Friends with benefits

[digi_7e]

Lets face it, a lot of us "hobbying" are married guys and love our wives but want something fun for a couple of hours every now and then to unplug.
BUT, for me now i am tired of scheduljng, appointms, contacting, agreeing on a location and all this.
I want a FWB with a girl, whom we can meet for a date and some fun. I want to be that same girl everytime. Like my mistress if you wanna call it that way . How can I find such woman? Thoughts?

 

[Sonic Temple]

Lets face it, a lot of us "hobbying" are married guys and love our wives but want something fun for a couple of hours every now and then to unplug.
BUT, for me now i am tired of scheduljng, appointms, contacting, agreeing on a location and all this.
I want a FWB with a girl, whom we can meet for a date and some fun. I want to be that same girl everytime. Like my mistress if you wanna call it that way . How can I find such woman? Thoughts?

Let me know what you find, not married but don't want to pay - thanks all.

 

[NotADcotor]

I had two friends with benefits, one died. I don't see why everyone is hepped up on being friends with someone on the dole or disability. I mean it's fine, they have a lot of time, but it's not much different from being friend with someone who who isn't on the dole.

 

[The Options Menu]

I've had a couple of long running FWBs over the years, one of whom recently popped back up in my life for a cameo. I see a FWB relationship as a hard thing to start while you're in a relationship. (You're looking for a mistress, who knows she's a mistress, if you already have a SO.)

In my case it was with people where attempts to date, or be in a relationship, failed early and RELATIVELY amicably. What made them work is that we existed on the periphery of each other's lives, and could actually reestablish a real friendship without being up in each other's business or beds all of the time.

Reasonable distance is important there. So is respecting boundaries (like the other person being interested in someone, or being in a relationship). So is not getting things messed up in your head. Your FWB needs to be a friend that you sometimes shag when you're both down to do so. I also suggest avoiding being you FWB's rebound shag. Let the FWB get one under the belt, or over it, before you get in there.

The more common scenario is that one or both of you are kidding yourself about how you feel, and that there will be a lot of hurting each other, and blowing up each other's relationships. Ye have been warned. Been in that scenario more times than I've been a FWB.

 

[shack]

Lets face it, a lot of us "hobbying" are married guys and love our wives but want something fun for a couple of hours every now and then to unplug.
BUT, for me now i am tired of scheduljng, appointms, contacting, agreeing on a location and all this.
I want a FWB with a girl, whom we can meet for a date and some fun. I want to be that same girl everytime. Like my mistress if you wanna call it that way . How can I find such woman? Thoughts?

A sugar baby is the new "mistress". It always took money to keep a mistress. She was a kept woman.

To get a true FWB with no money involved is a difficult task.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

Lets face it, a lot of us "hobbying" are married guys and love our wives but want something fun for a couple of hours every now and then to unplug.
BUT, for me now i am tired of scheduljng, appointms, contacting, agreeing on a location and all this.
I want a FWB with a girl, whom we can meet for a date and some fun. I want to be that same girl everytime. Like my mistress if you wanna call it that way . How can I find such woman? Thoughts?

The mall. The grocery store. Wear an explanatory T shirt.

 

[superstar_88]

There's no free lunch ...

 

[xmontrealer]

There's no free lunch ...

Way back in the day I had a "friend with benefits" that started off as dating, but never progressed to exclusivity. It eventually got to the point where we would date a couple of times a month, in the full knowledge that it was only a non-exclusive fwb relationship.

However, I once asked her, and stated it was just out of curiosity and not intent, how she would feel if I didn't take her for dinner or at least a movie before the sex.

She said that would make her feel "used".

 

[Robert Mugabe]

Way back in the day I had a "friend with benefits" that started off as dating, but never progressed to exclusivity. It eventually got to the point where we would date a couple of times a month, in the full knowledge that it was only a non-exclusive fwb relationship.

However, I once asked her, and stated it was just out of curiosity and not intent, how she would feel if I didn't take her for dinner or at least a movie before the sex.

She said that would make her feel "used".

Fair enough. As long as she carries her own tray.

 

[dchoye]

Those who have experience both FWB and SBs. What’s the difference?

 

[superman12]

Lets face it, a lot of us "hobbying" are married guys and love our wives but want something fun for a couple of hours every now and then to unplug.
BUT, for me now i am tired of scheduljng, appointms, contacting, agreeing on a location and all this.
I want a FWB with a girl, whom we can meet for a date and some fun. I want to be that same girl everytime. Like my mistress if you wanna call it that way . How can I find such woman? Thoughts?

If your in a workplace with a lot of women you can probably find someone there who would be interested in a fwb relationship. When I had an office job about 20 years ago I had a fwb relationship with a married women. We both were looking for the same thing and on the same page. I think it helped that we were both married and "loved" our spouses but just wanted something a bit of excitement and nothing more. We worked in the same office so coordinating when we would hook up and keeping the secret away from our spouses wasn't all that difficult.

 

[Ginomore]

If your in a workplace with a lot of women you can probably find someone there who would be interested in a fwb relationship. When I had an office job about 20 years ago I had a fwb relationship with a married women. We both were looking for the same thing and on the same page. I think it helped that we were both married and "loved" our spouses but just wanted something a bit of excitement and nothing more. We worked in the same office so coordinating when we would hook up and keeping the secret away from our spouses wasn't all that difficult.

That sounds like a recipe for disaster when the relationship eventually goes south.

 

[The Options Menu]

If your in a workplace with a lot of women you can probably find someone there who would be interested in a fwb relationship.

The thing is you wouldn't typically be hiding an actual friend from your SO, even if your SO wasn't very fond of some of your 'friends'. That would the relationship more of a 'mistress' situation, IMHO.

 

[superman12]

That sounds like a recipe for disaster when the relationship eventually goes south.

I mean the relationship would only go south if both people are not on the same page with what they are looking for or for one reason or another one starts to develop feelings for the other. I wouldn't recommend starting any sort of fwb relationship with someone who has different expectations then you

 

[Cholla]

I like the subject, but at the same time I am a realist. I feel that FWB is a thing of the past, unless someone is really lucky. What I am surprised with is that SD and SB aren’t involved in something kinkier than just 1-on-1. If the guy has the money he can think of various 3some scenarios with a friend and SB etc. Oh, well, what do I know…

 

[Nickelodeon]

Wait until you're 70. There are a lonely widows out there willing to exchange sex for someone who listens, occasionally hugs them and shares a coffee. A true "friend with benefits" but you have to genuinely be a friend.

 

[rex_baner]

I like the subject, but at the same time I am a realist. I feel that FWB is a thing of the past, unless someone is really lucky. What I am surprised with is that SD and SB aren’t involved in something kinkier than just 1-on-1. If the guy has the money he can think of various 3some scenarios with a friend and SB etc. Oh, well, what do I know…

It still happens.

I wouldn't say luck. I think it varies by age groups and situation. My work wife cut me off when she started dating again. An old friend of mine I used to see often plans to move to north bay, so... probably 1 last ride before she goes.

I hear stories with some staff, but I can't confirm. It seems ppl just have someone on the side.

 

[The Options Menu]

It still happens.

I suspect it will happen for as long as people have friends, and people like a good romp. Like you said, it mostly comes down to where you are in life.

 

[Liam011]

What I am surprised with is that SD and SB aren’t involved in something kinkier than just 1-on-1. If the guy has the money he can think of various 3some scenarios with a friend and SB etc. Oh, well, what do I know…

Some of us have.

 

[Cholla]

Some of us have.

Enjoy! Make her cum all the time and she’ll be yours forever: