Ethics question

[mikefromtoronto]

So, you are standing smoking outside a University library (you work at this university and are there several days a week). You see a drop dead (and I mean drop dead) gorgeous young woman standing there as well. While smoking, her cell rings and she moves off to answer it. She is still well within earshot and you hear her say things like "incalls are located downtown" and "$150 for the half hour."

You'd love to make an appointment with her (assumming she is not actually a high priced psychiatrist). My question is, is it ethical to approach her? I'm thinking it would betray an utter lack of class on my part to do so and would be a gross intrusion on her privacy but she seems to be a regular at this library, I see her there frequently and she is an amazing looker.

Discuss (maybe I'll put this on my summer class's exam).

 

[Shallow Throat]

Go for it.
You'll be more embarassed if you're wrong.
If you're right, I'm sure she won't mind, as long as it stays confidential.

 

[MrEasy]

Casually approach her for a chat, maybe she's a fellow smoker, see if you have similar interests. Perhaps ask for her phone number.

Wait 48 hrs. Call the number, make an appointment. Show up and see who's more surprised.

Might not be 100% ethical, but this way there is no need to blow her cover in public (no pun).

Only possible problem that comes to mind is if she asks where you got her number....

 

[H4P]

I'm with Shallow...definitely go for it.

I often wonder about other women I see and what they might do and for how much.....kind of an "indecent proposal" fantasy thing I guess.

That hot new receptionist that just started last week...no doubt she's not making huge dollars....would she be interested in a few extra shopping dollars? The sexy neighbour that's always sunning herself in plain view....what's a few $$$'s and some daty between neighbours? The red-haired chick with the sly smile in the toyota stuck beside me in traffic....perhaps she'd be interested in having this month's car payment being taken care of.

Just some ramblings from a horny old hobbyist.

later,
h4p

 

[shack]

I recall from reading a similar post a while ago (a woman seen around an apartment building or something like that), a discrete tactic would be to approach the lady and ask her for her business card. If she is an SP she'll know what you're talking about and give you her # if she is so inclined. If she's not an SP, she won't know what the hell you're talking about and at worst may think you're weird, but at least you didn't say anything that would make her think that you thought she was an escort when she wasn't, which could be quite embarrassing.

 

[zoickss]

Advise I heard from an SP in this case (about the above )- is a good way is to ask if she has a business card

 

[rdhaired_vixen]

agreed

I agree with lyla actually, if she was so worried about her reputation and discreetness then she wouldnt have answered, or told them to call back at a more convenient time.. any number of things, but choose your wording carefully

 

[maverick]

So, you are standing smoking outside a University library (you work at this university and are there several days a week)....

hmmm... why don't you ask her out on a normal date???

if something happens, then it happens...

 

[Prophet]

There is a much more important ethical consideration.

Once you get that number... you better share it and a review with all your friends at TERB

Thanks in advance...

 

[Jenn_angel]

Memories...

Wow...

All I can really say is this... I have seen people and attended class with them... Or even their classes...

They knew well enough who I was as I show my face...

If you really want an appointment... Then ask for her number... And book... That way you save face and if it is not her profession... Take her for a drink... Oh and the business card thing was a good idea as well...

 

[mikefromtoronto]

Good advice. She's usually there the same day so I'm gonna think about how best to do this. As to asking her out, well, there is probably a 20 year age difference but, if I'm smooth about it, all I will get is a derisive laugh out of her at some old guy's antics.

I do though have to be careful. On the really off chance I misheard her (unlikely but you never know), all I need is a student newspaper headline to read: "Complaint lodged against (as yet untenured) Professor for soliciting at Library"

 

[Romeo]

Ethical Question Part 2

You are suing someone in small claims for destruction of property. You happen to have access to a buddies email and discover that the malice against you is racially motivated. The emails are full of racial slurs. Would you use this information in any way? How could you best disrupt the defence in court without exposing your own shady conduct.

Of course this doesn't involve me. A friend was asking.