falling in love with an SP.

[Rivera]

From Serenity,

"So my advice culminates in this: Why ruin a good thing! Reality is not so pleasant, and enjoying someone for an hour is hardly a prelude to enjoying them for a lifetime. But that does not lessen the significance of that hour."

I fear that by isolating this one comment, I run the risk of invalidating all that Serenity has said and said rather well. Having said that, please take my comments in the spirit intended.

I have to disagree with the comment about reality. Reality may have some unpleasant components, but so does frequenting SPs. The key is to balance the good and the bad. I quite like reality, warts and all. It's refreshing to know that the SPs are human. Knowing that she may be vulnerable can be a source of attraction. Isn't traditional dating much like that? You endeavour to complement the personality of your partner, perhaps to compensate for weaknesses with your own areas of strength.

As well, enjoying someone for an hour can, indeed, be a prelude to enjoying them for a lifetime. Every committed relationship has to begin somewhere...an hour or two together at a club after meeting for the first time, a dinner date that leads to a second and third and fourth... You just can't generalize. You may connect with an SP on a level way deeper than the intended goal and vice versa.

If the bad outweighs the good, whether with an SP or with a traditional date, count your blessings for having experienced someone new, and move on. If the good outweighs the bad, make it work for you, using any framework for relationships that pleases the both of you. Stranger things have happened.

 

[yoniluvrca]

Rivera

Good, thoughtful comment. One thing that struck me was was your comment about balance. Balance is a key to fullness in life and perhaps happiness. The way I see it is that balance is always present in "reality" and it is the mind that gets out of balance. Some might argue that this is a "chicken or the egg, which came first" arguement and I am not here to argue. To me the "truth" is that both these views are true and the key to being happy with it is to act as if both are true. If you can find happiness-or perhaps acceptence is a better word-of just this moment, just as it is, then there really is never anything to be unhappy about. The only way to do this, as I have found, is to act as if the moment lasts forever. So when I am with an sp-or anyone for that matter-my intention is always to somehow get that this is it, forever. And then the moment appears to move on and something else is happening so that that, what ever it is, is the experience to accept. One never knows then if the next person you meet will be with you for an instant-or for the next 40 yrs. , or indeed forever. Society is simply not set up to support such a way of living. Society or culture is set up to preserve itself and to reproduce what is already there. This seems to be one of the reasons I find the sp experience so attractive. It seems to operate at the fringe of culture. The proffession has been with us for an awfully long time and gone through many changes. Many of the women I have met in this proffession have a flavour of freedom within which is very close to the surface. They do a valuable job in society and are rarely thanked for this and are in fact vilified for what they do. They are often all too easy to fall "in love" with, but far too free spirited to posess, as many want to do. People often comment that they could not sell themselves as an sp sells herself. As I see it many sps are the few individuals on this planet at the moment who refuse to do just that.

Thank you ladies-you have my love, my respect(even the one that are not so up front or honest) and my encouragement to stay free.

YL

 

[dudelove]

Hmm, if you are not an SP or even a retired one, and you are a single mom raising 3 kids, then why are you in terb in the first place?

Aren't you looking for a six pack stud? Isn't that you are busy on your kids and building your businesses?

It seems to me that you are pretty good financially since statistically single mom tend to be worst off compared to the single dad.

Or you are really a man or at worst a LE.

 

[Meesh]

Hmm, if you are not an SP or even a retired one, and you are a single mom raising 3 kids, then why are you in terb in the first place?

Aren't you looking for a six pack stud? Isn't that you are busy on your kids and building your businesses?

It seems to me that you are pretty good financially since statistically single mom tend to be worst off compared to the single dad.

Or you are really a man or at worst a LE.

I love it when a guy makes a real ass of himself.

Keep up the good work, dudelove.

 

[Goober Mcfly]

If Misty is a man or LE, I'll become a Leafs fan.

 

[Cardinal Fang]

Re: If I am a Man ...

I'd like to find the Doctor that did my implants cuz he did a damn good job and so natural looking too !

Not that I don't believe you....but seeing is believing.

 

[Goober Mcfly]

Well, apparently Sheik's implants look pretty natural...

 

[Meesh]

Re: If I am a Man ...

Meesh do I look like a man too you >>>??? Misty

I dunno, fella...better show me more!

 

[Cardinal Fang]

Wrong Hole will confirm them as "spectacular."

 

[ycghiydvo]

[No message]

 

[hornydawg]

I believe it's possible to be with an SP...if you are comfortable with their line of work. There is absoluteley nothing wrong with working in the sex trade field. It's better than welfare...
However, be very afraid if you are thinking of any type of "normal" relationship with an SP as long as she is still working.
There's nothing like lying in her bed at night waiting for her to return from her job and thinking about all the really bad things
Unless you want that sort of life...really think about it.

Remember.......if you are praying and hoping that you and an SP can get together and live happily ever after.... then also take this little piece of advice,


WHEN GOD WANTS TO PUNISH YOU
HE ANSWERS YOUR PRAYERS!

 

[parang]

Ole dad

Misty ( waits for parang to come to her defense in telling you all I am not a man ,he has seen them in the flesh ....ha )

Now were having some fun ! Misty.

Guys let me assure you shes all woman--and a nice one to boot.
Misty I needed the batteries after seeing "itsy" and "bitsy".
And Misty-To hell with the six pack--youve got a twelve pack.
They just will never understand...

 

[Average Joe]

Re: Generalizations....

Average Joe I hardly think my asking you a question constitutes me as not being compassionate , I have more compassion then your Average Joe Schmo out there I can tell you that . Also look at my last statement ........I said " I do not think the SP has the right to ask for money or a tip " and she definately does not have the right to betray a trust either ! I feel for your bad experiences but dont make general statements about others based on your negative experiences , we are all individuels.

I did not make any generalizations. You stated that "It is my belief that you cant be conned into anything its your choice weather or not to say no and it is not the SP's fault that you gave in"

If it is not the SPs fault then it must be mine. Regardless if you go on to say that you don't think it's "right to ask for money or a tip" you still blame me for being conned. That is where the lack of compassion comes in.

You can't side with the con artist in one sentence (my fault not hers) and then side against the SP in the next saying she was wrong.

There's nothing more for me to say because if you can't see how two faced that is then I pity the man who has to put up with your logic.

 

[Ophelia Black]

This is a my personal opinion.

If I had a client declare his love, and propose I be his exclusive girlfiend, that would be the very last time he ever saw me.

You don't change the rules in the middle of the game. It's not cute, and not welcome.

Where does this come from? Why would a client not realize I may very well already have a boyfriend or husband? And why the hell would anyone expect me to give up a very enjoyable and relatively lucrative career?

Understand that by the very act of telling me you've allowed your feelings to go beyond that which is agreed upon, you've also told me that you lack basic good judgement, that you feel it is appropriate to push my boundaries, and that what I do is somehow wrong (even though you participate in it) because you don't want me to do it anymore.

Romance is great! Love is fabulous! But so's logic. I find the whole 'be my girlfriend' idea exceptionally patronizing. Don't confuse boorishness with love, or wishful thinking with romance.

 

[boyr]

Falling In Love with an SP is a Fantasy!!!

"Falling In Love" per se could happen to anyone because we are all human beings with FEELINGS, no matter who we are. I admit, I fall in love with an SP. My first time, after being on this hobby for amost 6 years (on and off). It was a "FANTASY". My FANTASY, but not HER. We had great times together, but it did not last . I was heartbroken. But, I learned from this experience. Now, my FANTASY becomes a REALITY with another girl. She is not an SP. The SP that I fell in love and my recent GF have some "exterior" and "interior" similarities. I could not ask for more....My "GOD" is very good to me...And I hope to all of you too. who had the same experience... Blessed be......

 

[Annessa]

Ever seen Pretty Woman



I believe it's possible because I experienced it and it's something very personal that I don't want to go into detail.

Love is possible in ANY situations / circumstances and just because people don't believe that, it doesn't mean that it's not true, real and valid to the people that it has happened to.

Take away 1 thing from an SP life 'her job' and she is datable then? shallow and hurtful.



Annessa
xoxo

 

[yoniluvrca]

As I said in an earlier post, sps are very easy to fall for. The trouble is that when people-esp.men, but not only men-fall in love the first place they want to go is ownership. I mean what else is jealousy about but ownership or rather perceived ownership. True when a beloved spends time with someone else I will go through things but is it really her responsibility to take care of that. Do I really want her to alter her behavior to suit me? Do I really want her to change the very thing that attracted her to me in the first place-her radiant sexual self-so that I feel better? Dating a beautiful woman-sp or not-always has the pitfall that other(probably richer and probably better looking) men will always be attracted to her. Why fight this? If she has fun with another man and comes home to you full of that fun why not just ask her if she had a good time and offer to draw her a bath. Seems an easier way to live to me. As I said at the start of this post sps are easy to fall for. Many are strong intelligent and beautiful women. To ask them to change because some guy takes a fancy to them is crazy. To accept who they are is the only really human thing to do and there is no real choice.

 

[canucklehead]

i had a SP give me her home and personal cell number and tell me she really would like to spend some time with me in the real world......... I like her a lot as we have great conversations well after the hour sometimes for two or three hours just cuddling and the odd 2nd and 3rd shot on goal. Plus she never charges me for more then the hour nor will she take more. She tells me she has such a good time she feels guilty taking the money but works for an agency. She has bought me watches and cologne without me asking.
I think she really likes me i am not sure because of the business. I just need someone to say trust her and i am on my way.
What should i do? I think i know but i need a kick....

 

[Manji]

Canucklehead
Go for it. If you dont want to jump right in; just take small steps.
There is no need to rush into anything.
Relationships are all about heading into the unknown whether it is with an SP or a civilian. If you feel good about her and the situation then there should be no reason why you should not do it.
Life is too short.

What is that saying;
Better to have loved and lost then to never have loved at all
(something like that, sorry)

 

[domlover]

OH ya its possible

A few months ago I came out of a relationship that started very quickly into a relationship with an Italian women whom was an escort. This wonderful women had the exact passion in life that I was looking for along with the open mind I demand. Life is about experiences, and to hold anyone back from there goals and desires is nothing but a waste.

I have had to move back from the US for family reasons, and now looking to continue on my journey. If you find a women with whom you are attracted to with mind body and soul who cares what she does for a living.....life is way too short to worry or miss out on anything......