I've seen a few of posts from long-time members stating that they've had long or multi-year relationships with SPs. Curious if you guys just move on/stop booking appointments or have one final swan song and say goodbye. I'm about to it end with a regular. Not sure which is the best route to take.
Ending it with a regular
- Thread starter murraywilson
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Depends why you want to stop, if you're bored I would just walk away. Sometimes better say nothing than to be honest. She probably won't even notice.
I'm pretty sure she'd notice. There are a few reasons. The main one is a feeling of insufficient appreciation and effort. It's a common reason in the business world, particularly among professional service firms. I've had to coach junior staff that regularly showing "love" to clients is key to building long-term relationships.
Sometimes they can take you for granted, they figure they have you hooked, they don't make too much of an effort. Even if she notices, who cares its a business relation, I'm sure if you run out of money she won't give you freebies.
I am sure the same applies to a high end restaurant that you may have gone to on a weekly basis. If you can’t afford to pay I wonder if they would let you keep on eating there for free. Probably not. The SP business is not that much different when it comes to money. Remember the movie Trading Places with Dan Akroyd and Eddie Murphy. When Akroyds character hit rock bottom his friends tested him like dirt. But who treated him well, Jamie Lee Curtis’ Hooker character
Maybe you should "coach" her to love you and show more "appreciation and affection".can't imagine she would take offense.Not like she would think that it sounds like it's patronizing or irritating.
It takes courage to tell someone you're not going back, and tell her why. The easiest is to just to walk away. Then she's trying to figure out why you never came back. If you told her it's because you don't have the cash, she's not going to start giving you freebies. But at least, she'll understand and not start self-guessing herself about what may have gone wrong, and if she was that bad or that there's something wrong with her. It's still a professional relationship. But imagine, you're switching lawyers mid-case, or break all contact with your dentist. Some of the latter may not care, or even notice that you're gone. Others might wonder why their client never came back, as though their professional competence was in question. Plus, just because it's a professional relationship doesn't mean there's not some sort of personal bond and loyalty, at least with one person. When you meet your SP, does she seem happy to see you? Are you happy to see her? There's a bond right there.
Case by case issue.
Since the reason you are leaving is that her service has dropped i would just stop calling.
More often than not they disappear first so i rarely get a chance for a good bye.
Which is fine.
Since the reason you are leaving is that her service has dropped i would just stop calling.
More often than not they disappear first so i rarely get a chance for a good bye.
Which is fine.
Many women have stopped with the regulars for many of the same reasons. Usually the regular is not meeting their agreed arrangement. Many will see a regular twice a week or twice a month, do OTC things or extend time. Then time keeps getting extended but actual visits start getting shorter. They go from weekly to bi weekly, cause this came up or that came up. Clients figure the escort is use to their money so won't say no to a booking.
Both sides learn quick when taking advantage of the other.
Both sides learn quick when taking advantage of the other.
If its a multi year regular, then I've always had a good talking/texting relationship with her, which means she always knows what's going on in my life to some extent. I've had bad business years, divorce settlements, etc where she's even expected the long dinner dates and such would slow down.
When I've simply been bored of the sex, I've simply booked as usual, paid as usual but instead of getting right into it, I've sat her down and explained what was running through my mind. It has resulting in a "yeah, me too" from her. It's also resulted in a more in depth discussion on what she needed or I needed in bed or out of bed that turned out great in the long run.
If you have a regular, I think ghosting should never be an option. I did that exactly once in my life with my first regular that I got bored with. I ran into her at the bar and later that night I got a text saying that she thought I had died or something but she was happy to know I was doing ok. It wasn't a good feeling to know I made someone feel that way because I was callous about my actions.
Professional services are always different. I would ghost my dentist in a heartbeat. I wouldn't ghost my lawyer but I wouldn't necessarily have a heart to heart talk with him why I'm not using him anymore and I'd keep him on my xmas card list. I would have a formal meeting to end a relationship with a long term vendor or contractor at work. I think a good regular SP/Client relationship deserves a personal chat since you've been intimate a lot and it affects someone's forecasted income.
When I've simply been bored of the sex, I've simply booked as usual, paid as usual but instead of getting right into it, I've sat her down and explained what was running through my mind. It has resulting in a "yeah, me too" from her. It's also resulted in a more in depth discussion on what she needed or I needed in bed or out of bed that turned out great in the long run.
If you have a regular, I think ghosting should never be an option. I did that exactly once in my life with my first regular that I got bored with. I ran into her at the bar and later that night I got a text saying that she thought I had died or something but she was happy to know I was doing ok. It wasn't a good feeling to know I made someone feel that way because I was callous about my actions.
Professional services are always different. I would ghost my dentist in a heartbeat. I wouldn't ghost my lawyer but I wouldn't necessarily have a heart to heart talk with him why I'm not using him anymore and I'd keep him on my xmas card list. I would have a formal meeting to end a relationship with a long term vendor or contractor at work. I think a good regular SP/Client relationship deserves a personal chat since you've been intimate a lot and it affects someone's forecasted income.
Just stop and find a new women to see, these women are the lowest of the low what do you think that they really give a shit ? All these women and I say that with a grain of salt want is your money pal get on with it ! As posted above do you think if you were in trouble they would do anything to help you ?. Use them to drop a load on amd than leave that’s what they are good for
Oh...you smooth talker you...lol.
Gotta say swing and a miss on the lowest of low comment. Most of the ladies I've met in this biz are doing it as an expression of autonomy, not desperation...interesting and smart too.
No, that was MY dream...Lol. Seriously though, you gotta find the right ladies lads. Demeaning them just doesnt help, nor is it accurate as to why many ladies enter the industry. Ask the ladies suffering through their six figure incomes how awful it is.
Disagree with the "lowest of the low part", perhaps you meant something else? Who do you think you are then if you frequent these ladies, a big shot? But you got the second part right it's all business for the ladies, need to understand and respect that.
