Do you give the ring back ?

[wolfwolf]

What to do with the ring after you get the ring back

Spanglerdoo, just in case you haven't seen this story out from New Zealand, a guy figured out a way to dispose of the ring he received back from his fiance. Of course your circumstances are different and I'm not saying you should follow suit. Here it is and I apologize if someone has already posted it.

http://ca.news.yahoo.com/s/reuters/090603/odds/odd_us_ring_1

 

[tboy]

LOL that's funny wolf! A fun idea though.

 

[smylee52]

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The fact that you have posted the question leads me to believe you are looking for justification to keep the ring . I'm betting the boyfriend is beat.

Give it back because your intregrity should have a higher value than a piece of jewelery .


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[Dissey23]

This has probably been said about a billion times but IMHO

- if you have any respect for this guy, or
- if you actually think of him as any kind of friend, or
- don't wanna be known as a mega-bitch,

give the ring back!

And if he tells you to keep it, there's really only one truth to his suggestion - he wants you to keep it so you can: 1) wear it so no other guys will come around and 2) constantly think - "what if" and actually (maybe) marry him

 

[David Beckham 23]

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The fact that you have posted the question leads me to believe you are looking for justification to keep the ring . I'm betting the boyfriend is beat.


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Thought the same thing.

 

[Dissey23]

I 100% agree with smylee52 and whoever said the following:

You break off the engagement - you give the ring back
He breaks off the engagement - you keep the ring

It's simple. I'm not even sure how this is even a question in anyone's mind? I'm not trying to pick a fight with Spanglerdoo, but if all the women around you are saying to keep the ring - all I have to say is: wow.

 

[comic]

too funny

I got my ring back , then went to the local jewler and he gave me back 1/2 what i paid.. that's one of his policies. We took the $1500 and went to the local bike shop. I said" What bike do you like?" She picked one out and i told her to ride it home.

 

[onthebottom]

save the drama fo your mama hunter
what a way to show me how much you miss me lmao




Obviously i want to do the right thing cause i do still care for him i'm not sure if we are soulmates though

All the woman i ask say keep it lol
and all you men say give it back thus the reason i needed a mans point of view .So now i dunno what to do cause i have been seeing him off and on for 3 years .

Give it back, only a greedy bitch would keep it.

OTB

 

[Timbit]

Gee, I wonder if she still isn't quite sure how everyone feels here. Douchebag is a little strong, but even questionning whether or not to return the ring, to me, shows exactly what kind of person she really is - a money grubber. Pathetic.

And then to play it off by saying her female friends all say, "keep it". Well, that just shows she hangs with a bunch of money grubbers.

Legally, morally, ethically, she should return the ring (and not ask if he wants it back - return it). Where's the question?

Timbit

 

[pencilneckgeek2]

If my original post to this thread isn't understood by the O.P., maybe this will help her decide.


Let's say it's your brother in this situation with his fiance.

Would you think she should give the ring back or not?

 

[rafterman]

Gee, I wonder if she still isn't quite sure how everyone feels here. Douchebag is a little strong, Timbit

Ha ha ha

I stand by my post!

What's the difference between a money grubber and douchebag?

Ha ha ha I not asking that ironically, seriously.

 

[athena_antonelli]

Ok guys ,heres the dilema

I received an engagement ring (even though i said it would take at least 2 years to go through with it ) So its only been 2 months now and i'm starting to think we are better off as friends .So should i keep the ring or give it back ? it is very expensive .. so im kinda stuck in the middle of temptation

Under the common law, at least in Ontario, when an engagement ring is given before the engagement is broken off, the rule is that whoever ends the engagement forfeits the ring.

In other words, if a boyfriend decides that he doesn't want to get married after giving his girlfriend a ring, it's hers to keep. But if she decides to end the engagement after accepting the ring, she has to return it to her boyfriend.

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[rafterman]

Under the common law, at least in Ontario, when an engagement ring is given before the engagement is broken off, the rule is that whoever ends the engagement forfeits the ring.

In other words, if your boyfriend decides that he doesn't want to get married after giving you a ring, it's yours to keep. But if you decide to end the engagement after accepting the ring, you have to return it to your boyfriend.

Hey Spangler if you still really want to keep the ring then here's what you have to do, you have to make him break up with you .

 

[spitze]

Give it back that way the guy can sell in on craiglist and spend the proceeds on some SP's...thanks !

 

[Spanglerdoo]

Give it back that way the guy can sell in on craiglist and spend the proceeds on some SP's...thanks !

lmao you guys are too much !!


Ok so i sat him down and told him the truth

he wouldn't take the ring back cause he was so upset

so i took it off without him knowing and placed it on the nitestand


So yeah i gave it back even though i didn't have too


its amazing that when i tell you honestly whats going on i get

called a douchbag .Its also amazing that female friends i know

think i'm stupid for giving it back !!At least i was honest

whether you liked my way of handling it or not .

 

[BallzDeep]

I'm sure your break up will be the talk of the trailor park.

 

[Don]

Glad to hear you gave it back. It's for the best. It also sends a message that you two are through. Hanging on to the ring gives him some (false) hope that there is still some connection between you two and that you could one day come back to him. And that can slowly eat away at him. I speak from experience on that one (I wasn't engaged but was in a close relationship).

 

[tboy]

lmao you guys are too much !!


Ok so i sat him down and told him the truth

he wouldn't take the ring back cause he was so upset

so i took it off without him knowing and placed it on the nitestand


So yeah i gave it back even though i didn't have too


its amazing that when i tell you honestly whats going on i get

called a douchbag .Its also amazing that female friends i know

think i'm stupid for giving it back !!At least i was honest

whether you liked my way of handling it or not .

Sorry dear, you DID "have to". It was the right thing to do.

As for your friends thinking your "stupid" for giving it back, that tells you a LOT about the quality of your friends. If you sit and think about it for a second, you'll know what I mean.

Maybe putting it this way might give you a better idea of what I mean:

A person hires you to do a job. They pay you in advance, $5000.00. You don't do the job. Do you keep the money?

 

[Aardvark154]

I actually think contract law comes into place. (or maybe that's in the U.S)

The engagement ring is part of a verbal commitment/contract to go forward and enter into an actual marriage commitment/contract. Ending the commitment/ya same thing here as last two, means not going forward and therefore not having right to the ring.

Any lawyers here know if this in fact is true in Canada?

Either way, go with what pedal plower (cycleguy) said. Seems the best honest and straight forward course of action.

In Australia a couple of years ago the District Court of New South Wales held that an engagement ring was held as a bailment until the wedding.

So basicly both moraly, ethicly and legaly if you break the engagement you should return the ring.

Further, believe me as much as it may hurt you, him or both of you. If you have cold feet, it will hurt far more after you are married.

 

[Aardvark154]

lso i took it off without him knowing and placed it on the nitestand


So yeah i gave it back even though i didn't have too.

I won't get into whether or not you "had too" I will merely say that you did the right thing and in the long run you will be better able to look yourself in the mirror for having done so.