French Canadian FWB

[Happyhomer]

I met a French Canadian woman (42) while on vacation in Jamaica. Her English is excellent, she is slim, pretty (to me but maybe not generically) and we really hit it off. We got it on the last night and it was super sexy, even with her 9yo kid asleep in the next room.

She lives in Gatineau, next to Ottawa. I live in Toronto. I’m married but a mainly sexless marriage. I’m 48, tall, decent looking and have a great successful business.

I saw her a few weeks ago— we met up for a romantic weekend in Picton. Great time even with her on her period. I am supposed to go visit her in Gatineau next weekend but lately I feel like there is a scam somewhere in here. She knows I’m married but seems to not care but has told me that she won’t be a ‘mistress’.

Am I being played here?? I did pay for two rooms in Picton and she wants me to get a specific hotel in Gatineau. I don’t really mind even though it is a waste of $$. I don’t mind paying all the costs in our meetings— her body really is spectacular.

Thoughts?? Risks??

 

[JayRoam]

What would happen if your wife found out? Do you even bother hiding this FWB?

Does your new friend have a husband or ex? When you get together, is it just for sex or do you do relationship stuff together?

Are there any expectations that you develop a relationship with her kid?

 

[xix]

Wow talk about Distance FWB.
I run.

I guess the 30 day ban is over.
Dear Penthouse...

 

[RZG]

Another guy thinking with his dick. Ask your wife how she feels about this, you`re setting yourself up to get clipped for serious bucks. Smarten up .

 

[that6969]

You do realize you could end up paying child support down the road regardless you aren't a couple and such.

 

[Jenesis]

You do realize you could end up paying child support down the road regardless you aren't a couple and such.

You have to act as loco-parentis to have this happen. Keeping it sexual and never meeting the kid, paying for the kid, living with the kid or being involved in any form or parenting will not put you at risk of paying child support for a child that is not yours.

You get together with woman when she is pregnant, are there for the birth and stay with her for 3 years and the bio-dad is not around then yeah, you are on the hook.

 

[dvous11]

She knows you're married but says she won't be a Mistress.
Bro, acknowledge this is very short term fun and cut it off before you get too sucked in and it ends badly for you.

 

[Hybrid7]

Extremely hot situation. Everything but the kid angle at least. Never interact or be near the little one— it’d be a shame they got any sort of impressions about you and their mom.

How’d the Jamaica hookup work exactly? Were you there with your wife or alone? Sneaking off on the last night sounds like a porno plot.

 

[that6969]

If you're some multimillionaire with money to blow then have fun, but play it safe. I've heard of stories where the wife shows up at the hotel and screams at the staff asking where her hubby is because she knows he's banging some side chick. Hotel staff see and deal with a lot of shit like this.

 

[underground]

How about just going to Ottawa/Gatineau for one last night of sex ? Then mentally check out after you check out of the hotel ?
View it as a life affirming conquest and move on before it begins to damage your private life ?

 

[wiskey bravo]

How about just going to Ottawa/Gatineau for one last night of sex ? Then mentally check out after you check out of the hotel ?
View it as a life affirming conquest and move on before it begins to damage your private life ?

I like this method the best. Get your last high and let it go. You know what the answer is already. Also, you need to ask yourself if the funds were insufficient and the only option was holiday inn, would she make the effort? You know the answer to this too. Play the high roller one last time and set it free if you need too. Could you imagine getting an hotel invoice to your house because the Karma God decided to come out and play with you? Or how about the marketing department wanting you to fill out a survey? It's pretty easy to trick someone in getting a hotel receipt. A successful thriving business can be turned upside down by making these type of decisions no matter how good you think you are.

 

[Ginomore]

Too much effort and very risky-just see escorts instead.

 

[countd]

Sounds too risky to me for a piece of tail!

 

[Happyhomer]

What would happen if your wife found out? Do you even bother hiding this FWB?

Does your new friend have a husband or ex? When you get together, is it just for sex or do you do relationship stuff together?

Are there any expectations that you develop a relationship with her kid?

My wife would be unhappy but unlikely to cause a major disruption. She does not want to get divorced as I have a strong marriage contract and she is generally happy.

My new friend claims that she is completely single. Her kid’s dad (6-7 year relationship that was over 3 years ago) gets the kid every other weekend and that when we met up.

I have a good relationship with her kid. I met the kid and spent the week them both. Good kid.

 

[Happyhomer]

You have to act as loco-parentis to have this happen. Keeping it sexual and never meeting the kid, paying for the kid, living with the kid or being involved in any form or parenting will not put you at risk of paying child support for a child that is not yours.

You get together with woman when she is pregnant, are there for the birth and stay with her for 3 years and the bio-dad is not around then yeah, you are on the hook.

Bio dad is around and gets the kid every other weekend— that is when we plan on getting together. I like her but I definitely do not want to pay support for the kid for another 13 years.

 

[Happyhomer]

How about just going to Ottawa/Gatineau for one last night of sex ? Then mentally check out after you check out of the hotel ?
View it as a life affirming conquest and move on before it begins to damage your private life ?

That would be fun. But it rarely works out that way. I have had ‘sugar babies’ before and it has worked extremely well. I normally have had 3-5 month relationships before one or both of us get tired with it. I am more concerned about a scam or extortion.

I am not super concerned about my private life. My wife does not want to get divorced and I have a super strong marriage contract. I am concerned about being held captive or some other wild French Canadian scam that I haven’t thought of. This girl is wild but fun. Form what she tells me, she has lived a hard life with drugs, booze, etc.

 

[Happyhomer]

Sounds too risky to me for a piece of tail!

There is a big difference between banging a girl for money when she is also baging 10 other guys and having an amazing day coupled with wild sex escapades with a civilian woman. I love both.

 

[Happyhomer]

Too much effort and very risky-just see escorts instead.

I do both. And I love doing both.

 

[JayRoam]

Tell me about this mariage contract. I'm divoriced and paid a shitload to my ex. Sounds like I needed one of those.

 

[Happyhomer]

Tell me about this mariage contract. I'm divoriced and paid a shitload to my ex. Sounds like I needed one of those.

see a good lawyer. And be tough with your future wife. I came into the marriage already successful in business. There was no way I was giving that up to any woman. Be strong.