Emotions - 1 step further - getting duped
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I had a really good 2 year run with an SP. We shared everything also, and while I was not paying for "sessions" I paid for most everthing else... Things were really good I thought until the money slowed.. Then Wham... No longer available.... tooo busy.... Not saying you are like this, just seemed appropriate for this thread.
I agree that that would be the client's initial intent, but some manage to find something more. Alexxis has managed to find a mutually enjoyable relationship with a man whose original intent was limited. That possibility always exists. Isn't that what this thread is all about? Some women exploit this potential, and some men find themself "duped". Alexxis has taken a risk. It remains to be seen whether or no she is being "duped".
"Get the money. If you can't do anything else, at least get the money. If you can get the money and still make sure the guy has such a good time that he can't wait to come back, go for that too. Lastly, if you can get the money and make sure he wants to come back, if you can still manage to really enjoy yourself, then go for it!" - Joyful
This quote above is not fundamentally wrong, but it does express an attitude which could be negative. Will she persue money at the expense of ethics, will she draw the line and stop a man if she finds this man is getting too emotionally close, or will she take his money and run? Is Joyful one of those women who exploits men?
"Get the money. If you can't do anything else, at least get the money. If you can get the money and still make sure the guy has such a good time that he can't wait to come back, go for that too. Lastly, if you can get the money and make sure he wants to come back, if you can still manage to really enjoy yourself, then go for it!" - Joyful
This quote above is not fundamentally wrong, but it does express an attitude which could be negative. Will she persue money at the expense of ethics, will she draw the line and stop a man if she finds this man is getting too emotionally close, or will she take his money and run? Is Joyful one of those women who exploits men?
jst to clear up a few things - besides the ONE TIME he paid me, this "relationship" has had nothing to do with money.
I even buy dinner sometimes!
and I might have made him spend about $10 at blockbuster one time...
point is this - NOT EVERYONE IS OUT TO "DUPE" PEOPLE AND MAKE A BUCK EVERY SINGLE WAKING MOMENT.
sure, my work is important to me, but this fun i'm havin on the side is a nice way to kick back and relax, enjoy the good things in life. i can't be in "SP miode" 24/7...If 2 months from now, this guy is no longer in my life, so be it, i will have been fun while it lasted. If he's still around 2 years from now, maybe he would have the chance to clean up some puke.
I even buy dinner sometimes!
and I might have made him spend about $10 at blockbuster one time...
point is this - NOT EVERYONE IS OUT TO "DUPE" PEOPLE AND MAKE A BUCK EVERY SINGLE WAKING MOMENT.
sure, my work is important to me, but this fun i'm havin on the side is a nice way to kick back and relax, enjoy the good things in life. i can't be in "SP miode" 24/7...If 2 months from now, this guy is no longer in my life, so be it, i will have been fun while it lasted. If he's still around 2 years from now, maybe he would have the chance to clean up some puke.
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Now THIS I can relate to!!! *lol*alexxxis said:
B4 anyone gets the wrong idea ...no, Alexxxxis has not ever bought me dinner ... yet!
That's right -- I don't exploit anybody. I hang out a shingle, offer my services and spell out in black and white what it costs (... if not necessarily what it entails ).
I can make all kinds of claims about the quality of service I provide, but they don't mean anything -- probably what speaks the best for me is the fact that I have an unusually large amount of repeat business, and I'm still getting plenty of new business, despite the fact that I'm coming up on 50 (... next month -- whooppeee!!!!)
I'm not trying to pass judgment either, but perhaps I have the upper hand here with respect to experience. As I've said before, I HAVE seen it work out between an SP and a customer -- but it's very, very rare. More often than not, when all is said and done, it turns out that it would have been better for all if things had been kept on a commercial basis. For that reason, my advice to an escort who enjoys the company of a client would be to treat him like gold so he comes back often, and enjoy it when he does -- but don't take a chance on screwing it up by trying to take it to a different level.
And I was trying to make the point to the one lady that my relationship with my husband of a quarter century is not the equivalent of a "customer who doesn't pay" situation. It's a lot more complicated than that. In other words, just because I'm not charging my husband on the clock wouldn't justify my not charging any customer -- unless, of course, that customer would like to join my household and become one of my husbands, with all the 24/7/52/infinity commitment and responsibilities therein. (...and being a matrilinealist, I'd have no problems with having more than one husband, except for the fact that it's hard enough to find one good man to take up that role, let alone more than one!) I offer my husband so much more than a good time, and expect so much more from him, as well.
But customers? Here's the deal: if it's good, I enjoy it -- I'd be crazy not too, of course! -- but if it's not, then I try to do the best job I can to make sure the customer has a terrific time. How exactly is that unethical? That's what I'm being paid to do, no? It's just an extra bonus if I can really enjoy it too.
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).I can make all kinds of claims about the quality of service I provide, but they don't mean anything -- probably what speaks the best for me is the fact that I have an unusually large amount of repeat business, and I'm still getting plenty of new business, despite the fact that I'm coming up on 50 (... next month -- whooppeee!!!!)
I'm not trying to pass judgment either, but perhaps I have the upper hand here with respect to experience. As I've said before, I HAVE seen it work out between an SP and a customer -- but it's very, very rare. More often than not, when all is said and done, it turns out that it would have been better for all if things had been kept on a commercial basis. For that reason, my advice to an escort who enjoys the company of a client would be to treat him like gold so he comes back often, and enjoy it when he does -- but don't take a chance on screwing it up by trying to take it to a different level.
And I was trying to make the point to the one lady that my relationship with my husband of a quarter century is not the equivalent of a "customer who doesn't pay" situation. It's a lot more complicated than that. In other words, just because I'm not charging my husband on the clock wouldn't justify my not charging any customer -- unless, of course, that customer would like to join my household and become one of my husbands, with all the 24/7/52/infinity commitment and responsibilities therein. (...and being a matrilinealist, I'd have no problems with having more than one husband, except for the fact that it's hard enough to find one good man to take up that role, let alone more than one!) I offer my husband so much more than a good time, and expect so much more from him, as well.
But customers? Here's the deal: if it's good, I enjoy it -- I'd be crazy not too, of course! -- but if it's not, then I try to do the best job I can to make sure the customer has a terrific time. How exactly is that unethical? That's what I'm being paid to do, no? It's just an extra bonus if I can really enjoy it too.
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