Friendship question
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The best thing you can do is to be honest and tell him about how you feel about it. That way the ball is in his court and you are off the hook. See what happens, but if you ask me, I would call it quits. It will never be the same. If you play games you will only make it worse.
It's been said many times that men cannot be friends with a woman they are sexually attracted to.
It's been said many times that men cannot be friends with a woman they are sexually attracted to.
I've been in that situation for years...I totally adore my very best female friend, and she knows it. I let it get out a couple of years ago how I felt about her, she basically told me it couldn't be (we work together)...so we just moved on with our friendship. She means the world...and has always been there for me (coming up on 11 years). We go to dinner often, and confide in each other. She's one of the most beautiful women you could ever see, but I just tell myself she's untouchable. I'm just so thankful for her friendship every day.
If one wants a relationship but the other doesn't then a relationship will never happen.
I assume that it's a guy wanting a relationship with you.
So the answer to your question depends on whether the guy interested in the relationship is satisfied in a friendship, knowing the relationship thing will never happen.
My advice is to be honest with him. Make him realize that IJWBF.
I have such a situation with a lady friend of mine who wants a relationship but I just want her as a friend, in spite of me telling her that it will never happen. She still is a good friend of mine.
I assume that it's a guy wanting a relationship with you.
So the answer to your question depends on whether the guy interested in the relationship is satisfied in a friendship, knowing the relationship thing will never happen.
My advice is to be honest with him. Make him realize that IJWBF.
I have such a situation with a lady friend of mine who wants a relationship but I just want her as a friend, in spite of me telling her that it will never happen. She still is a good friend of mine.
One important detail you did not mention is how long you have been friends with this guy. IMHO, that has alot to do with how this situation could develop.
One of the posters here mentioned he has been friends with a woman he works with for 11 years. That sounds very solid to me.
A true measure of a friendship between a man and a woman is how one reacts when the other gets involved in a relationship. If the friendship continues and the friend supports the relationship, then you have a solid foundation. If the friendship falters, then one of the friends was really only in it hoping for things to go to the next level.
The other thing to consider is that a life changing event may come along and change the dynamics of the friendship and suddenly you find yourself in a full blown love affair that is based on a very solid friendship foundation. That's a good start.
I have the exact opposite situation, one of my best friends told me that she, twice that she want to take our relationship to the next level. I think of her as a sister, I don't fuck my sisters. Our friendship is almost 10 years old and she started this talk a few years ago. It kinda creeps me out a little when we are together, but I still want her as a friend..... Complicated!
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Try sleeping naked with your best friend. You know you can be just friends when you don't get wood.
The only reason this guy has been your 'friend' is that he is hoping for a pot of gold [your pussy] at the end of the rainbow. I doubt if he has woke up and suddenly felt different about you. Most SC girls have these guys following them like puppy dogs doing their chores for them. The guys think that they will win by default when your current boyfriend relationship falters.
Tell your friend up front - 'I like you as a friend but we will never be anything else'. If you can't tell him this then deep inside you know what the attraction is and you want to keep him on the hook. If you tell him and he is still there as a friend a month after with no change then you have a real friend. If he gradually disappears and is non-responsive - you just got rid of a stalker using friendship as an opportunity for sex.
Wrong on so many levels. Why not just open his fly and pop his dick in your mouth to save time ? My SO has some nice friends and I enjoy their company without a thought of bedding them down. Put them naked in bed beside and my Jr who has a mind of his own besides being an opportunist is going to salute. My boner is more an honest compliment and really gives no care what happens after he is finished.
It's fine, nice you can settle for being a close friend which can have its own rewards. You're still free to pursue other people you're attracted to and your friend would probably be supportive of this.
Complicated issue.
It can be hell for a guy to be in love with a girl who only sees him as a friend. I know: been there, done that many years ago.
That said, I am friends with several girls I'm not sleeping with...but it helps I find if one has had sex with them in the past. Seriously, girls I've had one night stands with make great friends - I get to know them and often enjoy talking to them and have no sexual need to have sex with them as I already have and it wasn't that great and I don't feel a need to repeat. That frees up the field for a lasting friendship that we both enjoy. Works great.
If the guy is really in love than sex once as a favour won't satisfy him. A guy who isn't in love but is just curious as to whether sex will be fun with her or not can often be satisfied with a one off and will be happy with just a friendship going forward. At learst it works for me. No pressure to get married or commit - just an enjoyable friensdship and no feeling that she doesn't think you're worthy of sex either since she tried it out with you once and you both thought the chemistry was lacking so don't want to repeat. Perfect basis for a male-female lasting friendship.
It can be hell for a guy to be in love with a girl who only sees him as a friend. I know: been there, done that many years ago.
That said, I am friends with several girls I'm not sleeping with...but it helps I find if one has had sex with them in the past. Seriously, girls I've had one night stands with make great friends - I get to know them and often enjoy talking to them and have no sexual need to have sex with them as I already have and it wasn't that great and I don't feel a need to repeat. That frees up the field for a lasting friendship that we both enjoy. Works great.
If the guy is really in love than sex once as a favour won't satisfy him. A guy who isn't in love but is just curious as to whether sex will be fun with her or not can often be satisfied with a one off and will be happy with just a friendship going forward. At learst it works for me. No pressure to get married or commit - just an enjoyable friensdship and no feeling that she doesn't think you're worthy of sex either since she tried it out with you once and you both thought the chemistry was lacking so don't want to repeat. Perfect basis for a male-female lasting friendship.
HUH? That's crazy talk. Which relationships survive for the long term? (20 to 40 years)The intense/love hate crap of ones 20's and 30's is.perhaps fun and dramatic, but long term relationships are built on friendship.
Why won't the OP give it a chance?It could be the best move she ever makes.
