Ever fall in love with an sp?

[wet and waiting]

Love is never guaranteed

You can never be assured that you won't get hurt. But you should be assured of some fun, companionship, and wonderful memories along the way.

I have met men with whom I knew I was in danger of crossing the line and ended the professional relationship myself. I left the ball in the open court so to speak as to whether anything further developed or not. I think that suggestion is marvelous. Start treating her to dinner and flowers rather than the cash and see how she responds. Conversely, if your girl calls and invites you over just because she misses you, consider it fair to assume you are on new territory.

 

[Bigguy]

I fell for my favourite sp who I saw exclusively for over a year. I never completely expressed my feelings for her not wanting to "spook" her. At times I thought I was "special" to her although in the end it was very clear that I was not.
I think there is a fine line that you walk if you decide to have an ongoing relationship with an sp. The more often you see her and share these intimate encounters the greater the possibility of a personal bond forming. This doesn't mean that you are going to leave your wife or that she is going to quit the business - it just means that you have a relationship going that as casual as it may be, there is definitely an emotional attachment.
Eventually these relationships end and usually someone gets hurt. Is it better to enjoy the benefits of a relationship that does reach some kind of emotional level or is it better to simply remain totally detached and enjoy the sex for the sex????

 

[wet and waiting]

Are all the great ones taken?

That was a wonderful posting Normal. But as you stated that it hurt to think of what she did for a living, sometimes it also hurts us to know that no matter how close we become with our guy, he is still going home to his wife's arms. Yes it definitely is a slippery slope, but what is the purpose of life if you don't live it? I gain so much in terms of emotional, intellectual and physical stimulation from my men. Do I wish I could have stability as well someday? Sure, don't we all dream of finding our companion to grow old with? But as long as I am enjoying the journey, I wouldn't change a thing for myself or any of you.

 

[CyberGoth]

nope, not thus far.

I'm already in love with at least one person, [and my job], and I love my friends.

have yet to fall in love with an sp.

 

[train]

Does anyone else see the irony in this thread .

Outside of the 'hobby' men are quite frequently portrayed as the 'cads' . Their main concern being to get laid , often at the expense of their parntners feelings....never phoning back , moving on to the next conquest . They have a very easy time seperating sex and love .There are 2 C words - the worst of which is commitment .

Women ....not wanting to commit to a physical relationship until there is at least the chance of love, sex and love intertwined.....always wary of motives having been hurt or having a friend that has just been devastated .

In the hobby it's the men that every so often find themselves confusing two powerful emotions while the ladies maintain the single mindedness of the encounter.

 

[shack]

There have been some great posts in this thread, as there usually are whenever this topic pops up again. I suspect it's a fairly common occurrance, this falling in love thing, judging by the number of responses it invariably gets.

I've been fortunate enough that any time I may have started to become more attached than I should let myself get, it has been with a lady who has been open and honest with me about the possibilities of a relationship being slim, even though there were some mutual feelings. I suspect that I could have been taken for extra $$$ with the wrong woman. Well, at least I pick the nice ones.

I wouldn't categorize SP's as "cold-hearted bitches", although there are some. However, I would say that generally speaking they are less vulnerable than the client. I think it's just that because this is their business, and they are the professionals (no pun intended) they, most likely, look at it more objectively than we, as clients, do. They are seeing way more people than we are and so it is easier to develop that detachment or separation of business and personal, which will also help her stay in the business longer, if that's what she wants. I think it's just a bi-product of the work.

 

[homonger]

Re: Re: Ever fall in love with an sp?

All the time, for about 1 full or 1/2hr, depending on the lenght of the appointment. Maybe for an hour after that.

I think, in the midst of all the sincerity and sharing of feelings in this post, that kwong's funny response here has gotten lost. I agree with him, I love every sp I see.

 

[comealot]

This is comealot again. Never thought that there would be so many replies about my original post! I just chose to spill my guts somewhere. Thank you everyone for being so supportive. Believe it or not, it has helped. Being divorced, self sufficient, totally independent and fairly good looking, I thought I had the world by the balls! Whoops! It took a beautiful sp to bring me to my knees. I just wanted to fall in love again, and I did. Finding a mate is not easy. I chose to call sp's because they would fill my desires at any given moment. Not a bad thing! Being in search of a mate maybe made this more complicated than I had anticipated. It just happened. I was not looking for romance with this lady, just a good time. The first time with her was booked for 1 hour. I stayed for 7 hours per her request. I only payed for 1 hour. That is what makes this whole thing so bizzare. Why? I guess I will never figure it out. Sorry for rambling on. Again, thanks for your support. Still single and want to fall in love.

 

[Kizzy]

Comealot
Hang in there it happens, when you least expect it. I don't think matters what the person does for a living. The most important thing is honesty and a true sense humour. If you both have this then you have something to build on. Being Single is a good start. Then get ready to be crazy .