Coming from an SP… Sometimes what happens is we realize a client gets too attached. In my recent months i had a client who saw me several times a week. He never tipped, always over stayed his welcome (would sometimes push an hour when he booked 30minutes), would book me at the end of my shift so he could "hang out" and would frequently ask me to see him outside of my agency yet was shocked when I told him my "private" rate and said "oh I would have to pay…?" I finally had to stop seeing him because not only was he disrespectful of my time he also never gave up on complimenting me (it was excessive) and frequently told me he was "becoming obsessed with me" and "couldn't stop thinking about me" and "realized it was getting crazy how strongly he felt about me". You have to remember as clients that when we leave the "office" we start our own lives. Yes we like some clients but you will always be "just a client". So if a girl stops seeing you (this is assuming you're not a total douchebag) maybe you came on too strong and the mental energy required to deal with you wasn't worth the paper at the end of the appointment.
Very interesting. Out of curiosity how did you handle that? Did you let him know?
I often wonder about situations like that...
I remember once a while back I got pm after pm of over the top compliments, after being contacted out of the blue, mind you. I was then given email, "real name", cell phone (all unsolicited) and TOLD to book her at the end of her shift so she wouldn't have to rush me out and we could relax.
The picture being painted was crystal clear: this girl liked me.
Thing is, I knew she was a bit of a liar and made up ridiculous stories all the time, but they were harmless so I was happy to play along and indulge. The problem is when you know someone is disingenuous about everything you start to wonder if you're part of "everything". That resulted in a major step back and a lengthy hiatus. To my discredit I didn't let her know I just sort of...went away.
I'm sure you didn't, but I think sometimes SPs contribute to situations like the one you've described through...aggressive promotion. I get the need to secure and maintain a client base, but sometimes it really is a case of laying it on too thick.
I guess the moral of the story is that things like that go both ways, so I'm sure a lot of us, client and sp alike, understand how that whole thing goes and can relate.