We all have different tastes, different standards too.
Finding exactly what you want, given your means of getting it, can be a very difficult thing.
For me, SP's and MPA's all come with their pluses and minuses. On the plus side, it requires very little work in arranging a get together. On the downside, I don't get exactly the service I want from an MPA, and I have to wear a condom with any SP, and I don't like wearing condoms.
Finding what I want, then, requires work. Every other fulfillment avenue requires work.
For me, I want an ongoing almost exclusively sexual relationship with a particularly exquisite, slim, tallish, young woman (half my age). I'd prefer her to be reasonably bright. I'd prefer her to be talented. I need her to be available when I'm available. I need her to get tested periodically. I need to know something about her and her lifestyle. That's a tough bill to fill. And more to the point, there were lots of things I didn't want. In particular, I didn't want a girl who was looking at me as a future husband.
There's the advertising route - it really is amazing how many women there are out there who don't fit the description who'd be interested in the job. This can be expensive, a lot of work, and can produce absolutely no results.
Then, there's the varous "dating" sites option.
I spent some 18 months on Ashley Madison. I was on the website, several times a day, 20 or so days a month for this period. Often, for only a few minutes at a time. Sometimes for longer.
It can get very expensive. Of the number of elligible women within 50 miles, less than 5% fit my bill. Of those 5%, the vast majority, never responded to messages. Of the few who did respond to messages, only 16 times did it result in a correspondance of more than 4 messages.
Of those 16 young women, I believe 6 or so weren't real - they were either jokers or Ashley Madison employees, or whatever. Of the 10 remaining young women, 6 were SP's, trying an alternate route.
Of the 4 remaining candidates, 3 developed into sexual relationships (not at the same time). Each initially fit my bill.
I found the first had some quirks. After a number of months we mutually decided it wasn't perfect. The second turned out to have lied about her age, and was only 19. Smoking hot body, but eventually the immature personality wore me down. The third worked well for over a year, with the exception that she had no vehicle and her location wasn't terribly convenient. It was successful while it lasted.
My point is that it was a long time to wait, and a lot of work to get what I wanted. Is that worth it to you? Or are you willing to accept less and not have to put in the work?
I didn't renew my Ashley Madison subscription.
I tried another website - sugardaddie.com.
I was hoping the title would help focus the pool of elligible women to a group more in tune with what I'm looking for.
I mean, Ashley Madison was really focused on cheating and affairs, not on the more business side of things. I wanted a sugar based relationship.
Well, to my surprise, aside from the usual fakes, SP's, and MPA's who'd periodically show up, there are a good number of women who'd be willing to find a potential husband through a site called sugardaddie.com.
That amazes me.
Communcation is easier on the site, but again, the pickings, for me, are slim. Once you weed out the fakes, SP's, and MPA's (and let me make this clear - I've nothing against them - just not what I'm looking for), and girls looking for traditional boyfriends, there are few girls left. And then you have to weed out the one's that (ahem) don't fit the bill.
At about this point, I discovered something interesting. Not only are the pickings slim, but my competitors are almost all lying. I start hearing back from various girls, disbelieving what I say, because every other guy on the site is lying.
He's older than he said he was. He's not wealthy at all. He's married, but said he wasn't.
Combine this with comments like:He's pathetic. He hasn't washed in days. He wouldn't even treat me!
So I began to realize that my scrupulously honest approach was likely, in some cases, making it hard for me in the initial stages.
Please realize this is a lot of effort to be putting into this endeavour.
Still - I decided the only approach was the honest approach. So I added this fact. At the end of every introductory message I sent out, I added, "I'm hoping at the very least, my honesty has some value to you."
Immediately, my success rate went up. I'm not saying it became easy. There were still very few girls of interest. But without a doubt, my batting average increased.
It really is important to be able to make adjustments. That was one of the adjustments I made.
Several successes developed - including one who explicitly had told me she was looking for a boyfriend and not a sugar relationship. It turned out she'd met two previous guys, all of whom weren't anything like what they said they were like.
The "I'm an honest guy" thing just happened to hit her at the right time. Lucky me. The relationship never developed into what I wanted, mind, you, but it was a nice little interlude.
I found girls placed hints in their profiles, that it was up to you to notice. One quoted Martin Luther King (god knows why, but she was gorgeous). She received messages from over 100 guys but only one - me - commented on the quote (I googled it). Another named herself after a French cheese (again, God knows why). Google became my friend.
But I'm not trying to brag - I'm trying to illustrate how much work it's been; how long a wait it requires. Success can take months.
I'm not here advocating it's worth the wait. But it's the path I've taken to get what I want. (and I'm in a sharing mood.)
Finding exactly what you want, given your means of getting it, can be a very difficult thing.
For me, SP's and MPA's all come with their pluses and minuses. On the plus side, it requires very little work in arranging a get together. On the downside, I don't get exactly the service I want from an MPA, and I have to wear a condom with any SP, and I don't like wearing condoms.
Finding what I want, then, requires work. Every other fulfillment avenue requires work.
For me, I want an ongoing almost exclusively sexual relationship with a particularly exquisite, slim, tallish, young woman (half my age). I'd prefer her to be reasonably bright. I'd prefer her to be talented. I need her to be available when I'm available. I need her to get tested periodically. I need to know something about her and her lifestyle. That's a tough bill to fill. And more to the point, there were lots of things I didn't want. In particular, I didn't want a girl who was looking at me as a future husband.
There's the advertising route - it really is amazing how many women there are out there who don't fit the description who'd be interested in the job. This can be expensive, a lot of work, and can produce absolutely no results.
Then, there's the varous "dating" sites option.
I spent some 18 months on Ashley Madison. I was on the website, several times a day, 20 or so days a month for this period. Often, for only a few minutes at a time. Sometimes for longer.
It can get very expensive. Of the number of elligible women within 50 miles, less than 5% fit my bill. Of those 5%, the vast majority, never responded to messages. Of the few who did respond to messages, only 16 times did it result in a correspondance of more than 4 messages.
Of those 16 young women, I believe 6 or so weren't real - they were either jokers or Ashley Madison employees, or whatever. Of the 10 remaining young women, 6 were SP's, trying an alternate route.
Of the 4 remaining candidates, 3 developed into sexual relationships (not at the same time). Each initially fit my bill.
I found the first had some quirks. After a number of months we mutually decided it wasn't perfect. The second turned out to have lied about her age, and was only 19. Smoking hot body, but eventually the immature personality wore me down. The third worked well for over a year, with the exception that she had no vehicle and her location wasn't terribly convenient. It was successful while it lasted.
My point is that it was a long time to wait, and a lot of work to get what I wanted. Is that worth it to you? Or are you willing to accept less and not have to put in the work?
I didn't renew my Ashley Madison subscription.
I tried another website - sugardaddie.com.
I was hoping the title would help focus the pool of elligible women to a group more in tune with what I'm looking for.
I mean, Ashley Madison was really focused on cheating and affairs, not on the more business side of things. I wanted a sugar based relationship.
Well, to my surprise, aside from the usual fakes, SP's, and MPA's who'd periodically show up, there are a good number of women who'd be willing to find a potential husband through a site called sugardaddie.com.
That amazes me.
Communcation is easier on the site, but again, the pickings, for me, are slim. Once you weed out the fakes, SP's, and MPA's (and let me make this clear - I've nothing against them - just not what I'm looking for), and girls looking for traditional boyfriends, there are few girls left. And then you have to weed out the one's that (ahem) don't fit the bill.
At about this point, I discovered something interesting. Not only are the pickings slim, but my competitors are almost all lying. I start hearing back from various girls, disbelieving what I say, because every other guy on the site is lying.
He's older than he said he was. He's not wealthy at all. He's married, but said he wasn't.
Combine this with comments like:He's pathetic. He hasn't washed in days. He wouldn't even treat me!
So I began to realize that my scrupulously honest approach was likely, in some cases, making it hard for me in the initial stages.
Please realize this is a lot of effort to be putting into this endeavour.
Still - I decided the only approach was the honest approach. So I added this fact. At the end of every introductory message I sent out, I added, "I'm hoping at the very least, my honesty has some value to you."
Immediately, my success rate went up. I'm not saying it became easy. There were still very few girls of interest. But without a doubt, my batting average increased.
It really is important to be able to make adjustments. That was one of the adjustments I made.
Several successes developed - including one who explicitly had told me she was looking for a boyfriend and not a sugar relationship. It turned out she'd met two previous guys, all of whom weren't anything like what they said they were like.
The "I'm an honest guy" thing just happened to hit her at the right time. Lucky me. The relationship never developed into what I wanted, mind, you, but it was a nice little interlude.
I found girls placed hints in their profiles, that it was up to you to notice. One quoted Martin Luther King (god knows why, but she was gorgeous). She received messages from over 100 guys but only one - me - commented on the quote (I googled it). Another named herself after a French cheese (again, God knows why). Google became my friend.
But I'm not trying to brag - I'm trying to illustrate how much work it's been; how long a wait it requires. Success can take months.
I'm not here advocating it's worth the wait. But it's the path I've taken to get what I want. (and I'm in a sharing mood.)
