is open to the idea of sex, either that or she is doing it to please you. both are important. how does she feel about doing this with you? is she squeamish, is she into it? you said sometimes she wont talk about it. is that because you are asking for it, or is it because she doesn't like to talk about it.
there are lots of sides to this story. but, four and a half years is nothing to scoff at.
me
no sex??? bye bye bye!!!! get out!!!!
clover33 in two words dump her!!! There is no way in heaven or hell that I would date a girl and go 4 yrs with out sex. Hell, I even have a G.S.T rule aka get sex today. LOL...... My advice is to you is to run. Sorry if this sounds bad but come on sex is important. It's not the only thing in a relationship but you have to be sexually compatible. That's the bottom line! I don't know why you would agree to date someone and not to have sex with. If a girl came at that with me, she'd be gone! Even if she was in a moving car with me driving, she would be gone!
clover33 in two words dump her!!! There is no way in heaven or hell that I would date a girl and go 4 yrs with out sex. Hell, I even have a G.S.T rule aka get sex today. LOL...... My advice is to you is to run. Sorry if this sounds bad but come on sex is important. It's not the only thing in a relationship but you have to be sexually compatible. That's the bottom line! I don't know why you would agree to date someone and not to have sex with. If a girl came at that with me, she'd be gone! Even if she was in a moving car with me driving, she would be gone!
can you say wow or wow,,,,
Wow if she is real hot and it works out.Wow boy if her libido ends up in the minus zone.So she gets to use toys,do you get to watch,does she at least give good head,hand jobs?Does she let you use the toys?4 and 1 half years,cut your losses,go and get laid,now!If she knows she can keep you at bay for that long and longer,well this my friend is not good.How many other guys has she done?Please do not say she is a virgin,unless that 10 inch dildo does not count!Hell you may not be what she needs by the time she "allows" you to touch her.
IMHOP
PS-can you say,"blue balls?"
Wow if she is real hot and it works out.Wow boy if her libido ends up in the minus zone.So she gets to use toys,do you get to watch,does she at least give good head,hand jobs?Does she let you use the toys?4 and 1 half years,cut your losses,go and get laid,now!If she knows she can keep you at bay for that long and longer,well this my friend is not good.How many other guys has she done?Please do not say she is a virgin,unless that 10 inch dildo does not count!Hell you may not be what she needs by the time she "allows" you to touch her.
IMHOP
PS-can you say,"blue balls?"
Is that:clover33 said:
a) no sex for the either of you or
b) no sex between the both of you
Should we assume you are enjoying extra-relationship relations? Such as seeing SPs.
If you can't share everything and be 100% honest with your GF, then think VERY VERY HARD before getting married.
If you can't go home, lead your GF to the computer and show her your post, then think VERY VERY HARD before getting married.
I see a foundation of sticks and stones that wont hold the weight of a healthy growing marriage.
If you can't go home, lead your GF to the computer and show her your post, then think VERY VERY HARD before getting married.
I see a foundation of sticks and stones that wont hold the weight of a healthy growing marriage.
It really depends on how much "sex related" interaction you are doing now.
I had to wait about 5 months before I could have intercourse with my current gf. She is/was VERY sexual, but she was a virgin and would not engage in intercourse until she got on the pill. She loves all types of oral, has toys and masturbated frequently. She was very paranoid of getting pregnant, and condoms were a scary option for her as she believed the risk of breakage to be high. Long story short, after a month and a half of being together, she found a doc, got the prescription and started taking the pill. She wanted to wait at least another 2 months until we had intercourse, so the pill was effective.
When we finally got down to business, it was great. We were sexual before, and intercourse was just one last thing we hadn't as yet done. We have been together over a year now, and sex happens on average 5 times a week. She appreciated my patience at the beginning, and it helped forge a stronger sexual relationship.
In fact, I feel waiting made it better, as I like a long, slow tease
If your gf won't even talk about it now, I feel it is because she feels some guilt for having to make you wait, or she is tired of worrying about if you are losing interest/thinking about it. Sometimes ignoring a problem makes you feel it has gone away.
Open and honest communication is all that is needed. If you are in a fairly sexual realtionship now, the intercourse part will be the sweet icing on the cake. If you are not very sexual now, perhaps some interaction now will be needed as you could be in for a surprise after the wedding day otherwise.
Good Luck!
I had to wait about 5 months before I could have intercourse with my current gf. She is/was VERY sexual, but she was a virgin and would not engage in intercourse until she got on the pill. She loves all types of oral, has toys and masturbated frequently. She was very paranoid of getting pregnant, and condoms were a scary option for her as she believed the risk of breakage to be high. Long story short, after a month and a half of being together, she found a doc, got the prescription and started taking the pill. She wanted to wait at least another 2 months until we had intercourse, so the pill was effective.
When we finally got down to business, it was great. We were sexual before, and intercourse was just one last thing we hadn't as yet done. We have been together over a year now, and sex happens on average 5 times a week. She appreciated my patience at the beginning, and it helped forge a stronger sexual relationship.
In fact, I feel waiting made it better, as I like a long, slow tease
If your gf won't even talk about it now, I feel it is because she feels some guilt for having to make you wait, or she is tired of worrying about if you are losing interest/thinking about it. Sometimes ignoring a problem makes you feel it has gone away.
Open and honest communication is all that is needed. If you are in a fairly sexual realtionship now, the intercourse part will be the sweet icing on the cake. If you are not very sexual now, perhaps some interaction now will be needed as you could be in for a surprise after the wedding day otherwise.
Good Luck!
there are a lot of holes in this original post:
1. what sort of sexual relations have you had with your gf?
her frame of mind and views about sex needs to be clarified
2. why are you on this board?
have you been seeing sp's?
or others?
3. what are the circumstances that raise the topic of sex between you two?
4. are you christian too?
I agree with drivingmrpeter, this is something you should be honest about with your gf now. If the two of you get married, your actions in the present will be the actions you do during your marriage... best to break the habit now...
shordy
1. what sort of sexual relations have you had with your gf?
her frame of mind and views about sex needs to be clarified
2. why are you on this board?
have you been seeing sp's?
or others?
3. what are the circumstances that raise the topic of sex between you two?
4. are you christian too?
I agree with drivingmrpeter, this is something you should be honest about with your gf now. If the two of you get married, your actions in the present will be the actions you do during your marriage... best to break the habit now...
shordy
just like to add in my 2 cents, though most people probably would not lke to read it.
You've wasted your time completely. 4.5 years and no sex? my god man, are you MAD? seriously, you've invested so much money in this little bitch and you're not getting your pay out... as if men are interested in anything more than sex with a woman... sheesh, my dude friends are better for companionship... and women are just cum dumpsters.
YOU'VE BEEN JIPPED!
You've wasted your time completely. 4.5 years and no sex? my god man, are you MAD? seriously, you've invested so much money in this little bitch and you're not getting your pay out... as if men are interested in anything more than sex with a woman... sheesh, my dude friends are better for companionship... and women are just cum dumpsters.
YOU'VE BEEN JIPPED!
Four and a half years without sex??? LOLOLOLOL....I was married to a woman who loved sex before she got the diamond...after...well...lets see...I am now single and writing on Terb...you figure it out.
