Ending it with a regular

[rhuarc29]

Honestly, I don't think I've ever just ghosted a regular. Usually it's a gradual decline in visits. When she comments, I say I'm busy with other stuff...which is true. I tend to hobby a lot for a period of time, then very little (usually when dating a civvie), then back to hobbying a lot, and so on.

 

[Jasmine Raine]

Disagree with the "lowest of the low part", perhaps you meant something else? Who do you think you are then if you frequent these ladies, a big shot? But you got the second part right it's all business for the ladies, need to understand and respect that.

Welcome to our world. Thankfully this is why many of us screen and there are more like you then him.

 

[Jasmine Raine]

Truth #2. Those (including me) who are paying these escorts are not any better. You could say some are even lower than escorts since it is the only way for them to get sex.

That is not true. Both sides of the coin are just people trying to get by the best they can and hopefully enjoy the ride along the way. Neither side is better or worse then other.

 

[kstanb]

Just tell her you can't see her anymore, that you want to date other, or save money, or whatever
this is a business, she will understand

 

[Luton]

Welcome to our world. Thankfully this is why many of us screen and there are more like you then him.

Amen. I'm often embarrassed by some of the misogynist backwards thinking of some of the males on this board. You just have to shake your head.

 

[Luton]

Better than being naive. You think all escorts are like Jessica Rain? You don't think some of them talk behind you, call you a loser, pig etc.?

Lol. I have been hobbying for quite a while. You really don't know what you are talking about. I am still friends with a few sps that have retired. The ones who might have been inclined to describe me as a loser or a pig have been easy to pick out and to drop. The regulars I see I do know quite a bit about them personally and some will come to me for things they know are in my area of expertise. What you fail to see are that a lot of them are just people. If I was an sp your attitude is such that I would not want to have anything to do with you.

 

[Parker@TDL]

Next, you are going to tell us that many little girls dream of becoming escorts, strippers, etc. when they grow up.

Lol I did!! I dreamt of being a stripper from a very young age but escorting ends up being more my speed

 

[Parker@TDL]

If you think it's right to tell her then go ahead. I personally don't think you owe her anything especially if she's taking you for granted and not delivering the same level of service as your early sessions. If you want, just keep it simple and text her that you've enjoyed your time with her but you will no longer be seeing her and you wish her well. I don't think you should have to give an explanation as to why you won't be seeing her. Giving her the courtesy of letting her know you won't be around anymore is enough. If you want to get into a more in-depth conversation then go ahead!! Whatever will leave you with a good feeling about ending your visits with her

 

[whph62]

I have told my mechanic that I was moving on to another after 12 years, is it the same thing? Hmmm, It depends on how much you enjoy your cars too! Mom always taught me to be a gentleman and well in my mind, that means be honest, it is time to move on. I did it with my mechanic. Heck I told my sister I was finding another CPA not too long ago. Well that is a bit different, family get togethers and all. But I do not see what the big deal is. I would want someone to tell me and not simply dissappear. So,I am a fan of treating others as you would expect to be treated. Just me.

 

[Nad Smith]

I expect a lot of us men on here have left a marriage....and maybe with less drama then stop seeing our "regular".....I stay loyal to my regular because she makes me happy..the best 40 minutes of a week.....but sometimes other factors cause me or them to move on......I recently stopped seeing a great regular because of geography and I tried Pure when it opened close by.....I did send an e-mail.

Ironically, I also changed doctors last year because my former doctor was not close by, and I found a new young doctor close by. I picked up my records and thanked the "old" doctor for many years of great care. Same with my mpa

 

[Just_Instead]

I support this plan of action! A long-time bond is a long-time bond whether it be with a co-worker, a peer or an sp. It can be argued that the chemistry with an sp is driven by monetary incentives but money aside, there can still a unique chemistry of deep mutual understanding. This is a highly subjective opinion based on personal experiences but it's still important to not "ghost" and explain yourself to show respect and human decency.

I agree with Marissa, with regulars you do create a bond, which at times disappears from either the client side or the provider. I always received good feedback when I told the regulars that I ended it, I was always honest on the reason and the providers did appreciate the honesty. In all cases they do not expect that it was needed. That is why this works, no drama at the end. Most of us go in with our eyes open. It is much harder for the provider to end it, we have it easy.

 

[rhuarc29]

Just stop and find a new women to see, these women are the lowest of the low what do you think that they really give a shit?

WTF?

Truth #2. Those (including me) who are paying these escorts are not any better. You could say some are even lower than escorts since it is the only way for them to get sex.

Equally WTF?

That is not true. Both sides of the coin are just people trying to get by the best they can and hopefully enjoy the ride along the way. Neither side is better or worse then other.

Thank you for stating what should have been obvious to these two!

 

[roger20]

I've seen a few of posts from long-time members stating that they've had long or multi-year relationships with SPs. Curious if you guys just move on/stop booking appointments or have one final swan song and say goodbye. I'm about to it end with a regular. Not sure which is the best route to take.

Just stop going! I'm sure she'll manage just fine without your regular money so don't lose any sleep about it... move on